In Parashat Achrei Mot-Kedoshim, the directive to "be holy because I, the Lord your God, am holy" is presented in the context of both ritual commandments and ethical behavior; how do we reconcile and live out this profound call to holiness in a modern world filled with complex moral challenges and diverse personal identities?
Asked on April 23, 2026
Answer
Listen, the question about holiness in Parashat Achrei Mot-Kedoshim is fundamental to our entire Torah. When HaKadosh Baruch Hu says "Kedoshim Tihyu Ki Kadosh Ani" - you shall be holy because I am holy - this is not a suggestion, it's a commandment. It's one of the 613 mitzvot, and it's an obligation for every single Jew. Let me tell you exactly what holiness means according to our sages. Rashi explains that holiness pertains specifically to how we treat intimacy and morality. The Ramban goes further and teaches us that being holy is not just about avoiding what is forbidden - staying away from forbidden sexual relations, forbidden foods, and so on. Rather, holiness requires us to sanctify ourselves even with the things that are permitted to us. You can't be like a filthy pig that just eats because the food is kosher, or like a rooster that mates just because your wife is next to you. Holiness is much more than just doing what's allowed and forsaking what's forbidden. Now, you're asking about modern moral challenges and diverse personal identities. Here's the truth that you need to understand: the Torah is eternal. The Torah says you have to be careful to perform all of the decrees, not just the ones you feel like doing. In today's world, people want to modernize the Torah, cut off different mitzvot whether they're rabbinical or biblical, like modesty. But apparently they forgot that the Torah is eternal. The so-called complex moral challenges of today are nothing new. Society has always been society. There is no such thing as a test that the generation has that it cannot handle. If Hashem gave it to you, that means He already gave you the tools to handle it. He provides the cure before the ailment. As for diverse personal identities, let me be crystal clear: we don't follow politically correct answers that deviate from Orthodox Jewish teachings. Homosexuality, for example, is strictly prohibited in our Torah. In Parashat Kedoshim, right before HaKadosh Baruch Hu tells us the forbidden sexual relations, He says "Sanctify yourselves and be holy, for I am holy." The generation of Noach was destroyed because they were homosexuals, because they not only accepted the immorality in the world but actually rationalized and legalized it, similar to how people are doing it today. When HaKadosh Baruch Hu says you shall be holy, He's telling us that holiness begins with the way we express our sensuality, with the way we protect our eyes, with the way we protect our speech, with the way we protect our mind, with what we admire, with what we look up to. If you admire filthy, disgusting people, that's who you will become and that's who your kids will become. If you admire the tzaddikim, that's who you can become. So how do we live this out practically? First, you eliminate the famous sins, the famous abominations that everybody knows about. Before you can even consider holiness, you must eliminate promiscuity, wasting seed, LGBTQ behaviors, adultery, incest - all these filthy, disgusting things. Once you've eliminated that, now you can start acquiring holiness. But so long as you're engaging in these things, holiness and you are worlds apart. Second, holiness is an all-encompassing lifestyle. It's not something you show people with a beard or a hat or modest dress. Those are good steps, but there's a whole lot more to holiness. If you're not pure and holy during your day, you're certainly not going to be during your night. If you're not pure and holy during your everyday life, you're not going to achieve holiness when you're behind closed doors. Third, you emulate Hashem's behavior. He is compassionate, you be compassionate. He is humble, you be humble. He is holy, you be holy. Rabbi Avigdor Miller teaches us that Hashem is giving you instructions: you want to be good, be like Me. You want to go to Gan Eden, be like Me. Your middot should replicate His. The foundation of holiness for Am Yisrael starts with how we treat intimacy. If we're intimate like animals, then we're not being Jews, we're not being holy. A holy Jew does not look at their brit as a tool to serve themselves, but as a tool to serve Hashem. You have to sanctify yourself in the way you behave, in the way you eat, in the way you drink, in the places you go and don't go, the people you talk to and don't talk to. You can literally sanctify yourself in every aspect of your life. Listen, being different from the nations is the best thing you can do for yourself because you'll have a purpose that's beyond lust, beyond burgers, beyond money. You'll have a purpose, you'll have an eternity, you'll be holy. This is the completion of Parashat Achrei Mot-Kedoshim, preparing us to be holy, giving us the exact map of how we can attain holiness. May we all succeed in doing so.
