Hi Rabbi, I was in a long term relationship with a non-Jewish girl for almost 3 years during which I had committed countless sins. I still feel love for her, but of course would never want to be with her due to all the horrible sins that would entail. How do I get rid of that love one feels for the person they were with? Will it ever go away or is it permanent? It’s not that I’m thinking about her all day, but I feel that I lost part of myself even though I’ve fully accepted that she’s not meant for me and I need to (and greatly want to) find a Jewish wife. Some more context: I’ve gone through the recovery from the breakup, it’s been 6 months, I’ve been listening to your shiurim most days of the week. Also, we lived like a married couple during our relationship, so the end felt more like a divorce. I tried to make this as short as possible, but it’s still long. Sorry about that. Thank you for everything you do. Your countless shiurim are an enormous blessing. I pray that you bring many more people like me and different than me back to Hashem.

Asked on December 8, 2020