How To Manage Anger By Changing Our Perspective?
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0:08is this, one of the ways that I tried myself to work on my anger, because for me, it's almost like I was born angry. And Baruch Hashem, I've worked on it a lot, and I continue to work on it, and one of the things that I realized along the way from learning from the Chachamim, is that we're working on anger the wrong way. We're working on our emotions the wrong way. Most people look at life as if it's all one big mistake, where they think whatever their circumstances—lack of money, lack of a spouse, lack of a job, lack of significance, lack of something—is like a mistake in the system. It's as if they believe they're supposed to have this money, and they're angry, depressed, and miserable because they don't have it.
1:37You see, Rabotai, if you want to work on yourself, if you want to overcome the obstacle of anger, the obstacle of anything, don't pray for Hashem to change the circumstance. Because trust me, if He wants to change the circumstance, He'll do it. Don't pray for Hashem to change the circumstance as far as, Hashem, give me money. No, don't pray for that. Pray for Hashem to give you the strength to change yourself, to change your perspective of the problem. Don't say, "Hashem, please make the air conditioner work. It broke on Shabbat and it's 90 degrees in this house. The house has turned into a volcano. Please, Hashem, make the air conditioner magically fix itself." No, don't pray for that. Pray to Hashem: "Hashem, please give me the strength not to get angry because it's so unbearably hot in this house. It's easy to become irritable when it's hot. Please, Hashem, give me the strength to overcome this challenge." If you pray for that, I promise you, Hashem will change the circumstances. Why? Because then you have passed the test.
3:04If you're praying for Hashem to give you the strength to overcome the test, that means you acknowledge it's a test. Therefore, there's no point for the test anymore. It's like playing hide and seek. But you know He's hiding behind the wall. The game's over. Game's over. There's no point in playing anymore. I know where you're hiding. Hashem, I see it's you. It's you. Oh, you got me. Okay, game's over. Game's over. Here's the money that you needed. Here's the money that you needed. Here's the problem that you haven't solved. What? The circumstance takes one second to change. That's in the hands of Hashem. You are what's hard. Because that's in your hands. If we pray for Hashem to change us, meaning for us to have the strength to overcome our own negativity and our own depression, then we're praying for the right thing. This is the only thing that's worked for me; I can tell you that from experience. Every time I've prayed for the circumstance to change, sometimes it worked, sometimes it didn’t work. But either way, I knew for sure it had nothing to do with me.
4:10Hashem simply decided that this is going to work now, and it's not going to work then, and then it's going to work again. It had nothing to do with my prayer. The only times my prayers actually felt like they were working is when I asked Hashem, "Please, please Hashem, give me the strength to overcome this big test. I have no idea how I'm going to do it, but if You give me the strength, I'll do it. I have no idea how I'm going to fly from here to here, and my whole body hurts, and this and that. I don't know, but if You give me the strength, I'll do it. I have no idea how I'm going to overcome this such and such, but if You give me the strength, I'll do it." When you pray for that, you'll pass the test, and your perspective on life will change. You'll never be depressed again, you'll never be angry again, and you'll never miss Hashem for a second. Because He's simply going to be a permanent part of your life all the time. And Gehinnom not only does not exist in your life here, but it will never exist in your life, ever. Because it has nothing to do with such a person. Because Hashem is with you at all times. If Hashem is with you at all times, He's not taking you to play games, no. He's walking with you in Gan Eden. Any questions?
