How to Deal with Wicked People?

0:06What do you do in a situation where you have wicked people that are supposed to be leaders surrounding you? A rabbi tells you that you're allowed to go gamble. A rabbi tells you you're allowed to be with a prostitute as long as she's not Jewish. A rabbi tells you you're allowed to drive as long as you're driving to Shabbat. A rabbi tells you all types of things that are complete nonsense. There's no source for it in the Torah. But he tells you stuff like this. What do you do? If you have the strength and the knowledge, try to rebuke them. Try to bring the truth. But if you don't, if you have a family member, a cousin, an aunt, a mother, a father, or someone in your family who is like this, and you're in a situation where you don't have much to do, then if you can't rebuke them and you cannot run away—meaning you're stuck, let's say you're a 15-year-old kid and your father is a heretic—what do you do?

1:34try to, if you have the strength and the knowledge, rebuke them and try to bring the truth. But if you don't, and let's say you have a family member, a cousin, an aunt, a mother, or a father in your family who is like this, and you're in a situation where you can't do much, then if you can't rebuke them and you cannot run away, meaning you're stuck—let's say you're a 15-year-old kid and your father is a heretic— Your father tells people to drive on Shabbat. And you can't move out. You're 15. What do you do? Nothing. Don't do anything. Focus on yourself. If you're in a situation where you cannot rebuke, then focus on yourself. Because that will be the rebuke. Like I said, you can always send them my lectures, my clips, and so on. But aside from that, don't even worry about rebuking them. Just simply focus on yourself. Focus on you doing teshuva, and perfect yourself. Because that will be the biggest rebuke in the world. And again, this is only if you don't have a choice. You're a 15-year-old kid, you can't move out, and your father is a kofer, your mom is a kofer. But if you have a choice, then obviously do something else.

3:04Every case has to be evaluated, but sometimes people tell me, "Listen, I, uh, what do I do? I'm married to this guy, and he's this and that." I'm not going to tell everybody to get divorced. You have to try to get him back, gotta try to do teshuvah. It's gonna take some time and so on and so forth. In the meantime, focus on yourself. Why? Because what ends up happening is that if you increase your own kedushah, if you increase your own kedushah, you increase your own knowledge. you apply this knowledge to your life, that itself is going to be something that's going to get people to want to do what you're doing, more than anything you can say. More than anything else you can say. Why? Because what ends up happening is that they see how your life is turning out. And they see how their life is turning out. Two years have passed. Three years have passed. You're listening to this Rabbi. You're doing teshuva. You're fixing yourself. And what happens? You're becoming a better person. All of a sudden, the market crashes, but no sweat, as you have trust in HaKadosh Baruch Hu.

4:12No sweat. All of a sudden there's traffic, but no sweat. You're calm. All of a sudden there's a hurricane and no sweat. I was like, wow, there's a hurricane. I didn't know. You don't care. Why? You know, HaKadosh Baruch Hu runs the world. It's like as if you're on autopilot. You're just living in the world and you understand HaShem runs the world. You have no stress. You have complete bitachon. Whether you have money or you don't, you're perfectly happy. Three years have passed. They're still the same beheimot they were three years ago, if not worse. They still curse like filthy animals. They still look at everything that moves. Their marriage is even worse today than it was before. Their kids have gotten worse. Their life has gotten worse. At best case scenario, it stayed the same miserable life as it was three years ago, while your life has improved. That you cannot ignore. Because they see your life is turning out peaches. Their life is like a rotten apple. That, Rabotai, inspires people more than anything else that I can say. Eventually, what ends up happening is that those people, if they have a little bit of truth in them, they start asking for advice. Eventually, they may even ask you for blessings.