Parashat Chayei Sarah: How To Pick The Right Shidduch

Rabbi Yaron Reuven discusses the Parshat Chayei Sarah and its lessons about picking the right shidduch. He emphasizes that Sarah's death at age 127 signifies her complete righteousness. He then explains the concept of becoming a ba'al tshuvah at the age of 48, highlighting Avraham's journey to this level. Rabbi Reuven delves into the complexities of Avraham purchasing the Cave of Machpelah, highlighting the deception of the Hittites and the importance of paying a fair price. He connects this to the concept of truth in big lies. He also provides insight into the Jewish practice of cremation, emphasizing its prohibition for Jews and its allowance under certain conditions for non-Jews. Rabbi Reuven then highlights Avraham's decision to send Eliezer to find a wife for Yitzchak and the importance of seeking a righteous woman with good character over physical beauty. He emphasizes that HaShem sends Eliezer a clear sign through Rebecca's actions, demonstrating her inherent kindness and generosity. The rabbi also emphasizes that despite their difficult backgrounds, individuals are responsible for their actions. He uses the example of Eliezer's near-death experience due to La'van's plot to illustrate that HaShem does not give tests that cannot be overcome. Rabbi Reuven further addresses the misconception that shidduchim are arranged by parents. He clarifies that Judaism requires both parties' consent and emphasizes that even La'van, a crooked individual, recognized this law. He concludes by stressing the importance of mental connection over physical attraction in shidduchim, arguing that relationships built on lust are prone to failure. 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At age 26 he faced a 7-year battle for his life when a simple surgery went wrong. From that moment his life would never be the same. This moment marked the start of a series of miraculous events and an exciting pursuit of truth, ultimately resulting in Rabbi Reuven renouncing his lofty position and success in Wall Street, after 16 years, to become a full-time KIRUV rabbi. His Teshuva story is sure to catch the heart of every listener. Rabbi Reuven’s shiurim are in English and Hebrew. His classes are focused on spreading the truth and divinity of the Torah through MUSSAR, scientific proofs, and many other methods to reach each individual listener. Rabbi Reuven is the leading educator on the topic of wasting seed in the English language with over 100 videos about this topic published online. Rabbi Yaron Reuven is a proud member of the Igud HaRabbonim (The Rabbinical Alliance of America), a national rabbinic organization founded in 1942. 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For more information please visit: https://rabbinicalalliance.org/ #shidduch #JewishMarriage #marriage #parashathashavua #chayeisarah #rabbiyaronreuven #judaism #torah #Shabbat #ShabbatShalom #Shabbos #Mitzvah #Judaism #Jewish #RabbiYaronReuven #Torah #Jews #ShabbatDinner #ShabbatTable #Rest #Peace #JewishHoliday 00:00:00 Intoduction 00:00:13 Refuah Shlema and Introduction 00:01:08 Sarah's Complete Righteousness 00:01:31 Why Sarah Died First 00:02:51 Avraham's Level and Idol Worship 00:05:17 Extent of Idol Worship and Avraham 00:07:38 Sarah's Death and Repentance 00:11:27 Consequences of Actions 00:16:44 Jewish Perspective on Death 00:19:01 Cremation and Resurrection of the Dead 00:26:54 Avraham's Sorrow and Finding a Wife for Yitzchak 00:45:33 Eliezer's Search and Canaanite Women 00:51:57 Modesty and a Woman's Obligation 00:55:57 Eliezer's sign and Rivka's arrival 00:58:55 Rivka's Character and Times Changes 01:08:41 Sarah's beauty and Bible Proofs 01:11:07 Lavan's Evil and Rivka's Righteousness 01:18:19 Choosing Right Over Wrong and Eliezer's Poisoned Food 01:24:04 Finding The Right Wife and Misconceptions 01:29:11 Love, Relationships, and Making Each Other Better 01:33:04 Rivka's Kindness and Modesty 01:35:27 Importance of Women 01:38:52 Following Hashem's Will 01:41:44 Yitzchak Consolation and A Mission of life 01:43:48 Connecting With each other and Summary 01:50:12 Next Week's Announcement