Anger Management Or Gehinom - MUSSAR Iggeret HaRAMBAN (6)

In Rabbi Yaron Reuven's lecture, he discusses the timeless wisdom found in the Iggeret HaRamban, a letter by Nachmanides to his son, emphasizing humility, proper conduct, and the power of words. He critiques the modern disregard for meaningful communication, illustrated by the triviality of most text messages and emails. Rabbi Reuven connects this to the broader theme of living a purposeful life, guided by the teachings of the Torah. He underscores the importance of genuine communication and the rarity of profound, impactful letters in today's digital age, contrasting this with the deep, lasting value of the Iggeret HaRamban's guidance on leading a life of humility, respect, and closeness to God. To Donate and Support our Kiruv work please visit us at www.BeEzratHaShem.org. If you'd like to invite Rabbi Yaron Reuven or Rabbi Efraim Kachlon to give a lecture at your synagogue, home or office please email Yaron@BeEzratHaShem.org to see availability and make arrangements. Rabbi Yaron Reuven is based out of Florida, but travels around the world to give lectures to different groups. Click here https://soundcloud.com/yaronreuven/sets/daily-chidush To Listen to our very popular "Daily Chidush" short audio series on soundcloud.com 0:00 Introduction 0:49 If people are still studying a 900-year-old letter today, what does that show us? 5:46 How to treat non-Jews. How about Christian missionaries specifically? 11:38 Why does Hashem hate idol worship so much? An explanation you can’t miss 19:15 What does the Torah say about violating Shabbat? How bad is it? 25:24 Why do you have to tell people to keep Shabbat? But what if they get upset and argue? 29:53 Why does the Ramban start the letter with anger as a thing to stay away from? 32:18 But I only get angry when people make me angry 32:43 Before deciding who your friend is, you have to test three things 38:26 How do you express your anger? If you express your anger in a certain way, the Gemara says you must viewed as an idol worshipper 40:13 Why does Hashem find a person who expresses anger in a violent way disgusting? 41:34 Unbelievable true story showing the dangerous effects of anger, even if you are a good person 44:17 You can lose everything, including wisdom and prophecy, as a result of expressing anger through yelling, cursing, breaking stuff etc. (Chafetz Chaim and Gemara) 45:47 The siddur you are using might be why you are having forbidden thoughts while praying. (The Ba’al Shem Tov) 50:05 Did King David and Moses sin? What does Manasseh teach us about teshuva? 53:24 How great is a ba’al teshuva? 55:27 What happens if I don’t do teshuva? What did Yehoshua ben Levi see in Gehinom? 1:03:58 But how can the soul suffer in Gehinom? 1:04:48 Torah sources about Gehinom. How can you become your worst enemy? 1:07:01 The emotional Gehinom in this world. If we do not want cancer for millions of dollars, then why are we giving it to ourselves for free? (Rav Efraim) 1:12:16 You are putting so much on the line for a simple act of anger 1:16:33 True story: How a guy ruined this marriage through anger 1:22:07 If you don’t do teshuva for anger, living as if it is okay and you get accustomed to breaking things, Gehinom will eventually control you 1:23:17 Sages: anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die 1:24:09 If you work on your anger, you can become a perfect human being who never sins (Prophet Elijah) 1:25:17 Ask yourself: is it worth it and does it make sense to get angry? 1:27:02 How did the Rav work on his anger? 1:32:24 Can I just love Hashem? The very scary reason why Rav Efraim did not understand why everyone was looking at an immodest girl 1:44:16 Is it okay to get angry mentally? What steps should I take to deal with my anger? #jewish #torah #rabbiyaronreuven #ramban #mussar #jews #orthodoxjudaism #god #bible #life #teshuva #judaism #anger #angry #angermanagement 00:00:00 Intoduction 00:00:12 Introduction to Iggeret HaRamban 00:00:41 The Lost Art of Letter Writing 00:02:56 Nonsense of Modern Communication 00:04:49 Value and Wisdom in Ramban's Letter 00:06:09 Accustom Yourself to Speak Gently 00:07:58 Missionaries & Dangers of Idol Worship 00:11:24 Why Hashem Hates Idol Worship 00:13:47 Analogy: Replacing the Best with Filth 00:18:47 Idolatry is Replacing Hashem with Filth 00:19:14 Importance of Keeping Shabbat 00:23:44 Violating Shabbat is like Idolatry 00:26:48 Telling the Truth, Avoiding Anger 00:30:49 Anger Causes Sin & Leads to Gehinnom 00:32:48 Testing Friends and Avoiding Anger 00:34:35 Truth Comes Out: Wine, Money, Anger 00:38:45 Violent Anger = Idol Worship 00:41:53 Real Life Story & Consequences of Anger 00:44:20 The Chafetz Chaim on Losing Everything 00:45:48 The Baal Shem Tov and the Impure Siddur 00:49:05 Defining a Rasha & Importance of Teshuva 00:53:58 The Elevated Status of a Baal Teshuva 00:54:58 The Baal Teshuva Saw Both Worlds 00:55:56 Living as Angry Monster Leads to Gehenom 00:57:47 Seeing Gehinnom through Eliyahu HaNavi 00:59:34 Avoiding Gehinom Through Right Actions 01:00:37 Gehenom's Punishments Described 01:04:50 Feeling in Gehinom is 60x More Intense 01:05:19 The Importance of Watching Your Actions 01:07:28 Gehinom In This World Can Be Emotional 01:08:52 We Create Gehinom in This World Ourselves 01:11:17 Giving Away Cancer for Free? 01:12:14 Gehinom & Moment of Anger is Folly 01:14:36 Relationship vs. Moment of Anger & Gehinom 01:16:52 Breaking a Gift & Breaking a Marriage 01:18:36 A Fan at Walmart is Like The New Bride 01:21:17 Letting Anger Control Results to Ruin 01:22:13 Anger will Ruin and Has a Heavenly Death 01:23:33 Anger Drink is Poison and Kills Anger Itself 01:24:00 Overcoming Anger and Perfect Being Without Sin 01:25:23 Punching the Wall Due to Small Money Lost? 01:26:49 The Main Test: Can a Person Handle Anger? 01:28:15 How is it People are Always Angry at Hashem? 01:28:37 Best Thing to Pray For is The Strength To Grow 01:29:06 The strength Not to Get Angry Over Heat 01:29:37 Pray For Strength Because You Will Then Pas 01:30:23 Is a Constant Fight to Win Over Negativity? 01:31:10 Perspective Will Change You Over a New Test 01:31:40 Pray So You Can Never See Gehinom Again? 01:32:10 Serve Hashem Not in Fear? 01:33:27 Ideal Serve is Both Love and Fear 01:34:13 Hard to Love but Can Fear and Why 01:35:18 Higher Levels of Fear Lead to Start Loving 01:36:32 Is Fear Still a Righteous Generation? 01:37:01 You Cannot Be With Sin or Immoral Thoughts 01:38:49 Need to be High and to Avoid Purposeful Sins 01:39:33 Cannot Bear to See Melting is a Test 01:41:49 Should See As Disgusting As It Burns 01:42:18 Once Have Fear then Speak of Love 01:43:12 Eyes Cheating on a Wife 01:43:54 Don't Follow Eyes but to Work the Mind 01:44:22 Is Someone Bothered the Same as Angry 01:45:05 Don't Do Violent but Need to Avoid Cursing 01:45:40 What If We Cannot Fully Help it At First 01:46:36 Acknowledge the Situation in The Beginning 01:47:19 Cannot Acknowledge Then Turns to Hell 01:48:08 People Around you Will Fear and Lead Back 01:48:37 Stop Violent to Stop from Cursing from Listens 01:49:28 Music and Immune System is Not Numb! 01:50:15 Bad Things Happen From Bad Actions 01:50:44 More Questions and How Eyes Can Harm You 01:52:07 Gemara on The Heart Not Being The Focus 01:53:07 Wigs - Hair, Wigs, Synthetics 01:53:36 Hair - Not Being There - Sew The Wigs 01:55:09 The Synthetic Real Hair and What To Look For? 01:55:45 It's a Battle - There Are Others 01:56:32 Know the Hair Source - It is Okay!! 01:57:15 The Women Wearing a Wig Does Not Mean Bad! 01:57:41 Having Something Good Going On 01:58:10 Good Things 01:58:25 Off Topic - The Shaver!!! 01:58:54 The Link and Technology 01:59:20 The Buzzers and Cut Whatever! 01:59:51 Reasons NOT To Sleep