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If the Torah commands us "You shall be holy, for I, Hashem your God, am holy," yet God's holiness is infinite and utterly beyond us, what does it actually mean for a human being to emulate divine holiness in their daily life?

Asked on April 23, 2026

Answer

Look, this is one of the most fundamental questions in all of Torah. When HaKadosh Baruch Hu says in Parashat Kedoshim "Kedoshim Tihyu Ki Kadosh Ani" - "You shall be holy for I am holy" - He's not telling us we can ever reach His level of holiness. That's impossible. His holiness is infinite, above and beyond anything we could ever conceptualize. The Midrash makes this clear: when Hashem says "I am holy," He's emphasizing that His holiness is above our holiness. We can never be holy like Him, but we can do things to emulate His behavior. So what does it actually mean? It means we imitate Hashem's character traits, His middot. He is compassionate, you be compassionate. He is generous, you be generous. He is patient, you be patient. He is honest, you be honest. When you emulate His attributes in your actions, you're getting closer to Him. That's what holiness is - becoming more like Hashem in the way you conduct yourself. Now, Rashi teaches us that holiness mentioned throughout the Torah primarily refers to the issues of morality and intimacy between a man and his wife. The Ramban adds to this - it's not just about avoiding forbidden relations, but also about managing your consumption of what's permitted to you. Even though your wife is permitted to you, it doesn't mean you should act like a rooster. Even though kosher food is permitted, it doesn't mean you should eat like a pig. Holiness means having self-control and dignity even with permissible things. But holiness goes beyond just intimacy and eating. It encompasses everything - how you speak, how you conduct business, how you dress, what you look at, how you treat others, even how you behave in the bathroom. Every single action must be done with Hashem in mind. When you do business, you think: Is this honest according to Torah? When you speak, you ask: Are these words of Torah or lashon hara? This is what it means to be holy - to sanctify every moment of your life by connecting it to serving Hashem. The foundation of holiness starts with protecting yourself from immorality and immodesty. You cannot achieve holiness while consuming filth - watching inappropriate shows, looking at immodesty, speaking impurely, or admiring disgusting people from society. If you admire filthy people, that's who you'll become. If you admire tzaddikim, that's who you can become. It's that simple. Being holy means being modest in dress, speech, and behavior. It means learning Torah constantly because without Torah in your mind, you're never going to attain holiness. It means honoring your parents, keeping Shabbat properly, giving tzedakah, and fulfilling all the mitzvot - not just the ones that are convenient for you. Every mitzvah corresponds to a different part of your body and soul. The more you fulfill them with purity and intention, the holier you become. Listen carefully - holiness is not achieved overnight. It takes time, effort, and constant work on your character. You have to want to be holy first. You have to make a conscious decision that this is your goal. Then you work on it every single day, little by little. Even if you don't reach the ultimate level, everything will improve. Where you may not reach the stars, landing on the clouds is not so bad after all. The other option is remaining in the dirt and calling it life. The beautiful thing is that when you serve Hashem with holiness, when you sanctify yourself in all your actions, you produce more kedushah in the world. This affects you, your family, your community, and your entire generation. More blessing comes to the world, more health, more parnassah, more happiness. This is the power of one Jew living a life of true holiness according to Torah. So start today. Start with your mouth - speak only words of Torah, berachot, and truth. Start with your eyes - guard what you look at. Start with your actions - do everything for the sake of serving Hashem. This is how we become holy.