Tikkun HaBrit--Practical Advice How To Stop Wasting Seed (11 Minutes)

1:11his male member, while urinating, is considered as if he's bringing on the Mabul to the world. It says when you go and urinate, if you're holding your male member, for those who don't know, that means penis. We have to be clear these days. What can we do? Excuse my language. It's a normal term. It's not a foul or derogatory term, but you have to be clear these days. When a man goes to the bathroom, Chazal (our Sages) say you're not allowed to touch it. That's why the Chassidim, by the way, the Chassidim, they have these special underwear. It's like a boxer short, a big boxer short, and they position their male member into the hole. They don't touch at all. That gets a little training to do. But the point is, you could also sit down. Logistically, it's not that difficult, put it that way. It's not that difficult. But, Rabbi Eliezer Omer says that someone who actually holds their member when they are going to urinate, he's not even talking about wasting seed. You should go and urinate, something you do three, four, five, seven, eight, nine times a day.

2:37You're holding your male member. You're bringing them a bull. Why are you bringing them a bull? Because what do you think made the person think about engaging in wasteful actions? What made the person so comfortable with actually doing such a thing? Because Avraham Avinu taught us to treat kadosh, to treat as holy, his male member and his finger as the same thing. This is Kadosh, that's Kadosh. Just like I'm not gonna violate my finger and put it into fire, I'm not gonna violate my brit and put that into fire. I'm not gonna waste seed, violate the Torah, and commit the biggest sin in the world. What gets a person to a level of comfort where he feels okay to touch himself? Says why he goes to urinate and he touched himself then and he gets comfortable with it. This is a problem already. Why? Because as soon as he has yet, it goes inside and it continues and it becomes much worse. He brings them a bull. Why does he bring them a bull? That's what the parasha says. The parasha says Hashem wanted to accept all sins.

3:57They did this, they did this, they did this. They committed all types of sins, engaging in various iniquities. When was the proverbial straw that broke the camel's back? It was when they began to waste seed. The world became corrupt because of it. The gravest transgression wasn't merely the theft that people assumed from the simple meaning. People think that the pshat says they were stealing, but it actually refers to stealing the neshamot, the souls, and the fortune of others. So, we know that when Hashem Yitbarach gave the seven laws of Noach to Noach, one of the initial ones was to give him the mitzvah of "Do not murder." In this mitzvah, we also learn about the prohibition against wasting seed, which is considered a significant sin for both Jews and non-Jews. In Parashat Noach, chapter nine, verse six, Hashem says—so, I've gone over this verse in the past, and I'll give you a chiddush (insight) about it. So, verse 6 says, "Someone who spills the blood of a man within a man, his blood will be spilled." So, the blood of a man—we know that's regular blood, and...

5:22But the blood of a man within a man, that's seed. That's seed. So we see it literally in Hebrew, talking about seed. So someone that wastes seed, his blood will be spilled, because in the image of God, Hashem created man. So now, why is this the stealing that Hashem was referring to? Why is this the corruption that Hashem was talking about? Because the very following verse, verse 7, after He says, don't spill seed, because that's considered murder, What's the purpose of you even having seed? What's the purpose of you even having a body according to the Rambam? That's what the next mitzvah is. It says, it says, teem on the earth and multiply on it. Right after he says don't waste seed, he says go and use that seed to bring children into the world. Meaning that the corruption, the stealing that he's talking about was not stealing $5 from Tzvika and Shmuli. You're stealing the fortune of the Neshamot that have been sitting in Shamayim and want to come to earth. You're stealing their fortune. Why are you wasting them? You're killing them.

6:48That's why you're supposed to not waste it and actually use it. That's why those two are connected. So now, when a person wants to run away from such a sin, wants to run away from such a horrible, horrible sin, it's very critical for them to do a couple of things. Number one, they have to continuously learn about the subject. Learn about the significance of the sin and why it's so bad. See, there's a three and a half-hour shiur we did in New York that every person, every guy, whether they have this problem or not, should watch at least once a month. It's an overview of everything. Then, there are at least a handful or half a dozen or so different short clips, just like we did now, about the subject. Watch those again, all of them at least once a month. That's one. Two, you have to train your eyes to stop looking where they don't belong. Because your eyes, it says in the Mitzvah of Tzitzit, "Do not follow the things of your heart or the things of your eyes." Why your eyes? Because what you see is what you're going to end up thinking about when you go to sleep. It's what you're going to end up thinking about when you pray. It's what you're going to think about when you're with your wife, if you're married.

8:11Don't look where you don't belong; you have to watch your eyes. That's number one. Number two: We already covered that. Number three is this: Listen to the following. As Shabbat comes around, we have to start training ourselves not only to refrain from touching our bodies as often and as comfortably as we do, but we must reach a point where we don't even look there. Now, I know to most guys, this sounds like I'm expecting you to be ready... To be Rabbi Yehuda HaNasi. It's not that hard. Not that hard. You get used to it. It's hard in the beginning. But it's not as hard as the Yetzer Hara is telling you right now. The Yetzer Hara right now is telling you that this guy is expecting us to be like Kriyat Yam Suf, Moshe Rabbeinu, Yehoshua Bin-Nun, Nachshon Ben-Aminadav, Yaakov Avinu, all together. No, it's not that hard. It's not that hard. And the reason why I'm telling you is because The less comfortable you are with your own body, the more holy you're making it. The more holy you make it, the less likely you are to violate it. So one thing is that's easy, easy, piece of cake. From now on, when you go to the bathroom, regardless of one or two, sit down.

9:35Already eliminates the issue of holding the member or not holding the member. Again, this might leave me for a time, but this is a real issue. This is an issue that needs to be talked about. So sit down and try to do whatever you can to not touch your member directly. Only look if it's necessary. It's really not necessary to look. It really isn't. Only look if it's necessary. As far as you think this is from you, I promise you that when eventually you're with your wife, eventually when you're using it for whatever pleasure you want to use it for with your wife, everything is even better than you thought. It's still there. It doesn't run away because you didn't look at it. It still works. Everything is there. Everything is wonderful. It's even better.

10:37But that's the thing: this Gemara, this Parasha, this Mishnah, it all connects. How it's Hashem Yitbarach. Point being, somebody needed to hear it, and that's why I said it, because this was definitely not part of this shiur.