HaShem Sends Us Obstacles In Order To Build Us

0:59I don't understand. Ever since I did Teshuvah, all of a sudden I'm losing money, all of a sudden I'm losing this, all of a sudden I'm losing that. Why doesn't Hashem love me? Why doesn't Hashem give me this? What is it like? How do we explain this? A Rav, who was a lover of Shalom, explained it with a fantastic analogy. He says there was, one time, a woman. This woman had a few things going for her, but she was unmarried and she wanted a Zivug. One day, to her surprise, Mr. Prince Charming shows up at the door. He says, "Yes, I heard about you, and I like everything about you, and I want to get married." had a few things going for her, but she was unmarried and she wanted a zivug. One day, to her surprise, Mr. Prince Charming shows up at the door. He says, "Yes, I heard about you, and I like everything about you, and I want to get married." Good-looking, rich, famous, everything is good for him. I just know his name, yet hold on a second, hold on a second. I only have one condition: I need you to arrive at the wedding with no debt, no obligations. I just want you.

2:26Yeah, but I have stuff to do. He goes, "Okay, fine, no problem. I'll give you two months, two months to get rid of all the stuff that you have, close all the doors, all the things that you have to do, and then two months from now, I want you to show up at the wedding." Okay, deal. So now she has to close off all that. She starts doing a financial statement. She sees, "Okay, I have all of this..." Outstanding debt. I owe all this money. I have this amount of money. So she has to start calling people, saying, "Oh, listen, I..." I owe you $5 and need to close the account for every $10 I owe. I owe you $50. I have $100. I owe $5,000. I don't have $5,000. I can settle for $500—that's the most I can give you. No, what are you crazy? You owe me $5,000. Oh, hey, listen, that's what I can do. Next guy, listen, I owe you $50,000, but I can't pay you anything. I can't pay you. I'm sorry. I just can't do it. I have to close this business. We're having a closing down, out-of-business sale.

3:32So she's trying to negotiate, and the people are saying, no, yes, no, yes. One month passes, two months pass, three months pass, four months pass, six months pass. Now the prince is waiting. He says, what's going on? So one of his people says, listen, your highness, this loving bride of yours, she's still trying to close the doors because you told her the condition is that there's no debt, no problems, and she's still... No debt, no problems, and she's still trying to close all the doors, and it's simply not happening. Why isn't it happening? Because she's trying to negotiate with everybody. Just give me the phone. He calls one of his sergeants and goes, "Listen, get me all of the people she owes money to, to come to the castle right now." He brings everybody to the castle and goes, "Listen, guys, what are you always fighting with her for?" This is what you do. All of you gather together and file a class action lawsuit against her. All of you gather together. Instead of negotiating individually, all of you gather together, class action lawsuit, take everything she has. She says, Your Highness, you're a genius.

4:45Genius. Now we're going to have some power all together. Save money on legal costs. Save headaches. Fine. That's what they do. All of a sudden, she's trying to negotiate. All of a sudden, she doesn't get any phone calls. Everything becomes quiet. She starts to get a little worried until one day, somebody shows up at the door, gives a 150-page document, sign here. There you go. You've been served. And she sees a class action lawsuit, foreclosure, disclosure, that closure. Hashem yerachem. whole world collapses. Just know what to do. She has no idea what's going on? What's happening? Who could I call? Oh, she said she called the Prince because she didn't know what to do. I'm in a lot of trouble and I'm going to need at least another six to eight months, maybe a year, before I can go to this wedding. Why? he says. Because I have a class-action lawsuit that just arrived at my door. He goes, Oh great. What? Great? What do you mean great? Because it was my idea.

5:46just what do you mean? Is this your idea? I told him to file a class-action lawsuit against you! She said, "You want to marry me, but at the same time you're advising my enemies to smash down my door and file a class-action lawsuit against me." He says, "Yeah." She asks, "Why'd you do that?" He responds, "Because you were taking so long. I want to marry you already. Let's finish with it. Give him everything, and let's get married clean." That's HaKadosh Baruch Hu. HaKadosh Baruch Hu is telling you, listen, I've been waiting for your neshama to connect for 3,300 years. Since Mount Sinai, every generation, you mess up, and you have to come back again. You mess up, and you come back again. You mess up, and you come back again. Finally, you're doing teshuva. I've been waiting all this time. But you say, no, I'm not ready to do 100% teshuva because my friends will make fun of me. My job will fire me. My this, my that. Okay, you know what? No problem. Your job, they'll fire you. The wife, she'll divorce you. The money, you don't have it anymore. I'll clean up all the problems. Why? I can't wait to see you, my darling. I can't wait to see you.

7:05You see, rabotai, if you have bitachon, that means you know the problems are coming from the Prince. So it's not a problem. It's the solution. But if you don't have bitachon, you're struggling, suffering every moment of your life because you think that the prince hates you. You think the world hates you. You think you're unlucky. You think that everything is upside down. Maybe I shouldn't. Maybe this, maybe that. You have constant questioning in your head. That the prince hates you. You think the world hates you. You think you're unlucky. You think that everything is upside down. Maybe I shouldn't. Maybe this, maybe that. You have constant questioning in your head.