TIKKUN HaBRIT (WASTING SEED PART 2)

0:12Glad to be in Sunny Isles. We have another week started. Unfortunately, we started the week with the news that the father of one of the... the father of Rav Mizrachi, David ben Yosef Mizrachi, was niftar on Motzei Shabbat. So this shiur will be for Ilui Nishmato. Also, just as a heads up from now on, all of the shiurim will also be for Ilui Nishmato, David ben Yosef Mizrachi. With a son like that, with a son like Rav Yosef Mizrachi and how many people he's done teshuva, My Rav, Rav Efraim, told me it almost has nothing to worry about. But the reality is that everyone can always get higher and higher in Gan Eden, Be'ezrat Hashem, and have an easier judgment and, Be'ezrat Hashem, a better one. Also, this shiur will be for Ilui Nishmat Amir ben Natan.

1:24And for Refuah Shlema for Avi Mori David ben Nasria, Doris bat Jorah, Rav Efraim ben Shulamit, Rabbanit Sara bat Anat, Levana bat Sara, Dvora bat Mercedes, Elisheva Chaya bat Sara, Yochevet bat Batya, All of Am Yisrael, b'ezrat Hashem, will have a refuah shlema, refuat hanefesh, refuat haguf. Now, this past week, we finished Parashat Vayechi, which also meant that we completed Sefer Bereishit. was a sefer hamussar. Anyone who learns the middot of Avraham, Yitzchak, and Yaakov, Avotenu HaKedoshim, can become a decent human being. We're starting now Sefer Shemot and it's known among the sages that this begins the period of Shovavim.

2:43Shovavim is the acronym of each one of the parashot in Sefer Shemot, the Book of Exodus. Each one of the parashot starts with one of the letters to spell out the word Shovavim, which means "troublemakers," which comes from the pasuk where Hashem says, He tells the troublemakers, meaning Am Yisrael, to come back. to come back, but specifically Chazal tell us specifically when it comes to the sin of sex crimes, specifically when it comes to the sin of gilui arayot, wasting seed, immorality, all of the things that have to do with that. This is a special time to reevaluate ourselves when it comes to these specific issues. Any person that has overcome the sin Wasting seed is any person who has gotten to the point where he doesn't waste seed anymore. Not only he doesn't waste seed on purpose, of course, I'm talking about he got to a point where he doesn't waste seed at night — meaning even accidentally. He doesn't waste seed accidentally. That's a real tzaddik. That's where Yosef HaTzadik got his name.

4:06That's where Yosef HaTzadik got his name. Somebody like that, if he comes over to your house, you can tell everybody, "Tzadik BaLa'ir." Somebody like that, that's a person you should ask for a blessing from. Why? Because that's a person who overcame what the Rambam says is the most difficult obstacle in human nature to overcome. Once you become addicted to wasting seed, It's almost impossible to overcome. Not impossible, but almost impossible. Not to discourage anyone and not to even give them an excuse to continue. But what the Rambam is trying to teach us is that, first and foremost, you should know that it's very, very difficult to overcome this addiction. So if you don't have it yet, don't be a fool. Don't be one of those people who's like, "Oh, only once, only once. I'm only going to try once." Because there's no such thing as one time. Second thing is that if you've realized, b'ezrat Hashem, if you've watched our other shiurim about this topic, or you're going to watch tonight's shiur, b'ezrat Hashem, and you realize that you have a very, very serious problem with this, and you want to fix it, don't expect to fix it in a week. Don't beat yourself up if it's not fixed within a month. Meaning, you have to work on it. If you fail, pick up, and try again.

5:30again and again and again and again and again until it's finished. This may take a little bit more time than other things because this is both a spiritual and a physical addiction. It's not like other things where, for example, somebody eats too much; that's purely a physical addiction. He loves food more than he loves other things. When it comes to money, people love money, sometimes more than their own life. But still, there's more physicality than spirituality. But when it comes to seed, this is both a physical and a spiritual disease. But it's a disease that's curable by yourself. You don't need drugs for it. You don't need to go to a psychiatrist. In fact, you shouldn't go to a psychiatrist because they'll just tell you to continue. Because they think, in their opinion, for the most part, that it’s healthy. Even though there’s proven scientific research that has demonstrated the opposite, they still claim the same thing. Just like, for example, some people still believe that they came from monkeys; they still use research from certain scientists that were proven to be a scam.

6:54There are certain scientists that tried to prove Darwin's theory, but it was proven that all of their work was one big scam, like they made it up, it was a complete scam. But yet their work is still found in textbooks today over a hundred years later. So the reality is, Rabotai HaKerim, is that even though sometimes the doctors, the scientists, the professors and the like know that something is wrong, and even sometimes the rabbi, knows that something is wrong. They're going to tell you, "No, no, it's not a big deal. It's not for our generation. It's too much for you. You can't handle it." You should know there's only one reason why they all do it: they all waste seed. They're all addicted to it, and you're making them feel bad about themselves by telling them that there's something wrong. So, since you're the patient, in essence... You're under them. They'll tell you, no, no, I know much better than you. Look at my wall. I have plaques. I don't even have wallpaper. I only have plaques. My name has three or four acronyms after it and two before. My business card had to be expanded because of so many degrees that I have. Of course, I'm better than you. If I say it's good, it's good. Yeah, but there's research that proves it's bad. Ah, research, research. Yeah, but that's what you said you used. Yeah, my research is different.

8:15The Shulchan Aruch says it's the worst sin in the Torah. Yeah, Shulchan Aruch, Shulchan Aruch. We don't always pasken like the Shulchan Aruch. Who do we pasken like? We pasken like the generation. They'll start telling you all types of shtuyot to make you feel good about yourself. But in reality, it's to make themselves feel good about themselves. This is also the same reason when it comes to other types of crimes against the Torah. For example, when people defend Christianity. people like Dweck or Mirvis, the Chief Rabbi of London. These people defend Christianity. Why? They're both on the board of directors of a Christian-Jewish organization that I'm sure funds millions of dollars into their private accounts. The reality is, Rabotai, no one says something for no reason. There has to be a motivation. That's human nature. But human nature is something that you can overcome once you admit that you're wrong. If you don't admit that you're wrong, then we've already failed before we started. Now, for all of the women who think that this shiur is not for them and that they don't have such a problem, you should know that you should listen to this shiur at least as much as every guy, maybe even more. And the reason why is because, number one,

9:41The same initiative, the same evil act according to the Torah that seems innocent, is also not allowed for women. More importantly, 99% of guys don't purely do things based on their imagination. They do things based on something they saw. That's why the Gemara in Masechet Avodah Zarah says to watch your eyes in the morning. So you don't come to evil at night. Mefarshim say, what is evil? Evil is wasting seed. So anytime a woman walks around immodestly, she should know there's a very good chance that at least one guy is going to look at her immodestly. More likely, it's every guy. But let's just give it, let's be conservative. She walks down the street; she wants to go buy a bagel from the kosher store. And she decides that the kosher store that's down the street, which is only 10 minutes from the house, is the perfect one. So she's going to walk in nice high heels to make sure that everybody knows every single step she takes. They can hear her, they can see her, and they can notice her.

10:55And she also makes sure that the skirt just barely covers her thighs, let alone doesn't even reach the knees. Or maybe she's going to wear something that's tight enough that you're not going to know if it's her skin or if it's pants. We're not really sure. It's just a different color. You can't really tell. Maybe she had a really good suntan. Anyway, she's going to arrive at the store, and along the way, Pablo, Michael, Alexander, Steve, Amos, and Joey, all of them, what are they? They're blind. They see. They see this pretty woman that just looks like she came from Gan Eden. She's walking down the street. And they say, look how beautiful You made things for me to see, Hashem. They start making berachot for it. All of a sudden, they remember all of Masechet Berachot. They recite berachot for everything they need, everything they enjoy. And they're going to look at her, even if it's for two seconds, three seconds, four seconds. That's just enough time to record her picture in their mind eternally.

12:00Not for the week, not for the month, forever. Sefer Chassidim says, there are some poskim that say, once the guy looks at her and starts imagining things, it's as if he was intimate with her. Like in Shamayim, they say, oh, look, he just made aveira Hashem. What did he do? He was just with her. What, they didn't touch? In Shamayim, they consider it as if they touched. The point being, Rabotai, now she has Joey who looked at her, then Steve, then Pablo, then Pablo told everybody else—all the workers that are working construction—everybody look, two, two, two, two, two, one after another, it's a domino effect. Everybody saw her go get a bagel, and they can't wait for her to get out after they get the bagel. Now they're going to think about her in the most inappropriate ways, at the most inappropriate times, and every single time they look at her, it's a sin from the Torah, and they create a demon. If they actually go to the point of imagining her during a time when they think they’re doing themselves a favor, they’re creating millions of demons. And every single time they create demons, that same amount of demons goes into her account. They create one, one appears right next to her. They create two, two appear next to her. They create a hundred million, welcome a hundred million. We’ll make sure we fit you into the house.

13:28This, Rabotai, is a very, very simple explanation for what the Gemara says in Masechet Chullin, page 7b. There's not a person that gets an injury on his finger down here without it being decided up there. Meaning, a person needs to understand. Hashem is so careful with every single move, every single thing that happens. There is no way on God's green earth that someone could hurt even their finger, get a little pricked on their finger from the rose he bought for his wife on Friday as a mitzvah, but he got hurt a little bit. In Shamayim, there was a whole Beit Din. They had a whole Beit Din organized. Moshe, Aharon, David, Shlomo, everybody gathered. Okay, we have a judgment. What? We're going to decide right now. Very serious judgment. Is he going to get hurt from the rose? And a little blood is going to come out. Yes or no? Favor, favor, favor. Unanimous. Let him do it. Let him get hurt.

14:41Meaning, for the rose, now I'm not talking about car accidents, robberies, death, sickness. I'm not talking about such big things. We don't have to go so far. We don't have to go so far, rabotai. Something small, the Gemara says. A little blood left his finger. Somebody hit him on the side by accident. Somebody elbowed him by accident. He twisted his ankle, the nail fell off, his tooth hurts a little bit. In Shamayim, there was a whole Beit Din that got together and said, guilty. Guilty. For what? The accounting that he has in Shamayim. This means, rabotai, that anytime a woman wakes up in the morning on Tisha B'Av, she's depressed, she's annoyed, but nothing really happened yet. She can't find a zivug. She starts seeing there's a lot of hair coming out. She's going bald, but she's only 35. She doesn't know what's happening. Everybody tells her it's stress. Other people tell her to change shampoo. Others tell her maybe it's the sun. No one knows what's going on, but everybody likes to throw their opinion. Because opinions are free.

15:58She doesn't know what's going on. All of a sudden, there's something on the side. All of a sudden, the doctor calls and says, please come to my office without giving her an explanation. Then she comes to the office and he says, listen, we saw a growth. We don't know what it is. We need to investigate it. Life becomes scary. She should know: before all of that happened, in Shamayim, they had a Beit Din. Avraham, Yitzchak, Yaakov, all of the tzaddikim waiting. They don't just hang out, doing nothing. Do we give her something to be scared about or not? So, the Torah tells us that there's no such thing as a righteous person who doesn't sin. Everybody sins. So why does the Torah still call him righteous? If he sins, he should be called a rasha, no? The Torah says, no, no, there's no such thing as a tzaddik that doesn't sin. He's righteous, but he sins. So why is he still a tzaddik? Because he doesn't do it on purpose. He's a tzaddik, but he makes sins, but it's not on purpose. Something slipped over here, slipped over there, a word came out that's not appropriate, looked somewhere not appropriate for a second, and then looked away. He's not doing it on purpose. She's not wearing the immodest clothes on purpose, knowing that Hashem hates it. She's not doing it. She doesn't know.

17:27The mom bought her clothes. She wears them. The mom bought her clothes. They went to a playground. Hashem, you go to a playground, you can't even go. You go to a playground, you start seeing people. Hashem, you have to go back home. You can only go when there's nobody there. Why? Everybody thinks, everybody forgets their clothes at home. These are the most religious people. And even when they come, you're not even sure you're allowed to be there. Why? Because their six-year-old is barely wearing underwear and a tank top. Even if the mom remembered some of her clothes, the kid forgot the clothes, or the mom didn't buy any clothes. She bought her a tank top that you're supposed to go to sleep with, maybe. And she goes out, she walks around like this. Religious people. Religious people, I saw a couple of people, the father had a longer beard than I think some of the gedolei hador. But his daughter, I don't think that I would let my kids shower with those clothes.

18:31I don't understand what happened to us. I don't understand what happened to Am Yisrael that we simply forgot that modesty is important. We forgot. We're here to announce once and for all that it's important. It's so important that if a woman is not modest, it's impossible for her to go to Gan Eden. meaning even if she fulfills all of the mitzvot, Shabbat, Taharat HaMishpacha, she eats kosher Badatz, she orders it specially from Israel just to make sure the shechita is the best, and so on and so forth. If she's not modest, it's impossible for her to enter Gan Eden. And the reason why is because when she arrives to the Beit Din of Shamayim, all of the victims of her crimes also show up. Who are the victims? Carlos, and Stephen, and Amos, and Pablo, and all of the guys that were looking how to go buy a bagel. They also show up. It's like, "Hashem, you're Amok Gehinnom. Why is she going to Gan Eden?" He says, "You're right. Join them." Why? They sinned. They saw you one time for 20 seconds. That was enough for them to sin for 20 years, even when they were with their wife. So Rabotai HaKedoshim...

19:55Sin of wasting seed in modesty, the whole issue that we're supposed to be talking about tonight. The whole issue that we are supposed to do teshuva for during these weeks, during our lifetime, as soon as possible, is as much relevant to women as it is to men because we are both partners in the crime. Now we've talked about some of the things about how terrible it is in the eyes of Hashem. We'll go over some of those things just so people get a clear picture. But more importantly, we're going to go over some new things. Some new things that we haven't gone over before about how to fix it. Tikkun HaBrit. Now, before we go over fixing it, we have to understand the magnitude of the sin. And the reason why is because if I told you, listen, you really shouldn't eat this burger. Why? It's fattening. It's like, oh, thank you. You know what? It's pretty good. I'll take the fat. Give me another one. Why? Because you don't care about getting fat. You don't care. Nobody cares. You like the delicious burger much more than you like caring about being fat.

21:04Thank you very much. Some people know, some people need it. But for the most part, if people like food, they'll eat it. Anyway, if I tell you, you know what, don't buy from this guy. Yeah, I don't think his stuff is proven to be fake. He sells fake goods. Sometimes people say, you know, I'll take the chance. Why? I like the price. I like the price. He sells bags 90% off. Any other store, I buy it for a thousand dollars, and this store looks exactly the same. It's only a hundred dollars. So let it be fake. I don't care. I'll take the chance. Meaning, you like the discount too much. So if I give you an example like that, you're not going to do teshuva. Why? Because you're going to say, eh, it's not a sin. So are a lot of things a sin. Lashon hara is a sin. Show me one person that's not saying lashon hara. Some people say, if it wasn't for lashon hara, what would I talk about? If I couldn't say lashon hara, what else am I going to talk about? There's nothing to say, kvod haRav, no. Lashon hara, what, you're trying to kill me? Kill me now already, I can't say lashon hara. Be'emet, some people are so addicted to talking that they have to say lashon hara. They have to. Eventually, they're going to realize it was a mistake, but we'll have a different shiur for them. Anyway, Rabotai yekarim,

22:31It's important for us to know the magnitude of the sin with clear examples of what the Torah says to show you that it's not just a burger that's going to help you gain weight and grow a little more. It's not just maybe the goods are fake. It's make it or break it. There are a few things in the Torah that are called the biggest sins in Judaism. People get confused. People think that when they see The Rambam writes that somebody that cheats in business, b'midot (b'midot meaning when you weigh). You weigh goods. Let's say, for example, somebody wants to buy one pound or a hundred pounds of sugar from you, and you mess with the scale so that in reality he's buying 50 pounds of sugar instead of a hundred, but he's paying for a hundred. You tilt the scale. The Rambam says it's harder to do teshuvah for this than giluy arayot, than sex crimes. So people, the heretics, like Yonatan HaLevi or his friends that run the anti-rabbis, anti-Torah pages on the internet, they say, look, see, these rabbis don't know what they're talking about. The Rambam himself says that giluy arayot, sex crimes, is not such a big deal because if you cheat in business, it's much worse.

23:58All this proves is they don't know how to read. That's all it means. That's all it proves. They don't know how to read. And probably didn't go to yeshiva, and everything he says on the internet that he studied with Rabbi Peretz and all the other people, simply didn't happen. I would be surprised if they even know him. What the Rambam is clearly saying, if you check every source, is that to do teshuvah for wasting seed is much easier than for stealing. Doing teshuva for stealing is much more difficult than doing teshuva for wasting seed. Why? Because when a person wastes seed, and he decides to do teshuva, practically speaking—not the whole aspect of it, just practically speaking—what is it? He decides to stop. That's it. Finished. He stops. He stops. I'm sorry, Hashem. Finished. That's teshuva. There's obviously other steps, but in essence, practically speaking, what steps do you have to take? Decide, stop, finished. When it comes to stealing, rabotai, it's not so easy. Why? Let's say you stole $100,000, but then you feel bad. You feel bad about it. It's like, oh, you know, I shouldn't steal. You know what? I'm going to do teshuva. I'm not stealing anymore. Good for you, you're not stealing anymore, but you're still a thief.

25:23You still cannot enter Gan Eden. What do you mean? But I stopped stealing. You stopped stealing, but you still have to make up for the money you stole. Yeah, but I spent it already. Too bad. Until you return every penny you stole, you cannot enter Gan Eden. What if I don't have it? Too bad for you. Should have thought about it before you stole. That's why it's kashe yoter. That's why it's a more difficult sin than gilui arayot. Because most of the time, by the time you realize you have to do teshuva for stealing, you've already spent the money. And to go get it back, you don't even know how to. You're so used to stealing. The Shulchan Aruch calls wasting seed the biggest sin in the Torah. But it also calls Chilul Shabbat the biggest sin in the Torah. And many other places in the Torah call other things the biggest sin in the Torah. What does it mean, biggest sin in the Torah? Biggest usually means there's one. What does it mean? this, in essence, means these are sins that are not necessarily the biggest in comparison to everything else. Rather, they are part of the 36 sins that, if you commit them and don't do teshuva, it doesn't matter even if you keep the entire Torah; you still don't enter Gan Eden, you have no share of the world to come.

26:42Yeah, but I kept Shabbat. Good for you. You still have no share of the World to Come. He'll pay you for Shabbat. Yeah, but I did this and I gave tzedakah. Good for you. Thank you very much. There are 36 sins like this, that if a person does not do teshuvah for them while he's alive, he has no share of the World to Come. What about all the mitzvot that he did? Hashem will pay him cash. He pays him cash to his face to destroy him. Why? He made this sin without doing teshuvah. You cannot enter Gan Eden. So when it says that wasting seed is the biggest sin in the Torah, it's not in essence saying it's bigger than Chilul Shabbat, or it's bigger than lending another Jew money and charging him interest. It's saying it's part of the same group, that if you violate it, it's as if you violated the entire Torah. So these are sins you simply have to do everything possible to avoid, especially avoid them on purpose. So many, just to say it clearly so you wake up, it's better you die than make these sins. You understand what I'm saying? It's better if somebody gets really high and he can't control himself, it's better he dies than commits it on purpose.

28:05Meaning that a person can never get to a point of thinking, "Oh, it's okay. It's hard for me." No, you have to do teshuva. I'm not saying go commit suicide. What I'm saying to you is you have to do teshuva for it. You have to do teshuva for it. You have to do teshuva for it. There's no other way; you have to do teshuva for it. There's no get-out-of-jail-free card with all the tzedakah you're going to give, with all the good that you did, and so on and so forth. It doesn't make a difference. You have to do teshuva for it. There's a lot of information I'm going to cover. I'm probably going to answer your questions. So the Gemara in Masechet Chullin says that you should know very, very clearly. Bat Yisrael, Ben Yisrael, you should know. If something is happening in your life, It's Hashem talking to you. There was a bad din in Shamayim. They decided, they agreed, you deserve it. Whether for good or for bad, you deserve it. Sometimes it's for good immediately. Sometimes it looks like it's bad, but it's good eventually. Either way, nothing happens for no reason. Now, Shlomo HaMelech says something very, very interesting.

29:27He says in Proverbs Chapter 25, verse 16, Shlomo HaMelech is teaching us a little bit about dieting. He says, if you found honey... Go on, how many? Don't eat too much. Why? If you eat too much, you're going to throw up. Now, does anybody here actually think for a second that the wisest man of all time is really giving you diet advice? The Chachamim explain, "dvash" is a woman. The most beautiful woman in the world it can be. It can even be your wife that's muteret lecha, that she's allowed to you. You found something beautiful? You found something wonderful? You like it? Good. Don't do too much. Why? If you do it too much, eventually you're going to hate it. You're going to throw up. You're going to vomit. Meaning, even with your wife, you're not allowed to be together too often. There are times to be, and times not to be. Obviously, we have part of the reason why Hashem gave us taharat mishpacha (family purity) - to give each marriage a break when it comes to intimacy and focus on spirituality. This is one of the hidden secrets of Am Yisrael's low divorce rates, virtually non-existent divorce rates throughout history.

30:44Together with too often, there are times to be and times not to be. Obviously, we have part of the reason why Hashem gave us taharat mishpacha (family purity) - to give each marriage a break when it comes to intimacy and focus on spirituality. This is one of the hidden secrets of Am Yisrael's low divorce rates, virtually non-existent divorce rates throughout history. Why? We're not like the goyim that, pretty much at any given opportunity, pretend like we're alone and there's not 500 people watching us, even though we're in the mall. The reality is, rabotai, that when a woman is nidah, her own husband is not allowed to even hold her hand. In fact, one of the most difficult things for me personally to understand was, how is it possible to not hold your wife's hand right after, or at least hug her or something, right after she gave birth. Why? She becomes niddah. As soon as the water breaks, she's niddah. You're not allowed to touch her. In all the movies, Hashem yerachem aleinu, that we watched our whole life, the first thing you do, your wife gives birth, honey, I love you, I love you. Some movie said it. Judaism, not to touch her finger after she gave birth. Not to touch her finger. To get hug, kiss, everything. Not to touch her finger.

32:11This was hard for me when I first started doing teshuvah. Why? I didn't understand the magnitude of the sin. I didn’t understand what does it mean, niddah. It's not something wrong with her. It's part of the makeup of a woman. It's part of the makeup of the world. It's also part of what makes her special, holy, amazing. A person doesn't understand these things, he can easily say, no, this one doesn't make any sense. I'm going to pass on this one. And then you arrive in Shamayim and they say, "Yes, sir, this department over there, you see the good one? Yeah, you're not going there. You're going to the other place. Why? You gave your wife a kiss. Why? It's a mitzvah, no? Not during the time you did it. It's a mitzvah when it's allowed. The Torah tells us there are only specific times that you're allowed to touch your wife. But it's specifically because we have to know how to control ourselves." Person who does not know how to control himself is no different than an animal. He's no different than a donkey, no different than a dog, no different than a lion. He's no different than any animal that the goyim like to hunt and put on their walls, like some of my former clients used to do. I had a client who was a spinal surgeon from Texas. For fun, he used to hunt animals and then put them on his wall.

33:34And in Shamayim, a person that violates Tikkun HaBrit, violates Keri HaBrit, they also put him on the wall. They do. It says in Reishit Chochmah, they put him on the wall. The only difference is the animal is dead. The guy is still alive. He says, ah, you liked hunting, didn't you? It's important we know these things because the sin is so big, I'm too scared not to tell you. I'm too scared you'll arrive in Shamayim after 120 years, and they're going to tell you, "Oh, we're really sorry. We're really sorry. I went to a shiur every week. Three times a week I went." "Yeah, we're really sorry you went and never heard it. I went to yeshiva. I went to kollel. I went to the Kotel. I went to everyone. I went to a mekubal." "We're sorry. You went to a lot of places and spent all that time, but you never learned the truth." So Shlomo HaMelech tells us, "dvash matzata..." you have to be careful. You have to be careful with how comfortable you are with your body. You have to be careful with how comfortable you are with your wife. Also, this helps improve marriages both physically and spiritually, that when you know there's a specific time

34:54to be together, to hold hands, to eat together, and so on and so forth. You're going to appreciate that time and value it much more than your average celebrity who gets divorced at least five to six times in their life because they had such "freedom," as they call it. But wasting seed and, in general, immodesty is one of those sins where even if you know it's wrong, it's very hard to do teshuva. The Rambam, as I told you, says this is the hardest thing to overcome. He said it about wasting seed. The Gemara also says that immodesty is a very difficult thing for women. Why? Women like attention. Sometimes they don't get enough attention from their husband, or they get the wrong attention from their husband. their father, their mother, their girlfriends, or whoever it is influences them. They have a very hard time starting to put clothes on because they want to get attention. They like how Steve looked at them and started whistling. They like how Will down the street always looks at her and winks. They like how everybody stops talking when she crosses the street. She feels like she's Moshe Rabbeinu crossing the ocean. She likes it. She likes the attention. Who doesn't like attention? That's the problem. I

36:22It's very hard to overcome even if you know it's wrong. What's the pasuk say about it? Shlomo HaMelech, again in chapter 26, says: "Like a dog returns to his vomit, so does a fool repeat his foolishness." Now until I had a dog... I never understood this pasuk. Why? Because you read this pasuk, Shlomo HaMelech says, wait, a dog returns to his vomit? Why? Once you have a dog, you realize, yes, he does. A dog can eat something. Dogs are pretty much like a living garbage disposal. They can eat anything. But once in a while, it goes down the wrong tube, so they vomit it. Because the wrong tube, they ate too fast, they ate whatever it is. They vomit it. It's completely disgusting. They walk away, they look around. "Oh, you did it? No, no, you're the one that did it." They look at the owner. "Look, you did it? No, no, you did it. Oh, okay, so I'm going to eat it. This is good." They go back and eat it. Every dog. It's not just my dog, old dog, this dog. No, no. Every dog. My dog died about two, three years ago.

37:44The reality is, Rabotai, the dog comes back to his vomit even though it's disgusting. Why? He's a dog. That's the difference. But Shlomo HaMelech says when a person knows that a sin is not allowed When a person knows that a sin is hurting his relationship, hurting her relationship with Hashem Yitbarach, hurting their relationship with their spouse, hurting their chances to find a zivug, hurting their financial situation, hurting their life, hurting their olam haba, hurting their olam hazeh, and he still goes back to it, he's a fool just like the dog. She's a fool just like the dog. She's no different than a dog. He's no different than a dog. He comes back to his vomit. She comes back to her vomit. You heard it's not allowed. Yeah, but I like my mini skirt. Okay, so you're like a dog. Don't be scared. Don't be upset when they call you a dog in Shamayim. Hey, doggy, come on. Come to Gehinnom. Come, come, let's go.

38:56Come, yeah, but I was about to say you treat me with respect. You were about to say we treated you with respect until you treated yourself like a dog. Once you treat yourself like a dog, what do you want from us? You did it. We told you it's not allowed. Now, what's going to help us with time? There's a very famous thing that people like to say all the time: so many difficult decrees we have on Am Yisrael. Every week somebody dies. Every week there's an ason. Every week there's some type of disaster. Somebody grows some type of thing in their body that's not supposed to be there. Every day there's some type of accident, terrorism. How many are so not the happening and just on a daily basis. It's almost like you want to put yourself in a cave, disconnect from all media, all news, all anything and just say, you know, Hashem, I don't want to hear it anymore. There's too much bad news. People say, "Oh, why is Hashem doing this? Why is Hashem doing this? How do we overcome this decree?" So Chazal told us...

40:14Doing teshuva, doing tefillah, praying, and giving tzedakah. The Chafetz Chaim clarified what this means. Because a lot of people think they did teshuva because they started keeping Shabbat, but they still walk around immodestly, they still steal from their partner, they still steal from their customers, but they're sure that they did teshuva. Their kids don't even know the Aleph Bet; they're 12 years old, 13 years old, but they think they did teshuva. They themselves don't know the Aleph Bet because they're too busy working—not because they studied but didn't get to it. They're too busy working, making another million because they need to get another third or fourth house. But they're sure they did teshuva because they started keeping Shabbat and eating cholent on Shabbat. A lot of people think they did teshuva, but teshuva is not so simple to do. You have to stop making sins, you have to commit not to return, and you have to get to a point of regretting them. Teshuva is a process, a lifelong process that needs growth, requires growth on a daily basis. It's not one of those things you can pay attention to maybe once or twice a month like a phone bill.

41:35Second thing is, when it comes to tefillah, many people go pray. Many people, Baruch Hashem, go pray. Some people pray at home, some people pray, you know, with the big chesed. But if we were our own judge, let's set aside what they think about us in Shamayim, if our prayer b'chlal is even counted, the way we pray sometimes. If we were our own judge, we, mamash, looked at our own prayer. And we saw how we pray in the morning. We saw how we pray in Mincha, when we're hungry and want to go eat. You're not allowed to eat right before Mincha, so you want to pray really fast so you can go eat, because the food's hot, it's on the table. Arvit, you're not even sure if you want to do it or not, so you wait until you're half asleep, like you're half dead. You're between this world and the next.

42:37If we were our own judge for our prayers, I'm talking to myself, sometimes I don't even know why Hashem even allows us to pray. Sometimes our prayers are so terrible. The way we're supposed to pray versus the way we pray, Hashem yerachem. Sometimes I see people in Beit Knesset and I ask myself, why do you come? The whole time, you haven't even opened the book. Just this Friday, I went to a Beit Knesset, and I look around. I try not to look around, but sometimes you finish a little bit before everybody else, or some other people, so you're just there, waiting, waiting, waiting, and you're not supposed to ever look behind you, because then you can make the person behind you feel bad that he didn't finish. So you're just waiting, but sometimes there are people next to you, on the right, on the left, and you can't help yourself, you look at them. I'm waiting and I see this kid the whole time. He's walking around the whole time. He's walking as he does. He's maybe 15 years old, not like a little baby. So as he does, he's walking around. He's waiting for somebody to finish so he could talk to him. And I ask myself, why'd you come? Why'd you come now? I can't say anything because I don't know the guy, and I'm waiting for a better moment than before to have other thoughts.

43:56The reality, I see some people, all they do the whole time is talk to each other. The guy, the chazzan is saying Kaddish, to sanctify Hashem's name, and they're talking. It's like you invited Hashem to your house, and you say, Hashem, one second, when I finish with him, I'll get to you. What are you doing with him? You're finishing something important? No, no, I just want to ask him how he's doing. Maybe he knows the score, who won the last baseball game, and then I want his opinion about the stock market. And what does he really think about the wall Donald Trump wants to build? After I finish that, Hashem, I'll get to you. Yeah, but you realize everybody else is talking about Me. They're all sanctifying My name. Yeah, yeah, let them do what they want. I'll get to You in a second, Hashem. I'm busy. That's what talking during Kaddish is. It's the biggest bizayon you can possibly do. It's better a person doesn't come into the world. then talk during the middle of Kaddish. The Melech Malchei HaMelachim, HaKadosh Baruch Hu, you just, everyone, just the whole kehillah, just invited the Shechinah to come to the Beit Knesset, and you're busy talking to somebody else. There's no bigger bizayon than that. How many Batei Knesset do you know of, where people don't talk to everybody? I ask myself, why did you come? It's better off you never came. It's better off you don't even pray.

45:21At least she didn't sin. So tefillah, we need to work on it. Then it says tzedakah. Tzedakah, people give tzedakah. They see a homeless guy, they give him a dollar. Unless they have a quarter, so they give the quarter, but they feel like they're Moshe Rabbeinu, Ba'al Tzedakah. Oh yeah, I help the homeless guy all the time. Why is he still homeless if you're helping him so much? Me, I give to the homeless guy all the time. So how come he's still homeless if you give him all the time? Oh, I give tzedakah to the Beit Knesset all the time. You do? So how come nobody keeps Shabbat in the Beit Knesset? Where's the money going? What's it doing? What kind of Beit Knesset is it? People fund all these buildings. But when it comes to actually helping people do teshuvah, everyone's dumbfounded. When it comes to actually helping Bnei Torah, no, no, they chose that life. Let them live. They chose to live off of $500 a month with eight kids. They chose it. So why should I interfere? I want to build another building that has my name on it. I want the chandelier to say my name in laser. So our tzedakah, if you really mamash look at the tzedakah that we give,

46:42Is it really tzedakah or is it marketing? The Chafetz Chaim gave a peirush worth a million dollars. He said the following: Imagine that there was a river that was flooding and was not allowing people to cross from one side to the next. Stage there are only two options: one, build a temporary bridge; the other, dry the river. Now, even if you build a temporary bridge, eventually it will collapse. Eventually, it won't hold up. That's tzedakah. Even if you give tzedakah to the right place, not the place where the rabbi drives on Shabbat, not the place where the rabbi is bringing a Christian missionary to the shul. No, no. You gave it to the right place. Eventually, the merits from that tzedakah are going to expire. You use them. The bridge is going to break, the Chafetz Chaim says. Eventually, it's going to break. The only solution is drying the river. That's teshuvah.

48:08That's teshuvah. Teshuvah is drying the river. And either one requires tefillah. Teshuvah, tzedakah, tefillah, in this analogy. Clarifies that yes, you need to give tzedakah, but it has to be to the right place. Yes, you need to pray, but it has to be to the right place. It has to be focused, but most importantly, if you just pray and you just give tzedakah without teshuvah, they're worthless because eventually, the merit will run out. Now, there are a few things that a person needs to know about wasting seed. First and foremost, it's hated by Hashem. The Gemara in Masechet Niddah, page 16b, says that each time a seed leaves the body of the man,

49:22There's a malach that goes to Hashem and asks Hashem, what should I do with this? This malach's name is Lailah. And this malach takes the seed to Hashem Yitbarach, to the Kisei HaKavod. And he talks about all of the potential of this seed. This seed could be the biggest rabbi in the world. This seed could be the Mashiach. This seed could be a Mezakeh HaRabim. This seed could be Sarah Imenu. This seed could be Chana. This seed could be Rachel. This seed could be Korach. This seed has a lot of potential. What should I do with this one? But that's assuming the seed is going to the right place. When a person misuses his seed, immediately it's known in Shamayim that this seed is going to get killed. This seed is being destroyed. And the Rambam says, anytime a man wastes seed, it is exactly, not like, it is exactly like murder.

50:49It's 100% murder. But the Gemara elaborates and says that anytime that a person wastes seed, it's as if he brought the flood. Why the flood and not something else? Because the Gemara already knew things that we only discovered in recent generations. The flood—what did the flood do? The flood destroyed the entire world. The flood destroyed millions or billions of people. When a man wastes seed, he's also destroying hundreds of millions of souls that had the potential of being the biggest rabbi in the world, the biggest tzaddik in the world. He's destroying hundreds of millions of them. So the Gemara, already with the Ruach HaKodesh, the Chachamim already knew, without the microscopes and the telescopes and the microphones and the iPods and the iPhones and the scientists that pretend like they know what they're talking about.

51:50Without it. But I already knew. Hashem says, you waste seed, you're bringing the flood. The flood killed millions; you're killing millions. In Shamayim, that's the din they gave the person. Oh yeah, this person, yeah, yeah. This Steve, yeah, Steve just murdered 300 million people today. Wake up, Steve. That was only 9 in the morning. By the time it was 5 o'clock, Steve was already bored again. So he decides to kill another 300 million. And the reality is, Rabotai, a person could live his whole life as a murderer and not even know it because he never saw blood. Because he doesn't realize that the essence of a person is his seed. Meaning the seed is even more significant than the blood itself. If the blood is the juice, the seed is the potion that makes it, the syrup that makes it. Now some people like to make excuses. significant than the blood itself. If the blood is the juice, the seed is the potion that makes it, the syrup that makes it. Now, some people like to make excuses

53:15They say things like, no, this is crazy. Every guy's addicted to it. Every kid's addicted to it. No one's talking about it except you and Rabbi Mizrachi and Rabbi Alon Anava and Rabbi Zitron. You guys are only four. There are thousands that don't talk about it. If it was so important, if it was really the worst thing in the world, of course my Rebbe would say it. At the kolel, at the yeshiva, at the beit knesset. Of course my rabbi is the best. My rabbi knows more than you. My rabbi is from birth. My rabbi, I think he was at Mount Sinai, my rabbi. How come he's not talking about it if it's so bad? Maybe your rabbi knows that if he told you, it would fall on deaf ears because you're not really interested in doing teshuva. Maybe your rabbi doesn't know himself because he focused on other aspects of the Torah and he fell asleep during the shiur when it came to wasting seed. Maybe your rabbi had a bad rabbi. I don't really know, and I don't really care what your rabbi's excuse is. The point is it doesn't change what the Chachamim wrote. It doesn't change what Hashem wrote. It doesn't change what every halacha says.

54:29Nowhere in any halachic book in the history of Am Yisrael did anyone ever say it's permitted to waste seed. Nowhere. There's not a single Chacham that ever says you're allowed to waste seed on a regular basis. There's not a single Chacham saying that you're allowed to do it because you're addicted. You're allowed to do it because it's fun. You're allowed to do it because you're single. You're allowed to do it because you're depressed. You're allowed to do it because of whatever other excuse people give you. No one ever said it's allowed. In fact, they said it's the worst sin in the entire Torah. The exact opposite. So much so that even before Am Yisrael received the Torah, even before Am Yisrael was even born, it was not allowed. Er and Onan, the children of Yehuda, both got killed by Hashem because they wasted seed. The entire generation of Noach got killed because they wasted seed.

55:40Neither one of them were Jewish; neither one of them had a Torah like we do. Still, Hashem killed them on the spot because they wasted seed. This means that it is not only forbidden for Jews; it is forbidden for non-Jews. It is specifically considered disgusting to Hashem. Now, a person that wants to continue listening... To the emet but ignoring it at the same time. Yeah. Yeah, everything is true. But listen, I can't do anything about it, I'm addicted. There's a pasuk for them also. David HaMelech in Tehillim 115:17 says, "Neither the dead can praise Hashem, nor any who descend to Duma." Says the dead people, they can't praise Hashem. They're already in Gan Eden. But also, who else can praise Hashem? The people that are handled by Dumah. Who's Dumah? It's a special Malach that handles people with a lot of excuses. Oh, you can't keep Shabbat? Go to Dumah. Oh, you can't stop wasting seed? Go to Dumah. You can't wear mother's clothes? Dumah is going to handle you too. There's a Dumah department. He's a Malach the size of the world. He can handle many people all at the same time.

57:13The Rambam writes in Mishneh Torah, Hilchot Deot, chapter 3, halacha number 3: One should act with subconscious feeling and intent in his heart that he should have a son, meaning even when he is with his wife. shouldn't just think, "Oh, I just want to have fun." You should think, "I should have a son." He's allowed to do it. He's allowed to be with his wife even if she's pregnant and he knows he can't make her pregnant again at the same time. Or she's already old enough where she can't have kids. Still, because you're allowed to enjoy as long as you're following the law, but still on his mind, he should always think about, "My seed, the intention of my seed is to have a child." Perhaps the son will be wise and great in Klal Yisrael. Whoever walks in such a path, whoever has such a mind that is constantly thinking about bringing good to the world, bringing good to Klal Yisrael, the Rambam writes if he does it all of his days, he will be serving God constantly, even in the midst of his business dealings, even during physical intimacy.

58:28His intent in all matters is to fulfill his needs so that his body be whole to serve God. The Rambam says a person that wants to get to a level higher than a malach, higher than an angel... All he has to do is think about God at all times. During business, but also the physical aspect. At all times. If a person is constantly thinking about what's the point of what am I doing? I'm doing business so I can make money, so I can give tzedakah, so I can feed my family, so I can do mitzvot. Okay, you're thinking of Hashem. I'm being intimate with my wife so I can bring children into the world. Why? Because I want to bring more tzaddikim to the world. There's enough resha'im. Bring tzaddikim. if you're thinking, "What's the point of doing everything you're doing?" you could literally become higher than a malach, higher than an angel. This is the type of thought process that a person is supposed to get to eventually. Now, for all of those people that think, "Wait a minute, you know, you realize that almost every guy is addicted. So what, Hashem is going to put everybody in Gehinnom?" Well, we went over this also.

59:40The Gemara in Masechet Ta'anit, page 10a, says Gan Eden is 60 times the size of Earth. Whatever the size of Earth is, I'm sure some scientist has calculated exactly the size of Earth. Whatever that is, multiply it by 60, that's Gan Eden. There's two Gan Edens. There's one here, physical, and there's one spiritual, above and beyond. That one is 60 times the size of Earth. Gehinnom is 60 times the size of Gan Eden. Meaning not only is it bigger than Gan Eden, it's 60 times the size of Gan Eden. But some say, no, no, it's not 60 times the size of Gan Eden. There's no size to Gehinnom. Why? It continues to grow. Now anyone with a little bit of sechel asks themselves, why is Gehinnom continuing to grow?

1:00:41Not enough. No, there's more entrance every week. Every week more people join Gehinnom and not as many join Gan Eden. Why? Because apparently they haven't done teshuvah. This Gemara is a very simple Gemara. Anybody could read it. Anybody could see it. It's literal. It's not one of those things where you need to be a big chacham to understand it. This is what it says. You have a problem with it? Go fight Hashem. Go fight, I don't know, fight the wall. Smash your head against the wall a few times. Hopefully, you get to a good solution. There's nothing I can do about this Gemara. This is what it says, Rabotai. You can't say it's figuratively speaking. It's an analogy. This is what it says. There's no other way to interpret it. Meaning that a person needs to understand. All the excuses in the world to not do teshuva are not going to help a person. Why? Because you can't say, "Why?" Hashem's going to put everybody in Gehinnom. Apparently, He is. Apparently, it's happening. The key to the shiurim is for us not to be one of them. That's the point of the shiur. I promise it's not to put you to sleep.

1:01:58Now, when it comes to immodesty, the Gemara in Masechet Sotah says something very interesting. When there's an increased amount of women that are immodest, as the Torah describes them as women with stretched necks and winking eyes... You know, the kind of women that want to get attention, either by their clothing or by their behavior. Immodesty, by the way, is not just clothes. Sometimes you have a woman with a mitpachat, you think she just came from Mount Sinai, but she's still the most immodest person on earth. I saw this woman, they called her the Rabbanit, but she talked to every single guy in the Beit Knesset; some of them she even hugged. Rabbanit, Rabbanit, Rabbanit, Rabbanit, Rabbanit. She had a kisui rosh though. She had a kisui rosh, but Rabbanit, Rabbanit, everybody's a friend. Don't want you to know there's a husband, the Rabbi, everybody else. They have a neat Rabbanit. She misses issues; hopefully, she watches. It says a person like that, with a stretched neck and winking eyes, is a woman who likes attention. People that do something to get your attention. She laughs like an obnoxious cow. I

1:03:19wants to make sure you know that she's the one laughing. She talks loud enough for the neighbors to hear. You know, some people walk around with the phone, "Yeah, yeah, so what do you think?" They make sure that the neighbors and the guys in the store, everybody listens. She wants everyone to know you bought it. "Wow, everybody knows. What? What are you—why are you talking? Are you talking to me?" "No, no, I'm talking to my friend." People get attention. They need attention. They need people to know what's going on in their lives. They have such emptiness. They need attention. This is an act of immodesty. And the Gemara says that when there is an increased number of women that are described as walking with stretched necks and winking eyes, the use of the bitter waters of the Sotah should have been increased as well, meaning that it leads to promiscuity, meaning that it gets to a point of immorality. That immodesty eventually leads to people cheating on each other. No, I'm just, I'm not, no one cheats, no one cheats. Well, the proof is in the pudding. Divorces don't happen because everybody just disagrees on money. They also happen because of other things.

1:04:41So, for anyone that thinks that his wife being immodest is not a big deal, you should know she's immodest because you're not giving her enough attention. And if you're not giving her enough attention, you're giving the attention to somebody else. Eventually, she's going to notice it. One of you is going to do something about it. It's a race. Who goes first? It's a race. Who's going to do it first? Either him or her. One of them is doing something at some point. Somebody gets sick all of a sudden. He doesn't love her anymore. What do you mean? You don't love her anymore just because she got sick? No, you didn't love her before. Oh, he lost his money. Oh, she wants to leave. "I hated you the whole time." What do you mean you hate me the whole time? You liked me when I had money? No, no, really I hated you. Breakups don't just happen because of crises. They broke up before, but they tolerated the relationship because of certain conveniences that happened and He modesty is one of the fuels to the fire. Once we are done with this section, I'll tell you some other things that we haven't covered.

1:06:13Now, one of the Gedolim that spoke about wasting seed was Rabbi Aharon Rata, zatzal. Rabbi Aharon Rata said that a woman who causes men to sin because she decided to put a picture on the internet and she wants to make sure that everybody knows exactly the shape of her lips because she puckered them. She wants to look cute because she saw a movie star do it and She wants to feel like she's in Hollywood. She's hoping that Hollywood catches her image on Facebook. And maybe they call, like, "Wait, we saw your picture? You're hired. You're hired because we saw your picture like that. So you're hired. We're going to put you in a Blockbuster movie. $50 million because you puckered your lips." Every woman, she takes pictures, she puts them on the internet. She wants to make sure everybody knows she can pucker her lips. She looks cute. She puts on the most immodest outfit in the world. Everything.

1:07:18A woman doesn't realize what kind of damage she's bringing upon herself by doing such a thing. Any smart woman would never put any picture on the internet. And if it's for the sake of a shidduch, no more than a headshot. Let's say you want to send it for a shidduch, because in this generation, unfortunately, we have to have shidduch resumes. It shouldn't be more than a headshot. Just your face. If they want to see the rest, they should meet you. unless there's a special shadchan and so on and so forth, people that know what they're talking about, and there are certain things that you could talk to your rabbi about. If they want, let's say, a full profile because they're really, really picky or something like that. But in reality, in reality, rabotai, on social media, exchanging on text messages, on WhatsApp, any smart woman would never, ever put her picture out there. Have one student that told me, "I got a job and they told me they want to take a picture to put on the website." She said, "I don't want a picture." They said, "Yeah, but we have to have a website. You have to know who they're talking to." She said, "I won't take the job, then." Okay, okay, no picture, no picture. Don't look at a gray screen. To look at a gray screen is fine. Why? It's better they look at a gray screen than looking at a woman. Women don't understand how sick the mind of men is. They honestly don't understand.

1:08:43They don't understand how sick men are. We're sick unless we have Torah. Women don't see it that way. Why? Because they think we think like them. I've said this a thousand times, and still, people are surprised. A woman looks at a man, she thinks about his character traits. Oh, he looks funny. Oh, he looks generous. Oh, he looks sweet. Oh, he looks like a nice guy. That's what she thinks about. She's not thinking, wow, look at his pecs. Wow, his bicep, it's at least 35 inches. That's a nice hug from a guy like that. No one thinks like that. No one thinks like that. Even the sickest woman in the world doesn't think like that. Why? It's not in their nature to think like that. They look at a guy, they think personality. He looks funny, he looks this, he looks that. That's the way, that's it. Guy looks at a woman. It could be his cousin. It could be his sister. Does it make a difference who it is? If she's old enough and he's sick enough, he could think, oh what? Sodom and Gomorrah. Sodom and Gomorrah. His own mother. If he doesn't have Torah, he could think Sodom and Gomorrah about his own mother. No exaggeration.

1:10:04People think, no, but he's my best friend. Best friend, yeah. In a different movie. Different world, maybe. Different gilgul. The dog is a closer friend to you than he is. Reality is, Rabotai, women need to wake up. There's no such thing as platonic relationships. Girls being friends with guys. There's nothing platonic about it. No, but he has a girlfriend. He has a wife with three kids. Yes, and as soon as he gets the opportunity, if you give him the opening, he forgets them. Rabbi Aharon Rata says a woman who causes men to sin because of her immodesty, immodest behavior, immodest dress, immodest laugh, Yimara's picture, anything, will not be released from Gehenom until all that she created, meaning all the demons that she created from his wasting seed, are destroyed from the world. Yeah, but he's the one that did it. Why is it my fault? Because you caused it. You're a partner to the crime. If the mob boss sends his criminals to go kill people, who gets arrested? Everyone.

1:11:26It's not just the guy that killed. It's the guy that sent them too. And the guy that came up with the idea. And the driver. All the people involved get arrested. But here, according to the Torah, the woman is just as guilty as the guy. No difference. And until that is destroyed from the world, until they all do teshuvah, she is in a very, very bad shape in shamayim. What about if I did teshuvah already, but I made sins in the past? Well, you have to start doing kiruv to make sure that you destroy all of those sins. You have to get other people to do teshuvah. Because you don't know who looked at you. You don't know who sinned because of you. You have to start getting people to do teshuvah on a regular basis. Because Hashem only knows how many people sinned because of you. David says there's a very big secret of how to do teshuvah, a very big secret of how to stop. Chapter 34 of Psalms, verse 14: "Go sons, listen to me. I will teach you the fear of Hashem." David could have chosen any subject in the world to tell you that he could teach you. He knew all of it.

1:12:54spoke to Hashem. He could have told you, "Go, my sons, I'll teach you algebra." "Go, my sons, I'll teach you how to fly rockets." "Go, my sons, I'll teach you about banks. I'll teach you about the stock market." He didn't say that. "I'll teach you Kabbalah." He didn't say that either. What did he say? "I'll teach you the fear of God." That's the secret. you fear the punishment, you start teshuva. You don't fear the punishment, everything you're doing hasn't even begun. If that's not enough, there's a pasuk in the Torah in the book of Devarim, chapter 6, verse 13—613 like the mitzvot. Moshe Rabbeinu tells Am Yisrael clearly, so there's no confusion. It's a pasuk in the Torah. It's not Yaron Reuven like people think, "Oh, you only talk about Yirat Shamayim. Fear, fear, fear." No, so now you don't have complaints against me. Go to Moshe Rabbeinu. Moshe Rabbeinu, it's section A in Gan Eden. Go over there. He'll give you an answer. Right next to Kissei HaKavod, you'll see on the right side, Moshe Rabbeinu.

1:14:10What do you say? Why does Hashem, what does Hashem, your God, ask of you but simply to fear Him? In so many words, Moshe Rabbeinu is telling us what's the purpose of you? What's the purpose of your life? What does Hashem even need you for? Why are you in the world? Just to fear Hashem. That's it. Yeah, what about loving Hashem? Yeah, love Him too, eventually. But first fear Him. Because without fearing Him, everything else is meaningless. This is one of the most difficult things for people to understand in this generation. For some reason, fearing Hashem has become a curse. Fearing Hashem has become like a bad word, like a bad thing to do. And without it, rabotai yekarim, without fearing Hashem, we have nothing.

1:15:10There's a few books that anyone who wants to go into more detail could look into: "Taharat HaKodesh" by Rabbi Aharon Rata, "Karnot Tzaddik" by Rabbi Eliyahu Mani, one of the giants of Iraq, and "Zera Kodesh." These are three major books that have been written about the issues of wasting seed, immodesty, and the like. They talk about things that are much, much harsher than what I told you. What I just said to you for the last hour is like kindergarten next to what you're going to find in these books, if that much. They talk to you about how they're going to put you in Gehinnom if you don't do Teshuvah for wasting seed, and they're going to start with the hole that you wasted and then they're going to rip it apart into 50 million pieces and make sure that you remember this was not what you were supposed to do and...

1:16:10And then the woman who liked to expose herself because she wanted to make sure that everybody knows she's around, they’re going to hang her by her sex organs on the wall as a display, like my clients used to hang animals. These are the types of things that Tzaddikim, Kodesh Kodashim, wrote. You can see much more of it if you'd like. We're not going to go into it because we've already done a shiur about Gehinnom. I'm going to give you some other things on how to fix this problem. Rabbi Eliyahu Mani, who writes a lot of things that are mamash a tragedy to even read. If you don't cry, that means you're probably not alive. Some of the things that he writes about what happens to people who don't do teshuva. He writes that a person that wastes seed, a person that's not careful in Perek Aleph, the first perek, part seven. Whoever is not careful... the issue of wasting seed, meaning even if it is accidental, not just intentional. But all intentional, of course. Meaning he doesn't watch his eyes; he looks at anything that moves, which of course is going to lead him to having dreams, and he's going to end up wasting seed, and

1:17:27He eats certain foods right before he goes to sleep. He doesn't care about what he eats, what he does, what he watches. He doesn't care. He just thinks, "No, no, I just don't do it on purpose and I'm fine, right?" He says he's not careful. Of course, he's going to lose all of his money. And if he does it on purpose, Rabbi Eliyahu says to us, all of the curses in the Torah, in Parashat Bechukotai, come upon him. Why? Because if you see in the Torah in Parashat Bechukotai, it talks about resha'im who don't do teshuva. It talks about people that treat Hashem with casualness. What's casualness? What's keri? Rabbi Eliyahu Mani says it's also in regards to wasting seed. But this one is not even if he does it on purpose. It's even accidental. All of the curses of the Torah come upon him. Hashem yerachem.

1:18:28Why weren't you careful? Why don't you read about it? Why don't you work on it? Why are you so careless? You don't realize it's a big deal. It's seed. It's neshamot coming to the world. He says a person that people know he does it, they put him on nidui. Meaning in minyan you can't count him. Everybody knows this guy wastes seed. This guy's promiscuous. Technically, you're not allowed to count him in minyan. This probably kills most of the minyanim in the world. Anytime you see a tzaddik die, say, "Oh, why did Hashem do this? It's because of people wasting seed." Rabbi Eliyahu Mani says on page 118 that the number one cause of death of tzaddikim is people that waste seed. People that waste seed create demons that look like dogs and pigs, and these dogs and pigs come to hurt them.

1:19:30One of the sources that you can see is in the Gemara Masechet Shabbat 151b. Rami bar Abba says, "A wild beast does not gain power or ascendancy over a man unless the man appears to it like an animal." Meaning, Hashem created the animal Such a way that He told Noah that the animal is going to be afraid of him. Typically, the dog is supposed to be afraid of a human being, the lion is supposed to be afraid of the human being, the cat, the dog, the rhino—all of these animals are supposed to be afraid of human beings. But when are they not afraid? not afraid when that man has ruined and damaged his neshamah as a result of wasting seed. Now, he appears to the animal like another animal—not visually looks like an animal, but the lion doesn't think you're a lion. However, the neshamah, the aura that's being projected from that person, no longer scares the lion, no longer scares the dog, no longer scares the cat, the alligator, and so on and so forth.

1:20:58This is why Rabbi Chanina, right after it, says it's forbidden to sleep alone in the house. Whoever sleeps alone in the house will be seized by Lilith. Who's Lilith? The wife of the Satan himself, who is responsible for helping every man commit the sin of wasting seed, even when he doesn't want to. Why does she come? Because this person has already committed enough sins to make himself look like an animal in the eyes of Hashem. So he's careless about everything. He's careless about how he sleeps. He's careless about what position. He's careless about all the things we're going to go over in a few minutes. As it says, somebody comes to become purified. He does all the actions to do sins. They help him in Shamayim. You don't watch your eyes? We'll bring you the girl to look at. You want to steal? We'll give you an open door to steal. You want to do all types of crimes? Hashem will help you do crimes.

1:22:18And Rav Eliyahu Mani says even if he's born with a fortune of good mazal and... Certain people are born into the world where they're supposed to be rich. They're supposed to be good-looking. They're supposed to be something good in the world. Rav Eliyahu Mani says even if he's born with a fortune of good mazal, all will be turned until he becomes poor and loses all the things that he does. To the extent that even the place he lives will start rejecting him. As in, the land will vomit him. Meaning a person lives somewhere in the world. He lives, doesn't have to be Eretz Yisrael. Let's say he lives in Los Angeles.

1:23:31And in Los Angeles, he commits crimes with every woman who looks at him, every woman who pays him attention. Sometimes without a woman, sometimes he's by himself, sometimes he's with somebody. Whatever the situation, eventually this person was supposed to be someone special in Am Yisrael. Such a person can get to a point where everything he does in Los Angeles will fail. Meaning not only will he lose money, not only will he not be able to have kids, not only could he have sickness, but literally anything he does while he lives in that place will fail miserably and permanently. Why? Because even the land itself becomes disgusted with him and all the sins that he committed, and it vomits him out. doesn't want him there. New York doesn't want him there. Los Angeles doesn't want him there. Ohio doesn't want him there. He can't go anywhere. Everywhere he goes, he makes no sense. He doesn't know why everybody hates him. In chapter 2, he starts talking about how to fix all of this. How to fix all of this. And these are the things that each one of you should probably take notes and write down.

1:24:44if you don't have a pen, then I don't know what shiurim you were listening to in the last few shurim. I've told you to bring some, but you should write this down and go over this as if you're reading the Torah itself. These are the things you have to do. If you don't do them, if you skip one, you skip two, you skip three, before you know it, you're going to forget to do it, and it's not going to become second nature. First and foremost, the person needs to watch his eyes. This is a given. This is something we all know about. We're going to go into details in a moment. But he has to watch his eyes to the extent that he's not even allowed to see animals doing what they do. Some of these Discovery Channels, nature channels, and so on, they show the public how animals breed. A person that watches his eyes is not even allowed to see that. Needless to say, he's not allowed to see humans do that. He's not to see anything resembling that, even a cartoon. He also has to watch his mouth. If you curse, you will waste seed. Use the f-word, the s-word, and every other word that sounds like it or is like it as a curse word, and you will end up wasting seed either on purpose, accidentally, or both.

1:26:07Why? Filth creates filth. Something impure creates impurity. If your mouth is like a truck driver, then you will end up wasting seed. You have to speak appropriately. Trust me, I know it's not easy. I came from New York. Cursing was our second language. But if you want to do serious teshuva, this is a must. Next thing is, it will surprise most people where we've already done a whole Mishnah about it. Don't speak to the woman. The Mishnah says, who is this woman? His own wife. Don't speak to her too much, meaning speak just enough to Do what you need to do to maintain the relationship, to pay attention to her, but don't become her second girlfriend, where you're sitting three or four hours talking about the weather and the neighbors and everything else. Talk about the kids, talk about whatever it is that you need to talk about. But don't become best friends with your wife to the extent where you just hang out for three or four hours, just talking nonsense because you have nothing else to do, as if you know the entire Shas by heart and...

1:27:24Talk when it's necessary, talk when it has meaning. Even when it comes to your wife, needless to say, don't talk to strangers if it's a strange woman. Unless she's your manager, your customer, or your boss, you have absolutely no reason to talk to her. I can tell you myself, Baruch Hashem, Rabbi Ephraim and I have spoken I don't know how many hours. think that in all the years that we've talked and all the time that we've spent in his own house. I spent a few months in his house. I lived with him for a few months a few times. Every time I go to Israel, I stay at his house for a month, two months, however long I'm there. I stay at his house throughout all that time. I'm inside his house throughout all of the years. We talk on Skype almost every day for years. I could probably count the amount of words that I've heard his wife say directly to me on two hands and

1:28:25meaning literally I don't think she's ever said ten words to me directly. Same thing vice versa. Now she'll tell him. I'm right. She's right there. I'm right here and he's right there. She'll tell him to tell me. I'll tell him to tell her. Why? She's his wife, not mine. Same thing with my wife. He has never spoken to my wife. Not even ten words. He has never spoken to my wife directly, ever. I Like never ever ever, not once, not twice, not seven times, never. Now he's the one that helped both of them convert. I mean, he had to teach us. He would teach me, and I would tell her. And it's not because of a language barrier, trust me, it's because that's the way it is. There's no such thing as, "Oh, no, she's my friend's wife, so we talk." No such thing. There's no such thing. People have their friends' friends come over and, oh, is Joe here? Oh, he's not here? Okay, I'll have coffee with you. Guys come over to their friend's house when they're not even there. It's assur, it's yichud.

1:29:40You have to be so careful. You have to be so careful. If you treated your wife like she's a priceless diamond, this wouldn't happen. But people treat their wife like she's some rat they want outside. Of course she's going to go outside. No, honey, call my friend for me. Let me ask him what he's doing this weekend. They make their wife their secretary to call their guy friends. And then they're surprised she doesn't want to be with him. She wants to be with his friend. or vice versa. He starts calling her girlfriends. "Oh yeah, Martha and Samantha said that they're not coming this weekend. What do you think?" "I don't know. Ask them what they're doing next weekend." So he calls them back. "Hey, so what are you doing?" And he starts chit-chatting, becoming friends with them. Would you talk to Martha? You talked to my friend Martha? Why are you talking to my friend Martha? No, I was just checking on her. Yeah, I felt bad because the last time I spoke to her, she sounded depressed. I was checking on her. Why are you checking on my girlfriend? Why do you care she sounded depressed? In the secular world, everything I'm saying to you sounds strange and

1:30:52That's why their divorce rate is 80 to 90%. In the Orthodox Jewish world, there's no such thing as girlfriends for a guy. I'm telling you, with my own rabbi, we talk, Baruch Hashem, every day. It's an amazing thing. His wife is right next to him. I don't see her. She's out of the screen. My wife's right next to me sometimes. She doesn't see her. She's out of the screen. What? What are they going to be on the screen for? What? But she wants to say something. Say it to me, and I'll say it to him. Say it to him, and he'll say it to me. They want to talk to each other. We talk to each other. We leave. Why? It's not our business what they want to talk about. There's a certain code. Certain level of respect, a certain level of how you treat your wife. It's supposed to be a treasure. It's not closing her in or suffocating her or anything like that, like some foolish people think. You have to realize if she's your wife, that means you, at some point, thought that she was the most valuable thing on earth, that you cannot live without her. If you didn't, then I don't know why you married her.

1:32:05If you think you can live without her, then you should have married somebody else. That's the point of marrying somebody. Because you come to terms that you can't live without her. You want to replicate her. She wants to replicate you. That's the point of marriage. The reality is people treat their wives and their husbands like they’re toys. No, I don't want to play with it anymore. Old news. You play with it. You go. You play with it for a week or two. Let me know why you like it. Maybe you keep it. Give me your toy. It's very important to treat our spouses with a certain amount of respect and a certain amount of protection because that is what preserves our relationships, Rabotai. Further, he says that a guy shouldn't even get to a point of even touching women or their clothing.

1:33:06All of these men that are in the clothing business, if it's women's clothing, they should probably find a different profession. Find something else to sell. There's plenty of other things to sell. Why? Because unless you can find somebody to touch it, unless you can find somebody to look at it, and you can focus just on numbers, you're going to end up sinning. All of these guys that do the hair for women, there's no way for them to avoid Gehinnom. These guys that sell clothing to women directly—men selling to women—there's no way for them to avoid Gehinnom. No way. It's impossible. Why? You look at women's clothes, you think about women. You think about women, you think about what they look like without the clothes. That's the way we were created. You can't defy nature. This is the way we all are. You can't change it. You cannot change it. Only way to change it is just not to be there. That's not changing it. That's just simply avoiding it. Further, don't waste your time being sad. Some people like to, you know, a lot of Israelis including myself, used to like listening to sad songs. Shirei deka'on is an actual genre of songs in Israel called depressing songs.

1:34:31It's like the kind of songs that, by the time you're in the middle of the song, you want to take your heart and just throw it in the garbage. The guy can't believe it. Why'd she do it? Why did he do it? You want to cry during the song. I, like a lot of Israelis, like it. I don't know why. We were much like crazy people, but that's the way it is. We like it. Don't do it. Why? Sadness leads to wasting seed. Sadness leads to wasting seed; sadness leads to promiscuity; sadness leads to a lot of problems. In fact, there's a whole pasuk in the Torah in Parashat Ki Tavo. Hashem says to Am Yisrael, why are you getting this punishment? Because you did not fulfill My mitzvot with happiness. In Parashat Ki Tavo, Deuteronomy chapter 28, verse 47: "Tachat asher lo avadta et Hashem Elokecha b'simcha u'vituv levav." So Hashem is saying, because you didn't serve Hashem, your God, with happiness and a good heart, you're going to end up serving your enemy.

1:35:49Meaning, a person that's sad on a regular basis, depressed about his life because he didn't get to where he wants to be, she didn't get to where she wants to be, her zivug left her, his zivug left him, all of these things that make people sad, get over it. Why? You don't. You're letting the yetzer hara park in your house. And the yetzer hara, he's not looking for you to make small sins. He's looking for you to start with small sins. And then he takes over the entire account. Tire count, meaning he's gonna lead you to promiscuity. He's gonna lead you to wasting seed. He's gonna lead you to the worst possible things that will disconnect you from Hashem completely. Listening to unholy music, unholy things, any type of secular music, non-kosher music, non-Torah music is going to lead a person to wasting seed and... People that like to listen to rap full of curses, people that like to listen to hip-hop full of curses, people that like to listen to these types of songs that talk about arrogance, money, promiscuity, all types of garbage. It's not just bad for your time, it's bad for your neshama. It's bad for your neshama. You listen to it, you're going to think it. You're going to think it, you're going to do it. That's why the Rambam paskens, he says,

1:37:13are worse than aveira. Thinking about the aveira is even worse than the aveira itself. Why is thinking about the aveira worse than the aveira itself? Thinking about sin is worse than the sin itself. In Guide for the Perplexed, in Moreh Nevuchim, he says because when you do an aveira, you do an aveira, it's everybody sees. People see, God sees. But when you think about an aveira, Only Hashem sees. Meaning, when you commit an aveira, you don't care about anybody. You don't care what anybody thinks—not God, not people. But when you think about an aveira, you think about sins, that means that dafka you're going against Hashem only. This makes it much worse. Why? Hashem says, okay, he doesn't care about anybody. He doesn't care about Me. He doesn't care about his wife. She doesn't care about her husband. She doesn't care about her kids. She doesn't care about anything. But when you think about the sin, only Hashem knows what you're thinking. Hashem says, so... I'm the only one you don't care about. Everybody else you're worried about. You're worried about what she says about you. You worry about what he says about you. You worry about what the dog says about you. You're not gonna make the sin in front of the dog, but you make the sin in front of Me. This is what the Rambam says makes thinking about sin even worse than the sin itself. Also, when you go to sleep, make sure you don't have...

1:38:42Clothing or shoes around your bed. This is predominantly a problem for guys, especially guys that are single, who don't know how to clean up after themselves because they think that some magical fairy is gonna come and clean for them. They leave their clothes on the floor because the magical fairy is somehow gonna appear. Well, news flash: the magical fairy doesn't come the next day. It's never coming. Pick up your stuff. Don't have clothing and shoes around your bed. Why? Rabbi Eliyahu Mani says this also leads to wasting seed at night. Also, spider webs above the bed. Don't ask me why these make sense. I'm not at the level to know why this stuff makes sense. All I know is how to read. I know how to read and I can speak. That's the two things I know. As far as how, who, what, when, and why, that's not my business. All I know is how to tell you. Spider webs above the bed. He says it leads to wasting seed, but also another Chacham says that it also leads to shalom bayit problems. Even if you don't have arachnophobia, it doesn't make a difference. If you have spider webs, clean them. If it's really high, get a chair. If it's too high, get a ladder. Also, people that don't wash their hands in the morning, that don't do netilat yadayim, they're not careful with netilat yadayim.

1:40:08They should know that when you go to sleep, it's 1/60th of death. It's 1/60th of death and when you wake up in the morning, there's a special Malach that's still on there. That Malach is the daughter of the Satan. You're not even allowed to touch your ears. You're not allowed to touch your nose. You're not allowed to touch your genitals. You're not allowed to touch your mouth. The Gemara says it's better off you cut off his hand. than him touching any part of his body before he washes his hands with netilat yadayim. So, a person who's not careful with netilat yadayim, whether before he eats food, after he wakes up in the morning, or even after going to the bathroom, After the bathroom, there is no bracha, but still, for the sake of cleanliness, you should always be conscious of the fact that you have to wash your hands on a regular basis. Every single time you enter the bathroom, Rav Baruch, the one that re-published the book of Rav Mizrachi, the Rav of the Chida, he has a whole shiur on the internet about the importance of netilat yadayim.

1:41:21He says that even if you walk into a bathroom that's filthy like a public bathroom, and you don't use the bathroom, you still should wash your hands. Meaning you don't use the bathroom; you're just going to look at yourself in the mirror because you want to make sure your hair is in place. You did that, wash your hands. Wash your hands for the sake of cleanliness; this is spirituality, not physicality. You didn't touch anything. Spirituality, because if a place is tamei, it's filthy, has a bad smell, there are also other bad things there. Now, some people's bathrooms are better than the Taj Mahal. Some people's bathrooms are fancy-schmancy, and there's no problem going into the bathroom. You don't need to wash your hands. In fact, some people's bathrooms, Rav Yagen, a lover of shalom, said that some people's bathrooms look much better than their olam haba. They invest half a million dollars into their bathroom, but their olam haba is like a homeless shelter. So we should at least invest just as much money into olam haba. Next is sleeping too much. If you sleep too much, you are guaranteed to waste seed. This pretty much affects every single guy that still hasn't grown up, or every single youngster that likes to sleep on the weekends until 2 o'clock in the afternoon.

1:42:45You're always going to wake up with a surprise, and it's not going to be a surprise. Why? Sleeping too much leads to wasting seed, especially sleeping deeply. This, by the way, is one of the reasons, one of the secrets of why the Chachamim don't sleep much. You see in the entire Gemara, you see David HaMelech never slept more than 15 minutes. The Arizal, the Arizal HaKadosh, never slept more than two hours, and he would do it only in half-hour increments. He would sleep two hours a day, but only in half-hour increments. I'm not suggesting anybody sleep two hours a day because we can't do it in our generation. But their fear of wasting seed was to an extent where they were too scared to go to sleep. It's not that they weren't tired. They were more tired than you right now that you're half asleep in shiur. They were more tired than you, but they didn't go to sleep. Why? They were scared of wasting seed. Even though they learned Torah all day, learned 25 hours. Still scared. Sleeping too much, needless to say, if somebody sleeps eight, nine, ten hours a day, you're not being careful with your brit, you're going to end up wasting seed. You're sleeping too much. Sleeping late, missing keriat shema, guaranteed to waste seed. Accidental, on purpose, both, sometimes this, sometimes that, every day it's a salad. Sometimes you do both because you want to be machmir in Gehinom.

1:44:08Whatever it is. Sometimes you want to make sure to get VIP in Gehinom. So you do both. You figured you messed up in the morning. Let's mess up at night also. That's what the yetzer hara tells us. Sometimes you mess up in the morning. You make one sin. He says, yeah, you made one sin. Just destroy the whole city. Yeah, you stole one peanut. Just rob the bank now. One sin is enough. But the yetzer hara will make you think that you made one sin. Might as well destroy the whole place. Also, it's treating mitzvot lightly. He says if you start treating mitzvot lightly, you're going to waste seed. Why? Because your mind is not clean. And at night, it's not going to be strong enough that when the Satan's wife shows up, you're not going to be able to beat her. A weak mind has an impossible chance of overcoming these dreams. An impossible chance of having a safe night's sleep when it comes to wasting seed. or anybody that disrespects the sages. You start saying, nah, Rashi, eh, I don't think Rashi was right on this one. Rambam, nah, I'm not really sure. Not really sure. I'm going to finish the point. I'll answer your question at the end. You don't have to raise your hand. I saw it five times.

1:45:22you treat the sages lightly, no good. Or somebody likes to play with his hair. You ever see these guys play with their hair? They put the gel in their hair and they do their hair 500 times a day. In case Hollywood shows up, no good. Why? Apparently, it's going to lead to wasting seed. You're too comfortable with your body. But worse than anything else, everything I read to you until now, there's one thing that's worse than everything. Ga'avah. Someone who is arrogant A person that's arrogant is guaranteed to waste seed, not only accidentally but also on purpose. Why? Because the root of wasting seed is ga'ava. To such an extent that Rabbi Nachman MiBreslov says that people who are ga'avanin, people who are arrogant, end up wasting seed. If they don't have that under control, they're going to become very promiscuous. If they don't have that under control, they're going to become homosexuals too.

1:46:27Once a person does not control his arrogance and starts thinking that everything belongs to them, their body belongs to them, somebody else's body belongs to them, and doesn't control himself, has excuses for everything, she has excuses for everything, eventually, their natural state is not going to be so natural. You have a problem, you can call Rabbi Nachman of Breslov. He's in Gan Eden now, Baruch Hashem. Go and see, maybe he'll answer your call. Now, how do you fix all this stuff? It's probably about 60 different things, maybe more, 70 different things that a person needs to do to fix. This is just briefly from these three books. We're not going to go into detail with everything. We're going to go into detail with only a couple of them, but these are things that Even if you do one of them, two of them, half of them, ten of them, whatever it is, it's good. Everything you can do is good. Just the more you do, the better. First, the different fasts. Different fasts that a person can add to their life. If you're a strong personality,

1:47:42You're able to fast. I don't mean fast and sleep all day. Fast and study Torah all day. Fast and operate, function. If you're like half-dead when you're fasting, don't fast at all. No one needs your fast. The fasts that the tzaddikim do are not fasts where you go to sleep and wait for it to be over. Fasting is for the sake of exerting yourself even more. If you can't do it, don't fast at all. Quite frankly, my own Rav told me fasting is almost for nobody in this generation. Almost no one in this generation can fast. Even on Yom Kippur, when everybody knows it's Issur Karet, almost everybody fails. Everybody can't wait to have the coffee, but it's only nine o'clock in the morning. Everyone thinks about it. Everybody has a problem with it. Everybody is thinking about it. I can't wait until it's over. They look at the clock the whole time. So, to fast electively when it's not Issur Karet, it's almost not an option for people. Meaning, it's not relevant to people.

1:48:43so if you can fast, come to me or go to your Rav who knows about Ta'aniyot, and you could designate specific times that you can fast. Some people do it on Mondays and Thursdays; some people do it on Fridays. You have to know who, what, when, and how. But that's again assuming that you can study Torah the whole day, not that you sleep all day. Quite frankly, I don't recommend it because I think that most people can't do it, and realistically, there are so many other things to do. that are so difficult that this, I think, puts it over the top. Some of the other things you can do are vidui. When you do vidui, learn the meaning of the words. If you're not an expert in Hebrew, learn the meaning of the words in English. What does it mean? Think about what you did that's relevant to this sin. It says "chatanu." What does "chatanu" mean? Oh, it means an accidental sin. I didn't mean to. Why didn't I mean to? Because I didn't learn Torah. Oh, I'm sorry, Hashem. I didn't learn Torah. That's why I sinned. "Avinu." "Avinu" means I did the sin on purpose because I have desires. Not because I hate You, Hashem. I love You, but I have desires. I'm sorry, Hashem, for acting like an animal. Animals have desires. I have desires. An animal doesn't control itself. I don't control myself. No good. I'm sorry, Hashem.

1:50:10Hashem, not only did I sin, I did it dafka to make You mad. I'm sorry, Hashem, for being a moron. I'm sorry for making such a stupid sin, thinking that I could sin against You on purpose and nothing's going to happen. You need to know what it says and so on and so forth. You look at the viduy and you actually understand what it says. Pretty much, we're criminals in almost every aspect of it. Learn what it says; do it, do it in a... Fashion when you're not like some of these people like Speedy Gonzales from the cartoons. Everyone said he came; don't have to worry about any sins. Think about what you did and say, "I'm sorry." Why? Because sorry is teshuva. Sorry is the beginning of teshuva. If Adam HaRishon, Rabbi Shimon bar Yochai says in the Zohar HaKadosh, if Adam HaRishon would have said "I'm sorry" to Hashem instead of blaming his wife, he would have stayed in Gan Eden forever. You would have stayed in Gan Eden. That's it. The rest of the world wouldn't have been created. You would have just stayed in Gan Eden. Just saying I'm sorry. The magnitude of saying I'm sorry. Read Tehillim. Read Tehillim regularly. Women should read Tehillim regularly as if nothing else exists. You should never waste a single minute reading newspapers. Don't waste your time reading the news. It's always the same thing. Somebody died. Somebody is born. Somebody is suing someone. It's the same news every day.

1:51:36Reading Tehillim is going to help you. You should read Tehillim on a regular basis. You want to read Tikkun Haklali like Rebbe Nachman Breslover. You want to read the entire book. But, if you can't do the whole thing, do 5, 10, or 15 chapters a day until you finish the whole book. the specific Tehillim that are meant for specific issues, I personally recommend reading the whole thing. Meaning, if you can't read it all in one sitting, then read as much as you can every day. You can do 10 a day: read from 1 to 10. The next day, 11 to 20. The next day, 21 to 30. Until you finish the whole book, then start all over again. Start all over again. This will not only get you comfortable with Tehillim, but also help you with Tefillah, because much of our Tefillah is from Tehillim. A woman that doesn't work and doesn't have children should read the entire book of Tehillim every day. Also, there's a segulah that's bedukah, that's confirmed. Someone that needs a miracle desperately should read the entire book of Tehillim 40 days in a row. I know this works. I've seen it happen several times. This is not one of those magic tricks. It's not easy either to read the entire book of Tehillim. It takes a while.

1:52:51But if you're already familiar with Tehillim and you have the ability, you should push yourself to read the entire book every day for 40 days straight. Throughout the entire time, ask Hashem, plead with Hashem for what you want. Obviously, Hashem knows, but the point is we're not skipping. Some people tell me, "What if I do it for seven days but then skip and come back the next day? Is that okay?" No, it's not okay. It's good that you're reading it, but it doesn't count towards the 40 days. It's good that you're reading it; it just doesn't count towards the 40 days. It has to be 40 days straight. Hence the point. It's difficult, but 40 is symbolic of renewal. Next is to work on humility. This is the biggest thing of all. A person needs to realize that everything they have is only from Hashem. Nothing is from you. Rabbi Akiva used to say, if you want to be somebody, realize that you're a nobody. If you think you're somebody, then you're definitely nobody. We're not talking about being self-conscious and thinking of yourself as a loser. That's not what we're talking about. We're saying that anything good that you're doing, always give credit to Hashem. Anything you have, give credit to Hashem. Everything that you do that's successful, everything is from Hashem. Failures are ours; success is His.

1:54:13Don't look for compliments. Don't ask people, "Hey, did you like what I did over there? Did you see this building I built? Did you see this video I made? Did you see this money I made? Did you see this stock I picked? Did you see this wife I picked? Did you see this husband?" Don't ask for people's approval. Why? It's a sign of arrogance. It's not good. Next, never embarrass anyone, including yourself. There's no mitzvah in embarrassing yourself. In fact, these are the items that the Chachamim are saying that will fix your brit. Each one of them fixes your brit a little bit more. If you normally like to embarrass people, make fun of them, or make fun of yourself, if you like to abuse yourself, you stop; this helps you fix your brit. Each one of them takes another facet of it, another aspect of it, another part of it. Very careful and very makpid (scrupulous) wouldn't let you die. Like we said, feed poor people. Any opportunity you have to feed poor people, take it. Don't be wasteful with food. Don't be wasteful with food. Wasting your food is like wasting seed. Each one of these has much more depth than what I'm telling you. But it's going to take five hours to explain each one. So I'm just giving you the basic bullet points and...

1:55:35Don't be wasteful with food because being wasteful with food is symbolic of wasting seed. Seed is the shefa that Hashem gives you. Food is the shefa that Hashem gives you, the sustenance that Hashem gives you—spiritual sustenance, physical sustenance. You waste food, you're going to end up wasting seed. If you're not wasteful with food, you're not going to be wasteful with seed. Also, make sure to eat the remains of the motzi. Sometimes you have two, three, four, or five pieces of motzi on Shabbat. Eat it. Don't throw it in the garbage. This also helps with fixing the Tikkun HaBrit. When it comes to Birkat HaMazon, when Birkat HaMazon comes, make it as if it's the only thing that exists in the world. If you have full kavanah during Birkat HaMazon, it's a major tikkun for the Brit. Major tikkun. Like you have to act like Birkat HaMazon is the only thing that exists. Do it out loud. Try to even do it as a song if you want. Enjoy it. Connect to it. Don't be one of those people who breeze through it because you can't wait to get to something else. There's nothing more important than Birkat HaMazon. It's more important than Shema Yisrael. And it also helps fix the Brit. Next, he says, this is actually from Rabbi Aharon Ata, this next list: No speaking in shul. If you speak in shul, you're going to end up wasting seed at some point. Why? Because you're being careless about the mitzvot of the sages as well as the Torah.

1:57:00When it comes to Kriyat Shema, Yiddu Kriyat Shema, break Kriyat Shema into a few parts. "Shema Yisrael Hashem Elokeinu Hashem Echad" or "Shema Yisrael Hashem Elokeinu Hashem Echad." And extend the word Echad, the "d," extend it. Break it up. Why? Because it will help you think about it. What does each word mean? And have more kavanah, realize that Hashem is in front of you. This also helps fix the brit. There's also a special prayer that many siddurim have. Many of the siddurim have an added prayer during Amidah, I believe, that talks about all the seed that a person wasted. "Hashem, may You take this seed and put it in the right place, help me fix it," and so on and so forth. Not all siddurim have it. I think ArtScroll has one. Okay, so show them that. If anyone wants it, ArtScroll will show you. He has it in his siddur.

1:58:02...to the mikveh. Obviously, women have to for taharat hamishpacha, but men don’t have to go to the mikveh. However, you should go to the mikveh if you have a kosher mikveh. What is a kosher mikveh? A kosher mikveh doesn’t just mean that it has the 40 se'ah of water. A kosher mikveh means that the people in the mikveh are not walking around naked like they’re dolphins. If your mikveh is full of penguins, and everybody walks around with no clothes, you can't go there. It's not a kosher mikveh. If people know how to be modest, then you can go there. If there's nobody there, then you can go there. But if everybody thinks that they're penguins, then you cannot go there. It's not a kosher mikveh. It's better you never go to a mikveh once in your life. I can tell you personally, I haven't gone to a mikveh for, I don't know, a very long time. A few years I haven't gone to one because I can't find one that's kosher. It makes me sick that people have entire conversations while they're completely naked. Apparently, the issue is not so simple in Israel either; apparently, there are penguins over there also. So, if you are fortunate to have a kosher mikveh without penguins, then you can go. If you don't, then don't go because it'll actually make you commit sins. Looking at the genitalia of another person will make you commit sins.

1:59:27Read Sha'arei Kedusha and Reishit Chochmah. Sha'arei Kedusha, unfortunately, is only, from my knowledge, available in Hebrew. But if you're able to read Hebrew, you should read it. You should read Sha'arei Kedusha and Reishit Chochmah as often as you can. Why? Once you read it, you're never going to want to even look at your brit. Because it'll tell you all the things that I just said, times a million. It will scare you so much that you're not going to want to look. You're going to want to be like Rabbi Yehuda HaNasi. that his entire life he never looked down there. Not that he didn't touch it. He never looked. He never looked below his belly. Never looked. That's why they call him Rebbe HaKadosh. He was so holy he never looked at his brit. By the way, that's another thing. Don't look at your brit. I know this is difficult because people are used to it, and it's their body, and they're comfortable with it. You look at it, it's not going to help you. It's not going to help you at all. It's the opposite. saying, "I can't, I can't," in your mind, thinking, "This guy's out of his mind already. He's taking it too far." It's not impossible. It's not impossible. It's actually very possible. You can do it. You just have to want to do it. If you're single, the Gemara says you could only clean yourself with some type of sponge, a thick sponge. You're not allowed to touch your member with your own hand.

2:00:54If you're single, if you're married, you're allowed to touch your member with your own hand, but you shouldn't anyway. You're allowed to, but you shouldn't anyway, except in specific conditions. In general, you shouldn't touch your member ever. In fact, if you can, don't look at it. This is what you want to teach your kids. B'ezrat Hashem, if you have kids one day, teach them not to look at it. It's the best solution in the world. If they already know from six or seven years old not to look at it, they'll keep their brit their entire life. someone who doesn't learn this is going to become very comfortable with it, and it's going to make their member their best friend. Then, what's going to happen to them? In general, you should avoid touching it with your own hand. In general, if you have to urinate, sit down. If you have to clean yourself, use a big sponge or something that's going to clean it. Don't touch it with your own hand. In the beginning, it's a little weird. It's a little uncomfortable. But after a while, not only do you get used to it, but you get used to the fact that you're uncomfortable with yourself, which is a fantastic feeling. It's a fantastic feeling of Kedusha. To not be comfortable with yourself. Why? Because that way you don't wait to see it.

2:02:11Crying, crying is fantastic. Anyone that cries over his sins, it's very good. If you can't cry yet, there's no shame. Hopefully, you will be able to after this. When you think about what I said, doing what we do every day, being a sandak in a brit milah, being a sandak in a brit milah is also a very good idea. It helps fix the brit. Going up to the Torah as an aliyah once a month. And reading every word with the Ba'al Koreh, word for word, silently. Obviously, don't interrupt him, but read word for word with him once a month. Give tzedakah every single day. Give tzedakah every single day to your ability. If you can give $100 a day, give $100 a day. If you can give $10 a day, give $10 a day. If you give a quarter a day, give a quarter a day. Whatever it is. If you're giving a dollar a day or 25 cents a day, don't send it to me, please. Because the fees on the internet, already the minimum fee is like 50 cents. So if you give me a dollar, thank you very much, but we don't get a dollar. So you don't get the whole berachah, you get 50 cents. You could save the dollars, put them in a tzedakah box, and you give the whole thing at the end of the month. Online, it's not worth it to send small money, like a dollar.

2:03:27Once you get to 10, 20, 50, 1,000, 50,000, a million, then we'll take it. But don't send a dollar because I'm serious. Some people send a dollar a day, and I feel bad telling them that the payment terminals—whether it's PayPal or any of the other ones that we use—eat up half the dollar. But you should give tzedakah every single day. The next thing is that it helps gam ha'brit. Surprisingly, I know that Amos is gonna love this one because he's very, very good at this mitzvah. And b'ezrat Hashem, he will continue being very good at this mitzvah. Oneg Shabbat. Oneg Shabbat is something that we should all be makpid on. Make sure you're very good. Learn from Amos. I'm not making fun. I'm serious. We should all have Oneg Shabbat like Amos. He doesn't look at the price of what things cost. He just buys because it's Shabbat. He told me he has guests in his house, 20 salads, 20 salads, like having at least 20 salads. That's Oneg Shabbat. If you like food, you like Oneg Shabbat, as long as you continue studying Torah. But if you fall asleep like a donkey, then it's not Oneg Shabbat. Then it's a, you just like to eat. Meaning you study Torah, but also you eat and you do all the things that you enjoy. Oneg Shabbat, Oneg Shabbat mechaper al gam ha'brit.

2:04:48Also, lighting many candles for Shabbat. Aside from the two that you light, light other ones. The husband should light some candles if he wants, or the wife could light for him. But the point is to light many candles for Shabbat; it's very good. Giving kavod to people who learn Torah, chachamim, kavod chachamim. You give kavod to the chachamim, supporting chachamim is a tikkun for gam ha'brit. If you're alone, you're praying alone, you're not going to disturb other people. Cry hysterically when you're praying. Fantastic Tikkun HaBrit. Also, learning Mishnayot. Some people say to learn 18 Mishnayot per day. It's a fantastic Tikkun HaBrit during the time of Shovavim, right as we are right now. 18 Mishnayot per day. Or as many as possible, obviously. Learning Zohar does not require you to understand what it actually says, but it still has kedusha in it, even if you just read the words. Read, I don't know, 10 minutes, 5 minutes worth of Zohar, even if you don't understand it, it's still good for Tikkun HaBrit. Looking at your tzitzit, looking at your tzitzit, and also sleeping with your tzitzit. Go to sleep with your tzitzit on.

2:06:06Even though you're not obligated, that's the point. Be the first person in Beit Knesset. Toil to do mitzvot to the point of sweating. You have a mitzvah, you have to get somewhere, you have to do something. Push yourself hard. Anytime Am Yisrael got lazy, Amalek showed up. When we went to Rephidim, Rephidim comes from the word rifyon. Rifyon means laziness. Am Yisrael got to Rephidim, Amalek showed up in the next parasha. Do kiruv as much as possible. This is the ultimate tikkun for wasting seed in the past, and obviously if you ever do in the future. Why? You get other people to do teshuva. You're fixing your prior sins. Become zealous to the fullest extent. So your sins are forgiven to the fullest extent. Being zealous, telling people Mechalel Shabbat Mot Yumat. Telling people Gehinnom is real. It's not a joke. It's not a fairy tale. No share of the world to come doesn't mean emptiness. It literally means eternal punishment. You're not allowed to steal. You're not allowed to be immodest.

2:07:32You know that talking in shul, being zealous, but obviously in an appropriate way. Don't, you know, embarrass people—only when you're allowed to embarrass them. Try to start it with darchei noam, meaning do it privately, one-on-one. Explain to them once, twice, three times, and so on. But zealousness to the fullest extent. No breaks. Why? You're trying to save neshamot. You save their neshamot, Hashem will forgive your sins to the fullest extent. Learn Torah before you go to sleep. Learn Torah at night. Stop lying. Stop saying Lashon Hara. Start your night by sleeping on the left side, then switch to the right. Sleep with a tzitzit, as we said. Some people say to put a stone under your pillow. Some people say kabbalistic pesukim. For the sake of Kedusha. Don't do it unless you're at that level. Because if you say pesukim from the Kabbalah, you say pesukim from the Torah, then you're not ra'ui. You're not at that level. You're actually making the malachim angry, and they'll actually get you to waste seed. You're actually having the opposite effect. I'm not going to go into the Kabbalah of it, but the point is, if you're at a high level, say it. If you're not, you're an average Joe. Don't say these special pesukim. I don't care who told you.

2:09:02Don't remain single. Don't remain single. Get married. It doesn't matter if you have money or not. Your wife doesn't need your money. She needs you. If you think a wife needs your money, then you have no idea what marriage is about. This seudah, anyone that has this seudah, has many, many maalot. We learn from David HaMelech, but also we learn here that it has to do with Tikkun HaBrit. Do every mitzvah with happiness to the fullest extent. Don't be one of these people like, "Ah, okay, fine, I'll come." If you do that, it's better off not to do it. Better off not to do it. If you want to go, like you're doing God a favor, don't do it. Even though it says people that do a mitzvah like that and they think it's okay, eventually they're not going to do it at all. You have to realize, you have to want to do the mitzvah. If you don't want it, get yourself to want it. Push yourself. But at the very least, don't disrespect it. Don't disrespect the mitzvah. Even if you don't want to do it, keep quiet. Keep it to yourself that you don't want to do it. Also, you can say a pasuk, saying it's a pasuk from the Torah. It's a pasuk from the Torah.

2:10:29Light emanates for the tzaddik, for the righteous. Don't give people the evil eye. Don't look at other people's money. Don't look at other people's wives. Don't look at other people's husbands. Don't look at other people's kids. Don't be an evil eye. Don't be an ayin ra. Why? You bring it on yourself that way, and it leads to a lot of sins, including damaging your brit. If you have a good eye, it fixes your brit. Also, learn Tanna Devei Eliyahu. Learn Tanna Devei Eliyahu, and after you finish learning Tanna Devei Eliyahu every day, say Eliyahu Hanavi 72 times. When you say amen, don't be one of these people that says half of amen like "men, men, men, men." Why? Because in Shamayim, I'm going to teach you a little bit of Kabbalah, but in Shamayim every time you say "men, men, men," this is called an orphaned amen. An orphaned amen, it's like an amen without a father. There's no Aleph in this amen. In Shamayim, those amens will go against you, not for you. So unless you're going to say amen, don't say anything. Amen, amen, amen, with full kavvanah. If you just say "men, men, men, men," like you sound like a barking dog, don't say anything. Say amen with full kavvanah; it helps with gevurah. In hitbodedut,

2:11:52But the type of where you're alone, but you're only thinking about Hashem. Don't think about all the things you want from Hashem. Think about Hashem. Nothing else but Him. Don't think about Hashem, give me a car, give me this, give me that. Don't think about that. Just think 5, 10, 20 minutes, a half hour, an hour, however long you can do it. Just think about Yichud Hashem. Think about Hashem. The greatness of Hashem. How amazing is Hashem? You're not going for a shopping list. Just think about Hashem. Trust me, you do that, you'll have a lot of success in your life. Listen to rebuke from a Chacham. If you have a Chacham in your life and he's willing to rebuke you, look for it, ask for it, ask for it as much as possible. Why? If you do that, it helps a lot with Tikun HaBrit. Anytime you have Yisurim, you have any type of suffering, accept it with love. Even though it hurts, it's annoying, it's this, it's that. Say, "Thank you, Hashem. I know it's good for me. I appreciate it, Hashem. Thank you, Hashem. Wow. Thank you, Hashem. Thank you, Hashem. Thank you, Hashem. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you." Why? You don't know why. Just say thank you. Everything is for the good. Accept it with love. It helps with Tikun HaBrit. Give people the benefit of the doubt.

2:13:17Don't assume the worst about people, even though it's very easy to and most likely you're right. Still, give them the benefit of the doubt if they have the right to it. If the person is known to be righteous, give him the benefit of the doubt. But if he's known to be like Hitler, you're not allowed to give him the benefit of the doubt. If he's almost dying and his phone shuts off... sorry, I meant Facebook. Work on bitachon. Work on your bitachon. Test yourself. Saba MiSlabodka used to literally work on his bitachon to show himself that he has bitachon. He would show up to the train with no ticket. He'd sit there. Somebody would sit next to him and say, "Oh, where are you going?" "I'm going to such and such." "Oh, do you have a ticket?" "No." "Oh, the train's coming in 15 minutes." "Yeah, b'ezrat Hashem." "Okay, b'ezrat Hashem, b'ezrat Hashem, you have to get a ticket." "Okay, okay, b'ezrat Hashem, b'ezrat Hashem." And he wouldn't get a ticket. And the guy's looking like, "Well, you need a ticket. You need a ticket, you need a ticket, you need a ticket, you need a ticket." Two minutes before the train comes, the guy goes, "Take a ticket." He goes, "Next time, don't be so crazy. Nobody else is going to save you like me."

2:14:32He says, "Next time Hashem is going to send another person like you. Next time Hashem is going to send." Why? He didn't want to get the ticket. It's not about the money. It's about showing that he knows that Hashem will take care of him. To such an extent that one time he actually had one of his tests. He was known to give tests to himself. He said to people, "I'm going to go to the ya'ar. I'm going to go to the woods to go learn Torah. And I know that Hashem is going to keep the light on for me." He went to the ya'ar and of course it gets dark. As soon as it got dark, he reached behind to see if Hashem was giving him something. Some hand reached out with a candle, a lit candle. He took the candle; he stayed there the whole night. He had this candle for almost 20 years. Light, it never went out. This candle never went out for 20 years. Anyone that wanted to see mamash, the Shechinah, is alive and well, went and saw this candle lit for 20 years. This is the candle. You tell them this is the candle. It was in the yard. It's this. And it's not like, oh, it's a game. It's a hoax. You're making it up. They're there. They're watching it. One day, two days, three days, four days. They're not sleeping, but the candle is still going. He had it for decades. Somebody on his level gets a candle. Hopefully, he gets something. But the point is, you have to work on your bitachon. There are a lot of ways to work on your bitachon when it comes to money, when it comes to...

2:15:56Learning Torah and so on, you have to. If you want some ideas, I can give you some, but the point is to work on your bitachon. Next, become an expert in one mitzvah. Pick a mitzvah that you like, pick a mitzvah you don't like; it doesn't really make a difference. Become an expert in it. Modesty, Shabbat Wasting seed. Pick something big or small—whatever it is, become an expert in one mitzvah. This also helps with tikkun haBrit. Lastly, mesirut nefesh, mesirut nefesh for Hashem's sake. Mesirut nefesh is the ultimate rectification of gam haBrit. Rabbi Aharon Rata says if you do these eight things, you fix your gam haBrit. Emunat Hashem, Kriyat Shema, Achdut Hashem, Mesirut Nefesh, Ahavat Hashem, Kabalat Mitzvot. Look at your Tzitzit and think about Yetziat Mitzrayim. You do these eight things, you'll fix your entire Brit. You don't have to do all this list. You do just those eight things according to Rabbi Aharon Rata. All of them are included in your Kriyat Shema if you have Kavana and you can fix your Brit.

2:17:16says that if you want to fix your Brit, whatever you were learning yesterday, double it. If you were learning one daf per day in Gemara, learn two. If you were learning one parasha, learn two. If you were learning one page, learn two. If you were learning one Tehillim, learn two. Whatever you did, double it. That's Tikkun HaBrit. This, rabotai he'karim, should answer any people that want to actually fix their brit, because if you don't fix it, may Hashem have mercy on you. Unfortunately, nothing else can help you. Nothing else can help you. Go ahead. You had a question. You've been waiting for a while. Ken, that's not part of that. We're trying to fix. I'm not trying to make more sense. Yes. With the way, yeah, I mean, generally, it's ideal not to have metal on you in general. Even wedding rings for men are not a good idea to have at all. Yes, you have another question? Yeah, well, the thing is, though, is that seed is something that is metamtim et ha'adam.

2:18:34People think that wasting seed is not a big deal. They don't realize that the damage caused by wasting seed is, aside from it being spiritual in nature where it ruins the person's olam haba and shatters it to pieces. Aside from that, a person that wastes seed simply cannot learn Torah like a normal person. Everything they learn, they always get to the wrong conclusion. Everything they learn, they have a hard time understanding. They have a hard time explaining it; they have a hard time repeating it, remembering it. They get to the wrong conclusion on much simpler things. Why? Because wasting seed damages your brain both spiritually and physically. explaining it; they have a hard time repeating it, remembering it. They get to the wrong conclusion on much simpler things. Why? Because wasting seed damages your brain both spiritually and physically. and physically. And I can tell you from experience, because I'm one of the very few people in the world that talks about this subject specifically. I have a lot of people—both regular people, old, young, all types of people—that come to me with regards to this addiction for help, and we help them. But I can tell you, the people

2:19:45that have an impossible time learning Torah are always, always, without exception, wasting seed. People that have a hard time doing teshuva, it is always because they're wasting seed. If a person is not willing to stop wasting seed, his teshuva is impossible. Because he's creating so much tum'ah, so much impurity, so many demons that are influencing him to do bad, it's impossible for him to do enough good to fix it. So unless a person stops wasting seed or at least slows it down drastically to the point where it's like random and not on a regular basis like an addiction, It's impossible for such a person to do teshuva, and the reality is it's impossible for them to learn Torah. Without learning Torah, there's no teshuva. There's just Mickey Mouse games, maybe. You know, there's just no teshuva, and I've seen it proven, and I have several people that are practically lost causes. It's very sad for me to say it because I don't believe that any Jew is a lost cause.

2:20:52I think that even the biggest reshaim have an opportunity to do teshuva so long as they're alive. But anyone that makes excuses for wasting seed, meaning they're just not going to stop or they're making excuses to continue because they just can't do it or something like that, they are practically, they're virtually a lost cause. Because any Torah you teach them, they're either not going to remember, they're not going to understand, they're going to get to the wrong conclusion, and simply, it's like talking to a wall. Actually, a wall may do better, because a wall is actually going to understand you. There's a neshama in it, and it'll understand every word you say. This person that's wasting seed won't understand two words. Yes, and the walls have neshamot, some of them. That's a different shiur. It's not neshamot. What happens if you continue wasting seed? You go inside a wall, one of the nice things. So, the point is, Rabotai, is that in this parasha, Parashat Shemot, one of the symbolic things that you can see that has to do with seed is that in the beginning of the parasha, it says

2:22:04Hashem says that the Children of Israel were fruitful, teemed, increased, became strong, very, very much so, and the land became filled with them. There are six adjectives, six words describing how Am Yisrael grew. And Chazal say six words indicating that each birth was six babies. Showing us that if we really did teshuvah, we could become the largest nation in the world—not just in kedushah, but also in numbers. If we really didn't destroy ourselves, we would be bigger than China. So when a person wastes seed, he's having the exact opposite effect on humanity and on the world. then what are you supposed to? The parashah in Parashat Shemot says we're supposed to increase sixfold; you're destroying it by wasting seed. So b'ezrat Hashem, this gives us some more ideas of why to stop, why we should stop, why we should stop enticing guys to look at us because it's not doing you any good. And the reality is, rabotai, this will help all of us b'ezrat Hashem do teshuvah. You have any questions?

2:23:20No, he's a moron. He should have just not done it. He could have held himself. He's not an animal. Everybody could hold themselves. But it's considered—we're not recommending suicide—but it's considered... It's better that a person dies than commits a sin of a sexual crime. But a person who can't, you know, hold themselves either has no rabbi or a bad rabbi. There are many ways that you can control yourself if you're a guy. You know, some of the tzaddikim will say, if it's cold outside, go into the snow. Or you could just inflict pain on yourself. Take your nails and pinch yourself in a very sensitive part of your body. Why? Because you cannot have pain and pleasure at the same time if you're a normal person. If you're not normal, then you need help, and we can help you with this. But if you're a normal person, you can't have pleasure and pain at the same time.

2:24:29Of course, the Gemara says, first say Keriat Shema, say Shema Yisrael, realize there's a God. Then learn Torah. If that doesn't work, think about what's going to happen to you when you go, and you're in the grave, and the worms are eating you. And then Hashem sends worms specifically in that area to make sure that you feel it. The worm is going and eating that part of your body on a regular basis, and you feel every single part of that, every bite. Why? Because Hashem makes sure that you feel every bite. so think about things like that that are grotesque and disgusting and painful even to think about, and trust me, that warmth will run away like the goyim run away from us when we do teshuva. But the reality is that if you don't think like that, if you think, "No, I like it," "Oh, I'm used to it," "Oh, it's hard for me," all the excuses that the Malach HaMavet tells you in your head, then you're a lost cause. So you have to think this way; you have to think that it's either your life you know, it's good or it's bad. It's either destroy your life or it's going to build your life. So Shema Yisrael, learn Torah, think about the day you're going to die. Also, Rabbi Shimon and some of the other Chachamim recommend inflicting pain. Some say pinch yourself, some say take a needle and pinch yourself, some say even take a lighter and burn yourself a little bit. Whatever you got to do to stop the pain, stop the warmth.

2:25:57Cold shower is also very good. Put your feet in ice. Chew ice. There are a million and a half things you can do to stop. If you really want to do teshuva for this, it's very possible. All you really need is desire. Same thing for a woman. If she really wants to do teshuva, she doesn't have to care about the neighbor. She doesn't have to care about her mom, her sister, her past, or her future. All she cares about is Hashem. And she knows, whether I have money or not, Hashem's going to pay for the clothing. Whether I have money or not, Hashem's going to pay for it. Why? It's a mitzvah. Hashem says He's going to pay for it. I'm going to be modest for His people. I'm going to be modest for myself. A person that understands that they live in this world only due to Hashem will find that all of their excuses are a waste of time. There's no excuse. You can do teshuva. It's in your mouth. It's on your lips. It's in your mouth to do.

2:26:57Meaning that you can fulfill the entire Torah easily. All you really need is desire. Desiring to do good as much as we desire to do bad. It's a choice. It's simply a choice. You decide one day, I don't want to be against Hashem. I don't want to be an enemy of Hashem. I don't want to go to Gehinnom. I don't want to go to these scary places. And the reality is that if you believe what I'm saying, which is simply repeating what the sages said, what Moshe Rabbeinu said, what Shlomo HaMelech said, if you believe me as much as you believe some college graduate that just finished med school and he's giving you a prescription for some medicine to get over your cold. You'll do teshuva. Why? Because this guy that just finished college and has half a million dollars in loans that he doesn't even know how he's gonna pay back, gives you medicine. You're not gonna say, "Are you sure it's gonna work? I don't know if I believe you. Is this not poison? Are you trying to kill me?" You're not gonna ask him those questions. Why? Because he has PhD or MD or something on his business card. Automatically, you're gonna believe him.

2:28:06Automatic intake. Oh, he gave me a prescription. Oh, he must know what he's talking about. Why? He went to school for a million years. Well, I promise you, Moshe Rabbeinu went to school for longer. A better school—he went to Hashem. Shlomo HaMelech went to a better school for longer—where? He went to Hashem. Rabbi Akiva, Rabbi Shimon—all these giants, they went to school for a lot longer. They had much better degrees. They're much smarter than this guy. So believe them too. All I'm saying is repeating it. You want the sources, page numbers? You want to look for it yourself? No problem. I think I mentioned most of the sources. But if you want them, I can mention them again. The key is that you have to take this stuff seriously. Don't question things for no reason. Take it at least as seriously as you take the pharmacist. The pharmacist is giving you medicine; Hashem is giving you medicine. Sometimes the medicine hurts because it comes through a needle. But it's necessary for a little pain in order for you to get the pleasure, in order for you to get the cure. So in the beginning, it's hard to do teshuva. It's hard to change your wardrobe. It's hard to stop, you know, being so uncomfortable with yourself. It's hard to change your lifestyle. It's hard to stop looking everywhere like a, you know, some type of toy that revolves its head around all the time. It's hard to change yourself. But if you do it, you will have a much better life, not just in Olam HaBa, but here.

2:29:29You'll have a much better life. I've seen countless people, Baruch Hashem, that have followed my advice, followed the Torah's advice that I mentioned, and their lives have changed drastically. Marriages are fixed, you know, relationships are fixed, teshuva, Torah learning, everything you could possibly imagine. Money. It's Torah, it's simple. If you follow it, yes. Absolutely. Guaranteed Gehinom. He went straight from the window to Gehinom. You can't even say Kaddish for him. Somebody commits suicide, you can't say Kaddish for him. Kaddish can't help them. He's not going to a good place. That's needless to say. Next. Anybody want to go to Gehinom? Raise your hand. Anybody want to go to Kaf HaKela? Raise your hand. Anybody want to go to Gan Eden? Raise your hand.

2:30:31Sonny, which end? Gan Eden. So, we do teshuva, we go to Gan Eden, in this world and in the next. Amen and Amen. Sonny, which end? Gan Eden. So, we do teshuva, we go to Gan Eden, in this world and in the next. Amen and amen.