Child Education for Life? Real Life TORAH STORY EVERY JEWISH PARENT NEEDS TO HEAR
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3:01Avirsho ben Levi sas l'dam, abo tai, when that little five-year-old learns Torah with me, when he sees his grandpa Taking them seriously, taking his D'var Torah seriously, and taking back, and going back and forth, and I'm hearing his ideas and I appreciate his ideas. If our parents would spend more time with the kids, not only to listen to their D'var Torah on Shabbat. Many parents do this. They have the child prepare a D'var Torah. You see the child prepare a D'var Torah. One of the parents listens while the other parent is busy talking to some guests. They say kol hakavod, even if it doesn't make any sense.
4:22If you spend some time with him, learning with him, understanding his world, you will foster a deep love for Torah in his heart. What's going to keep the five-year-old interested at six, the six-year-old interested at eight, the eight-year-old interested at twelve, and the twelve-year-old interested at eighteen, is the meaningful connection and engagement you create through learning. The eighteen-year-old will carry this passion for the rest of his life if you show genuine interest and dedication in his spiritual growth. Aron am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am am
5:24אולי אהבו אולי אולי אולי אולי אולי אולי אולי אולי אולי אולי אולי אולי אולי אולי אולי אולי. אני לא רואה כזה דבר עוד. אחת מהקבלים שלי עם רבי אפרים הוא יפה של יפה. הוא נגיד, אני רוצה לשאול אתכם שאלה, למי. אולי אולי אולי אולי אולי אולי. אני לא רואה דבר כזה עוד. אחת מהשיעורים שלי עם רבי Efraim היה יפה מאוד. הוא אמר: "אני רוצה לשאול אתכם שאלה."
6:26ואני חושב, אוקיי, הוא עוד 12 שנים, איזה אקספלוריישנס הוא יכול להגיד? איפה גדלו? דינוזאורים? איזה אקספלוריישנס פילוסופיים שאולי עוד 12 שנים יגידו? והילד מבקש ממני סוגיה, מבקש ממני אקספלוריישנס, לא קדימים, כשהתבח שימוי אני קדימה, אבל הוא עושה לי daas Gemara u-Bava Kamma, ואני רואה, כשאני עושה להם את ההגדלות עם seforim magidot, למי זה ke-evon. הוא אוהב את זה ככה, וואו. ואני חושב לעצמי, זה מדהים שבגיל 12 זה מה שהוא חושב עליו. במקום לחשוב על סרטי אנימציה ועל מייקל ג'ורדן, ועל פוטבול ועל אמט סמית, ועל בייסבול, ועל מטס, ועל המחקר הסטטיסטי, ועל ביטקוין, במקום זה, הילד הזה חושב על סוגיות בגמרא, על המסכת בבא קמא. בגיל 12 זה באמת מדהים בעיניי, כי רבים בגיל הזה כלל לא יודעים מהי גמרא.
7:49And to be honest with you, many of the kids that I know from American religious schools don't know what Gemara is at 12 years old, other than it's homework. It's homework. That's what Gemara is. What's Gemara? It's homework. This wasn't homework. He didn't ask me the question because it was homework. He had a question about this Gemara. Why is this so pleasing to me? Because the same kid, they wanted to throw him out of yeshiva two months ago. They said he's not a good student, and we don't have any time to invest in him. So you have to send him to a different yeshiva. So Rav Efraim, I'll teach him. Just keep him in the school. Give us another chance. Give us another chance. I'll take responsibility. I'll teach him. I'll work with him. I'll do homework with him. He already has his own children. I know a few things. I'll teach him. The Rabbi said, oh, if you're going to help him, tutor him, okay.
9:19אנחנו לא ישנו אף אחד, יש לנו 400 ילדים. אנחנו לא יכולים להשקיע הרבה זמן עם כל ילד, אבל כשאתם עושים את זה, זה עושה הבדל. אנחנו נמשיך להשקיע עוד קצת. במהלך השנים, היו ילדים, היו 400 ילדים. הלב לא נשבר. הדבר הנוסף שחשבנו עליו הוא לתת לכל ילד תשומת לב מיוחדת, קצת מיוחדת, קצת מיוחדת. It seems there's a misunderstanding, as the text provided, "אולי אולי אולי אולי אולי אולי אולי אולי אולי אולי אולי," is repetitive and lacks sentences needing punctuation or grammatical corrections, contextual quotes, sefer (book) names, or rabbinical names. If you have a specific fragment or passage needing correction or contextual explanation, please provide it, and I will assist accordingly.
10:20some learning with your kid. Don't do their homework. The number one reason why kids become unsuccessful in life is because their parents do their homework. If you're going to do the kid's homework, take him out of school and you go to school instead. Don't do their homework. It's not healthy for them to think that somebody is going to do their work. That's not how life works. When you go into the real world, no one's going to do your work for you. When you fail, no one's going to tell you, "Oh, good job, you failed." No, you need to fail sometimes to learn. Don't do the kid's homework, because then he's going to get used to other people doing his stuff. She's going to get used to other people doing that stuff. And by the way, she's not learning a thing. He's not learning a thing when you're doing the homework. So yeah, the grade on the test says 100. And the GPA says 4.8. Somebody told me that even though there's only a four-point system in GPA, they're now up to 4.8 in GPAs. Meaning people are getting scores that are above perfect.
11:46ha'Ivrit GPA b'calculate ve'universita'ot b'Amerika hayom hi ha'chi gdola shehayta be'svira. aval od hapoal shel hamechkar hayta ktsat ktsat katan be'svira. eich zeh yachol lihiyot? eich zeh yachol lihiyot? hayta midgola. eich zeh yachol lihiyot? hayta student. eich zeh yachol lihiyot she'hagridot hatovot hem ha'chi g'dolot be'svira? But the failure ratio, the actual success, and what these people end up becoming in their life is the biggest failure in history. How could it be? It doesn't make any sense. If you pay the bill, they'll give you an A. You pay $50,000 a year, they'll give you an A. Why does the kid have no problem with passing a class he didn't even work for? Because he's used to it, because his parents have been doing his homework his whole life. Because he's used to it, because his parents have been doing his homework his whole life. Somebody's been doing it. Why does the kid have emunah problems when he's only 16 or 17 years old? Because his parents have been doing his homework, and he has no idea who Moshe Rabbeinu is. He has no idea that miracles are part of our day-to-day life as Jews.
13:02Yes. ישנו אידיאה דאת סקריפייס איז פרט אוו די דרך די איז ג'וז. ישנו אידיאה דאת השם קמנד יו טו ירא הים ביפור יו אהב הים. ישנו אידיאה. ווי? בייקוז אמא הז בין דוויין איז הומוורק אול די דיי. אבותיי, אבסן איז אול מי און אייז, מני קידס, The ones whose parents do their homework for them end up becoming the biggest losers later on, regardless of religion. You want to destroy your kid? Do his homework. You want to build him? Make him do it himself. Even if it means he's going to fail. Even if it means he's going to be held back. Even if it means he's going to be held back twice. If he's getting held back twice because he keeps failing, that means it's the right decision. He's not qualified to be in that grade. If he's failing, that means it's the right decision. That means he should not pass because he doesn't know the information. Failure is a part of life. You need to fail in order to succeed. But if you really want to succeed, spend some time with him. Spend some time with her, learning with her. Not just taking her to the mall to buy a new dress.
14:25Not just taking her out to lunch, making her feel like a lady. Spend some time learning with her about things that will actually help her in life. The dress is not going to help her more than once or twice in her life. The dinner is not going to help her beyond satisfying her hunger for 15 minutes. But learning Torah, that can help her. Especially if you show interest. אם רבי ישוע בן לוי יכול להתווכח עם חכמים חכמים, אני חושב שאנחנו יכולים גם.
