Wasting Seed is Pgam HaBrit The Self-Made Gehinom

0:49First, I'd like to thank Rabbi Zitron and Chacham Shmuel for arranging the shiur, Baruch Hashem. We had this whole tour of Shiurei Torah this last week, every night, Baruch Hashem. A different shiur, a different location. A lot of chiddushim, a lot of interesting things that Am Yisrael needs to find out. Because apparently, we're in a generation... we're on one end, we're in Yemei HaMashiach, we're at the end of days, and you don't necessarily need to be too brilliant to realize that we're at the end of days. If you just look at the world around you, you watch the news for five minutes, you realize that the world is not the same anymore. If you want to watch the political world, You notice that in Gemara Masechet Sotah, page 49, it gives you a list of things that are going to happen at the end of times. Things that are going to happen right before the Mashiach shows up. I did a shiur about this on Sunday in Staten Island in Or Torah. And it's mamash. We went over each one of the items on the list. And when you read it, it's like reading the newspaper.

2:16it's like reading the newspaper. Everything that the Chachamim said is going to happen, it's happening. One of them is that the leaders of the world, the political leaders of the world, are going to go against the nation. Now generally, this is against logic. Because the politicians are people that, they don't just get their job; we have to vote for them. So, if we vote for them, then technically they should serve us. They should do things for our own interest, not for their interest. But as generation after generation, the corruption continues, it gets worse and worse. The only difference between today and if you just say, let's say, three or four hundred years ago, is that today they do it with a smile. Today they tell you that you're a friend, please vote for me, vote for a change, and the next thing you know,

3:18they're doing everything in their power to destroy your life. One of the recent laws that was passed that's slowly but surely, if Hashem lets it happen, is going to destroy civilization and bring us back to the Sodom and Gomorrah stage, is that they passed a law in the United States that now you have to allow children in public schools to go to the bathroom that they feel most comfortable in. So, if a boy feels comfortable in the girl's bathroom, Ashraf, what's the problem? No one actually thought that rape was going to increase as a result of this. I guess it's a chiddush. You have to actually have an IQ above 5 to know that this is going to increase crime. This is why several states, I think it's 8 different states, actually have an IQ above 5 and they realize this is going to happen so they're suing the government. What's going to happen? We don't know. but you're seeing little by little, society is changing. Less than a year ago, they also passed a law that they wanted to remove the Ten Commandments. There was a statue of the Ten Commandments in a government building, and they wanted to remove it. So we're not only removing logic,

4:40but we're also going, we don't really need Hashem anymore. I would not be surprised if the next round of bills that the government prints are no longer going to say, In God We Trust. We're going to say, Thanks to our hard work. Thanks to the president. Thanks to the stock market. Thanks to whoever they come up with. Not God. ...even though technically most people that read the dollar bill and they see "In God We Trust," they usually think that it means, "Oh, it's the dollar that is God," because unfortunately in our society, most people do treat the dollar like it's God. They chase the dollar more and more, like I did for much of my life, as if it is God. So when you see that, and on the other hand, if you see the war that's happening in the world that's quiet... What's happening? There are thousands upon thousands of people being killed quietly. If you just look at what's happening in Syria and the civil war that's occurring, no one is mentioning that over 250,000 Syrian citizens died last year by their own government. No one seems to care. No one seems to think this is actually valid or important. And unless you actually look for it, you're not going to find it.

6:09So propaganda is increasing also. The only thing you do see on the news on a regular basis is increased anti-Semitism. You're seeing Hashem use His number one tool of anti-Semitism that if anyone wants to look was originally created in Parashat Shemot, the book of Exodus, the first parasha. It was the first time that anyone specifically went against the Jews. At that time, we were Israelites. But anti-Semitism in America, in a recent study, they confirmed that at least 40% of Americans consider themselves anti-Semitic. If our allies are such good friends, you can only wonder what our enemies think of us. But this is all Yad Hashem. This is all in the hands of Hashem. It has nothing to do with us. It has nothing to do with them. It has to do with our actions. But Hashem needs to use these tools. It's a hard topic for people to talk about. People don't like it. People don't like to talk about Germany and the Holocaust. But the reality of it is that this happens. This is Hashem. When someone asks, where was Hashem during the Holocaust?

7:34The very simple answer is, He did it. Just like He created man at the beginning of time, and He created the world, and He created the Torah 974 generations before He created the world, He also did this. Nothing different. Why? Because of what He said in the Torah. Last week's parasha, in America we're a little bit behind Israel. We read Parashat Bechukotai. Parashat Bechukotai is one of two parashot in the Torah that people don't really like to read. In our grandparents' generation and previously before that, these two parashot that are full of curses or punishments used to be read extra loud. People would scream them. Instead of just reading them with a regular voice, they would actually yell them out as loud as possible. Why? Because Yir'ah, fear of Hashem, is a necessary foundation in order to believe in Him. If you have no Yir'ah, you have nothing. Chazal say that a connection to Hashem that's only based on Yir'ah

8:55is an incomplete connection. It's incomplete. It's good. It's a connection nonetheless. You're still getting some battery power. But it's incomplete. You're not going to get to full power. Your iPhone's going to get to 60%. But a connection to Hashem only based on Ahavah, only based on love, is no connection at all. It's impossible. There's no such thing. Why? Why does Chazal say it's impossible to just love Hashem and not fear Him? I love Hashem. Everyone thinks they love Hashem. You ask any half-dressed woman walking in the street, whether she's Jewish or not, "Do you love Hashem?" She says, "Yeah, of course, I love God. He's the best." Everyone loves God except the atheists who created their own religion of not believing in anything, which is a topic of its own. You ask religious people, non-religious people, everyone can say, "I love Hashem." It's very easy to say, "I love Hashem." But to show Hashem we love Him is a different story. Chazal says it's impossible to love Hashem without fearing Him. Why? Because you cannot love something when you don't know what it is. Which means that if you knew just a little bit that we can know—we can't really understand Hashem—but the little bit that we can know through His Torah.

10:19of what He is, and what He's in control of, which is everything, whether it's the cells in your body, or the speech that comes out of your mouth, or the money that's in your pocket, or the wife you're going to marry, or whether you're going to live another week or not, or whether you come into the world male or female, rich or poor, everything is in His power. When you realize He's in control of everything, how could you not fear? If I really believed that He's in control of every single thing that moves, every single thing that doesn't move, every single thing that I see, and every single thing that I don't see, everything, of course I'm going to fear Him. Because I know that even if you want to look at it just scientifically, we said it in last night's shiur, Every one of us has proteins in our body. Trillions and trillions and trillions of proteins. In order for your body to function, it requires these proteins. Everyone says, eat chicken, eat meat, you need proteins. So, that's the source, but what do we do with these proteins? In your body, you have an infinite amount of proteins. But every one of these proteins needs to go through something called a protein fold.

11:46Meaning that they need to fold precisely in a way that's exact. And if they just miss a little bit, miss a little bit, like for example, you know, you see this book. If I close it like this, then it's like that. But if you just throw it around, it could close in a little bit of a different way. It's still closed. Not the same with the protein folding. If one, one of these proteins folds a little bit off, just a little, half a centimeter, half a millimeter, that's where disease comes from: blindness, being crippled, not being able to breathe, not being able to move blood, not being able to function. Just one. Not trillions. Not five. Not five hundred. One. Who's in charge? Who's in charge of folding all of these? The same Hashem. So if I know He's in charge of these protein folds that I never took, you know, never really cared about until now, I should be scared. So if I know just a little bit about Hashem, obviously, I have to be scared. Once I'm scared...

13:09because of the Almighty, then we can start a relationship. Then we can say, okay, now I know what I'm dealing with to some extent. Let's see what else You say. So He gave us a love letter. It's called the Torah. It gives us instructions. Torah in Hebrew also means "orah," which means instructions. Instructions on how to live, instructions on how to succeed, instructions on how to be happy, instructions on how to achieve eternal happiness, and also instructions on how to avoid eternal suffering. The same instructions. Instructions for everything. Everything and anything you could ever want, is in the Torah. Anything and everything that has any good in it must have a source in the Torah. Whether it's a statement, a thought, anything must have a source in the Torah. Nothing new is created under the sun, as Shlomo HaMelech has told us. So now, once we've started this relationship,

14:12Fearing Hashem is the beginning. Eventually, that fear gets to a point where you start kind of liking Him too. Little by little, maybe you fall in love. But when you fall in love with your wife, anyone who's not married, may they have a zivug right away. Keep us away from sins and get us to do the first mitzvah in the Torah. We need more Jews. Fall in love, in the beginning, it's passionate, it's nice, it's amazing. But if you ask a newlywed couple how much they love each other, they'll tell you a lot. How much do you know about each other? Not so much. Because you don't have experience. But if you ask an old Rabbi, 75 years old, 80 years old, who's been with his wife for 60 years, how much do you love your wife?

15:13Can't describe it. A lot? A lot. That which was 60 years ago was a lot. A lot. What's a lot? She's part of me. How much do you know about your wife? Nothing. How do you know nothing? Because everything that I know about her is not enough because there's so much more to her. Discovering her anew over and over again. She's amazing. That's what you can see, mamash. You see the love between an old rav and his wife is much, much better than a 20-year-old that just got married and thinks that he won the lotto. Why? Because the connection has moved from physical to spiritual. And a spiritual connection is eternal. And that takes time. So little by little, we gain this love. But eventually we get to a stage of the highest level of Yirah, the highest level of fearing Hashem, which is not fearing punishment only, but fearing hurting the connection. Hurting the connection between us. A person is not going to raise his voice to his wife, if he's a normal human being, not because he's afraid she's going to slap him—if she's a normal human being, hopefully, she's not going to slap him.

16:33but because he fears that it's going to hurt the connection. Someone gets to a point where they don't want to sin, not because they fear that Hashem is going to punish them in this world, the next world, and all of these things. They fear that maybe I'm going to disconnect from Him. And anyone that knows even a little bit about connecting to Hashem knows that disconnecting from Him for even a minute is mamash gehinnom in this world. Without Hashem in your life, you have zero. I lived like that most of my life. And you only know the value of something when you don't have it. Once you get to the highest level of yirah, which is fearing hurting the connection, then you can begin to think about loving Hashem. Then, the highest level of yirah according to Chazal is the beginning of loving Hashem. It’s the beginning of ahavat Hashem. So how come you hear so many teachers, rabbis, and so on, writing books and teaching about how you should love Hashem, love Hashem, love Hashem, love Hashem? I don’t know. I can’t really answer for all of them. All I can tell you is that it’s an illusion for most people in our generation to start with loving Hashem. It’s just not possible according to Chazal. Not me. It’s not my opinion.

17:56Eventually, you can get there, and eventually, you should get there, and that's what you're supposed to sacrifice your life to get to. But, nonetheless, one of the major issues we have in our generation today is that because we are constantly trying to fit in, we've become a politically correct society. In a politically correct society, you cannot find the truth. You only find things that don't hurt people's feelings. So today's shiur is not just going to be about what I just talked about, that was just an intro, but it's really going to be about something that's a much more difficult topic that is unspoken of in the English language. I only found this out when I looked for it myself. It's called wasting seed. There's obviously other topics we'll throw in as well. But wasting seed, if you notice, anyone that watches Hebrew lectures online, there's a sea of them. A few really strong rabbis have told the people the truth, whether it's from the Zohar, Sifrei Chachamim, Gemara, Torah Shebichtav, many, many sources, which we'll go over many of them. In the English language,

19:22Sadly, I became the third person to speak about it publicly just a few months ago. There's the shiur that I made, which is about an hour or so, a few months ago. Baruch Hashem, very, very popular. I think it's my top shiur. There's Rabbi Alon Anava, who made a few small clips about it, 20 minutes, 30 minutes, and some others a little longer. And then there's Rabbi Mizrachi, who's been telling the truth for the last 22 years, who also has a few clips about it, and he also has a shiur out there that's about it. The fact that I've only been giving lectures for the last couple of years, and I became the third one out of thousands of rabbis that speak the English language, is sad. Why? Because according to Chazal, there's no sin greater. Obviously, there's Shabbat, but aside from that, There's no sin greater than Zera Levatala. There's no sin greater than wasting seed. Chazal say, and we'll go over it with some sources, it's the equivalent of idol worship, including incest, including Chilul Hashem, and a few other serious ones.

20:47All together in one package. It's a nice package deal. Most people don't know this. Every teenager has this problem. Every guy that's in his 20s has this problem. In their 30s, many do. And this sin continues from generation to generation. And even sometimes people that are married who don't know how to conduct themselves with a Torah life also have the same problem. So we're going to talk about this and I'm going to provide you with some sources. But the first thing I'd like to provide you is a reason why rabbis don't talk about it from the Torah. Because Hashem, obviously in His infinite wisdom, wanted to give us information that's eternal. As it says in the Gemara Masechet Megillah, although there are over 1.2 million prophets throughout history, at least 1.2 million prophets throughout history, Only 55 are mentioned in the Tanach: 48 males and 7 females. So we ask Hashem, why? Why only 55? What, the Torah of the 1.2 million wasn't good enough? What happened to them? What happened to their prophecies? Maybe we want to see it. The answer is that the prophecies of the 1.2 million, or the majority of them, were only relevant to their generations.

22:18We understand from here that the 55 we do have, the information is relevant for eternity. No one can say that just because Moshe Rabbeinu didn't have a car, that's the reason why he didn't drive on Shabbat. He didn't drive on Shabbat because it's not allowed. It's not allowed today. It wasn't allowed back then. It's never going to be allowed. So the Conservative and the Reform and the fake religious that drive to the Knesset on Shabbat thinking they're doing a mitzvah, should know this is a very, very big mistake. You're better off staying home, never going to a synagogue one day in your life, than turning on the car for half a second. I actually have one of my students, he's in the car business, and he sent me—he's an engineer—and he sent me a very complex spreadsheet showing how many actual fires are being ignited every time you just press the gas, based on the RPMs of the car, based on how fast you're driving, and so on. The minimum, the minimum, the highest is tens of thousands, but the minimum, the first number that I see is 3,000, just by pressing the gas. Yeah. This is a problem, so one time you press the gas, you ignite 3,000 fires.

23:44By the way, it's 3,000 sins. It's 3,000 separate sins. It's not one sin. It's 3,000 separate sins. You press the brake. Press the gas. Somebody goes to Beit Knesset. They made 1.5 million aveirot. It's a little bit of a problem to show up to Olam Haba with that kind of account. Because to Olam Haba, there's two of them. There's the good one and not so good. Jeremiah told us some information that can help us today. Jeremiah tried, like all prophets, his main job as a prophet is to do kiruv. To bring the nation back to Hashem, to wake them up, and to tell them the full story. Tell them the truth. Whether they do it or not is irrelevant. I'm going to tell you the truth today. Whether you listen or not is your choice. But at least you'll have a choice based on information. At least it's going to be an educated decision. Whether you sin, you don't sin, that's not my problem. But at least you'll know. And that's the one thing that someone took away from me. Many people took away from me before I did teshuva. They never told me. I can't tell you that I would have listened to them. I was in a different world. I had millions and millions of dollars. I had a company to run. My ga'ava was a little bit higher than earth. I can't tell you that I would have listened.

25:13but it's still a 50-50 shot. No one can tell me that I definitely wouldn't have, and I know myself that maybe I would, maybe I wouldn't. Either way, it's always a 50-50 shot, which means it's never your job, it's never your job to decide for people. There's a Gemara... It's a Divrei Chazal that says that if you know that someone is not going to listen, it's better not to tell them because at least their sin is shogeg. Shogeg. It's not a big deal. You know, it's an accidental sin. This is a problem. This is a misunderstanding. Why? Because they also missed the Mishnah, which precedes it. Before, it's the beginning of the Oral Torah. And Pirkei Avot, everyone knows Pirkei Avot, no? You know Pirkei Avot? It says that a sin that's accidental, a shogeg, that comes from lack of learning, turns into mezid, turns into on purpose. So you didn't know, fine, you didn't know. You don't have to know. But you have to learn. You are commanded to learn. Now, if you didn't know because you didn't want to learn, then your sin is not shogeg.

26:38It's mezid. It's on purpose. There's no such thing as showing up to Hashem ignorant. No such thing. So all of these people, whether they call themselves rabbis or they call themselves something else, that are telling people, no, no, no, this whole generation is anussim and it's full of people that are miskenim and they don't know and they're this and they're that. Nonsense. According to Hashem's information, it's 100% nonsense. You don't have to take my word for it. You can see it from the Torah itself. You learn it, you're going to see it. And with the help of Hashem, we'll learn today. Heal me, Hashem, and I will be healed. Save me, Hashem, and I will be saved. And I will be saved, for You are my praise. Jeremiah, chapter 17, verse 14. What is Jeremiah telling us here? The background story of why Jeremiah is crying to Hashem is because Jeremiah tried to do kiruv, but kiruv the right way. He told the people the truth. He found

28:09the tribe of Ephraim, wasting seed. Bunch of resha'im, wasting seed. And he rebuked them. Told them, this is the worst thing on earth. Are you crazy? Hashem said, this is guaranteed Gehenom. This is avodah zarah. This is horrendous. This is going to kill you in this world and the next. They went against him. They went against him and tortured him. He says, "Hashem, heal me. They're torturing me. For what? I'm trying to do Your work. I'm trying to tell people the truth. This is what I get. These people are going against me. I'm trying to help them and they're going against me." Just like people that watch some of my shiurim, they go against me also. Just like they've been doing it to Rav Mizrachi for 22 years or anyone that speaks the truth. They go against you. I have some people that actually take clips of my videos. And they write different descriptions. No, this is what he says. Actually, if you watch the video, they are very good clips. It's the truth. They just want to translate it a different way. I actually use some of their clips for myself when I publicize them. They're good clips. You don't want to believe it? It's your choice. It's not my problem. I'm not making up anything. Everything comes from the Torah. If it's my opinion, I tell you it's my opinion. It's obvious it's my opinion.

29:34So Jeremiah did the same thing, but obviously, if I could be his nail, I would be happy. But nonetheless, they're torturing him. How much are they torturing him? If we fast forward to Chapter 20, verse 14. Baruch Hu. Cursed be the day on which I was born. May the day on which my mother bore me not be blessed. Jeremiah gets to the point where he curses the day he was born. How could someone so holy, so pure, so amazing,

30:37get to a point of cursing the day that he was born. The Midrash that was actually written by his son, Ben Sira, says that this was the day that the tribe of Ephraim didn't just go against Jeremiah, but they told him, you have two choices. They surrounded him, overpowered him, so you have two choices. you either waste seed just like us, right now, or you're going to see a real live Sodom and Gomorrah. And what they did in Sodom and Gomorrah is the same thing they did in Tel Aviv just a few days ago with the gay parade. They threatened to rape him. So after forcing him to waste zera, he was really considered an anus. He cursed the day that he was born. Why is it so bad? Why does Hashem care so much if we waste zera? In last week's parasha, Hashem gave us a little bit of a secret. It was a nice chidush I got that I think you'd like.

32:05After telling us each level of punishment, we have five levels of punishment. It starts from losing our money. And Hashem, in the last level, says that as it happened in Beit HaMikdash, when we get to such starvation, we'd have to eat our children. That's what happened in Beit HaMikdash. He wasn't kidding. But if you notice before each section, each section of punishment, Hashem says the same thing. Translation: if despite these, meaning despite the punishment that I gave you in a previous level, you will not be chastised towards Me, meaning you still don't have Yirat Shamayim. still don't care, you're still sinning, and you behave casually with Me, then I too will behave towards you with casualness. Now, the pshat of casualness, according to Chazal, means we pick and choose whichever mitzvot we want to keep.

33:28Kosher? Yeah, you know what? I live in Brooklyn. There's a kosher place on every corner. It's not that hard to keep kosher. You have to not want to eat kosher to eat non-kosher in Brooklyn. Different places around the world may be a little more difficult, but in today's world, it's pretty easy to eat kosher. Anyone with an ounce of emunah knows that Hashem pays for it anyway. But, Shabbat? Eh, not so sure. I'll keep half a Shabbat. Hashem should be happy I kept half a Shabbat. Wasting seed? Nah, that's not for me. That's for people who are machmirim. That's for tzaddikim. I'm not at that level. Watching my eyes? Nah. That's for Rabbi Ovadia, Rabbi Steinman. Yeah, Gedolei HaDor. They watch their eyes. Not for me. You know, you pick and choose. Netilat Yadayim? Yeah, I can do that. Netilat Yadayim. I can do Netilat Yadayim. Even when I get out of the bathroom, I do Netilat Yadayim. And you pick and choose. Hashem says, you treat me with casualness. You make a joke of my Torah.

34:30You think it's a choice to keep all the mitzvot. For that, it's a separate punishment. Violating my Torah is one punishment. Treating it with casualness is a completely separate punishment. But now, what's the chiddush? He kept saying, Keri, for anyone that's learned a little bit of Gemara, also knows that it has another meaning. If we go to Sefer Devarim, Deuteronomy, chapter 23, verse 10, Ki teitzei machaneh al oyvecha ve'nishmarta mikol davar ra, When a camp goes out against your enemies, you shall guard against anything evil. If there will be among you a man who will not be clean because of a nocturnal occurrence, he shall go outside the camp. He shall not enter the midst of the camp. When it will be toward evening, he shall immerse himself in the water, meaning going to the mikveh. And when the sun sets, he may enter the midst of the camp. So, an actual occurrence, meaning a seminal emission, is also called keri, baal keri, someone that has a

35:55He shall go outside the camp. He shall not enter the midst of the camp. When it will be toward evening, he shall immerse himself in the water, meaning going to the mikveh. And when the sun sets, he may enter the midst of the camp. So an actual occurrence, meaning a seminal emission, is also called keri, ba'al keri, someone that has a wastes seed, but unintentionally. In street language, they call it having a wet dream. The Gemara, Masechet Avodah Zarah, talks about this verse. Page 20b. The Rabbi is taught in the Baraita. Which is this verse we just talked about, which meant, and you shall beware of anything evil, this teaches that a person should not think immoral thoughts by day and thereby come to sin at night. When the Gemara is mentioning evil, it's not talking about thinking about bad things happening in the world. Maybe there's going to be a war

37:22Maybe I'm going to lose all my money in the stock market. Maybe my wife is cheating on me or is going to leave me. Maybe my husband hates me. Maybe my kids are going to fail at school. No, no, no. They're not talking about dvarim like that. Dvarim, Chazal says in the Gemara, is talking about thinking about something erotic, inappropriate. Why? Because he didn't watch his eyes. he didn't watch his eyes. Of course, he's going to think of something erotic at night, so much so that the Shulchan Aruch says if someone has, you know, an erotic dream, even if the woman in his dream is his wife, he wakes up out of the dream and he wants to be with his wife. not allowed until he cools down and he doesn't have those thoughts anymore. Then he could do what he wants, and then he's a normal person again. Why? Because if he commits relations with his wife at that moment that he's still hot from the dream, shame on him. What can happen to the child? The child can have partial control by sheidim, by demons.

38:50Why? Because they contributed to making the child. Which, by the way, just so you know, according to Chazal, every single woman you see in your dreams, including if she looks like your wife, is actually no one less than the Satan's wife herself. That's her job. Her job is to take your seed and create... bunch of soldiers to torture you in this world and the next. So when you give her that seed, you're creating an enemy for yourself. This is kind of scary. It's just the beginning. Can I ask you a question? In your dream, doesn't your soul actually leave your body in your sleep? Not all of it. If your entire soul left your body, you would die. It's only most of the soul. There's still a part of your soul that stays with you. And part of the soul goes up to Shamayim and gets the news of what is the outcome for tomorrow. Meaning that you go up there and you tell the Beit Din of Shamayim, what did I do today? And they'll tell you, okay, based on these deeds, tomorrow you're going to have a very difficult day.

40:10So that's why you see sometimes people wake up, Tisha B'Av, nothing happened, but they're already in a bad mood. They woke up, they see their wife, she's happy. "Hey, how are you? Good morning, honey. How are you doing?" "Ah, don't talk to me." "What did I do?" You're already in a bad mood. Why? Because you got bad news from Shamayim and your soul knows it. You don't know it consciously, but subconsciously you know it. You know you're going to have a tough day. So now when someone is having these dreams, it's their fault. There's no such thing as having these dreams just because. It's because you saw something, either during that day or during your life. But in general, it's usually during a recent time. According to Gemara, Masechet Berachot, most dreams are complete nonsense. They have zero meaning. Once in a blue moon, someone can have a dream that could actually be a partial prophecy. But the ones that are nonsense, what's the nonsense? What does it mean nonsense? What's shtuyot? It's a combination of the things you saw. You saw an elephant today, so you're going to see a woman with an elephant head. You saw somebody running, you're going to see a little bunny running. You're going to see all types of strange things in a dream. They don't really make sense, but it's a combination of all the things you actually saw in your real life. If you looked at a prutzah, you looked at an immodest woman,

41:33That's what you're going to see. And sometimes you'll see her that you saw on the street, and sometimes the Satan will actually, or the Satan's wife will actually have your wife's face. So you're going to think, oh, you know what, I'm not making a sin, it's my own wife. It's not your wife. What happens at that point, Hashem, is even if you waste the seed, it's already a big problem. Even if you get out of the dream, you survived the dream, you didn't waste seed. You're lucky, you see your wife right next to you, and your wife loves you, and she wants to hug you; she has no clue what dream you had. You are not allowed to touch her. Not allowed to touch her. Why? Because according to the Ari HaKadosh, from whom we know most of the secrets of the Torah, he says that all of the crazy people, people who have mental problems, are usually controlled by shedim, usually controlled by demons. And that's why you see a lot of them say they see things, they hear things. They do. They're not imagining it. They do. They do see things. They do hear things. You can't see it because you're normal. But they do. Sometimes it's the fault of the parents. Sometimes it's a gilgul. Now why does Hashem care so much about this keri?

42:57He tells us here that on one end in this parasha, when he says, on one end it means treating me with casualness. Right? It means with casualness. On another end it says, not only did you sin, but you're still wasting seed? Okay, you didn't do that, fine, I got it. You didn't do a bracha, you stole from me the food you ate. You didn't do a bracha, you stole from Hashem. Anyone that enjoys anything in this world without saying a bracha, Chazal says they stole from Hashem. You have to say a bracha. You didn't say a bracha. Fine. You violated Shabbat. You worshipped an idol. You did all those things. Okay, you're going to get your punishment for it. Fine. But not only did you do that, You still have the audacity to waste seed? Meaning it's at a different level. It's a different level. It's a different world. Just so far, we've been talking for a little while. Hopefully, we record it.

44:23So far, a few new insights. But the reality is that just this information we talked about is not public information. Because Hashem will become public. Just this is already enough to know that it's a big deal to waste seed. We've gotten the hint so far. Why is it such a big deal? The holy books tell us that Hashem made the Torah a part of him. Meaning that every letter in the Hebrew alphabet that's in the Torah, which is 22 letters, is actually Shem Hashem. It's actually the name of Hashem. Each letter is a name of Hashem. When you read the Torah, that's the reason why each letter is considered a mitzvah. But then Chazal add to it. They say it's not only Hashem and the Torah that are one, but the Jewish nation is also part of Him.

45:27how do we see this? You spell the word Yehudi, Jew, in Hebrew, it's Yud, Hey, Vav, Dalet, Yud. Right? But if you take, you see the Dalet looks like a Reish, it also looks like half of the Hey. If you take the last Yud and you put it under the Dalet, it looks very, very similar to Hashem's name. Yud, Heh, Vav, and Heh. I drew it. I'm not exactly the best artist, but I drew it before the shiur, and you can see the point. Hashem put His name inside you. What's another source? A scientific source. In 1983, Dr. Rubinstein arrived in Israel. I believe from Venezuela, and worked for the university in molecular biology. But his main job was to investigate the DNA, DNA of different species, DNA of sharks, DNA of monkeys, DNA of rats, humans, and so on. In 1986, he made a major discovery.

46:58He saw that there's one major thing that's exactly the same in the DNA of everything. Now, every DNA, in essence, looks similar, whether it's the DNA of a shark, the DNA of a human being, or the DNA of a rat. They have the same basic foundation. Anyone who's ever seen a visual of DNA... it's these two squiggly lines with some lines across them. So we ask the computer, what happens if I take the two squiggly lines and I break them apart? Those two squiggly lines are tied together. What if I just separate them? And after enough analysis, the computer responds, the subject will explode. Meaning, you cannot exist if there's only one line. It has to stay connected. Okay, so that means staying connected is important. What's the next question, logically? What's keeping it connected? The computer answers. Every so often, meaning every several acids, it’s called ACTG,

48:16There is a bridge connecting the two lines. Thank you. There's a bridge connecting the two lines, two squiggly lines, made of sulfur. Sulfur. A bunch of sulfur over there. Same type of chemical. Okay. Fine. The bridge is important. We can't break the bridge. But there's another question here. The computer said every so often. Is there some type of, is it random? Or is there a design? Where there's an actual calculation, it's not every so often, there's an actual method here. The computer says yes. Every DNA has the same bridge, and has the same calculation. The calculation is, is every tenth acid, and after that it's every fifth acid, and after that it's every sixth, and then five. Ten, five, six, five. Ten, five, six, five. Anyone that knows gematria knows that ten is yud, five is hei, six is vav, and five again is hei. Yud, hei, vav, and hei. Hashem's name is written inside your DNA. When you waste seed, this is the reason why people have emunah problems.

49:46So Chazal is telling us many, many things about wasting seed. And these are some of the things that people need to understand. Rabbi Nachman of Breslov says when someone wastes seed, it's very easy for them to become an idol worshiper. Very easy for them to not only lose their emunah, become a complete heretic. The reason? They're destroying both their physical and spiritual brain. The spiritual brain, we could understand what it means. But the physical, it's hard to understand. You need to know science. So just so you know, part of the

50:47seed that comes out, the semen that comes out of your body, part of it comes from your brain. Now, there was a book that's not very popular; it was written about 120, 190 years ago by a doctor that was also a rabbi in Germany named Rav Avraham Stern from Berlin. The book It's called Mazor Utrefuah, 64 dapim, which is 128 pages in today's world. And he did scientific research, medical research, not just his own, but many, many doctors about wasting seed. And whether it helps you, like psychologists foolishly say today, or it destroys you. And he has case after case after case of all the diseases that wasting seed leads to. Now, he also starts the book, which is very scary by the way. I'll give you some examples in a little bit. But he also says in the book, he uses a Rambam.

52:15says that the seed of a male is the tamtzit, which is, in essence, the—what's tamtzit in English? Like the thing that you make the juice from. What is it called? No, not the pulp. Like, you know, artificial juice. The... The liquid, yeah, the flavoring in essence. It's the foundation, the concentrate, the foundation of the juice. For example, the Coca-Cola. Yeah, the syrup, exactly. It's the foundation. You can't make the juice without it. It's the foundation of it. It says that the seed is the foundation of the entire male body. And the Rambam says that the only reason why Hashem created us with a body is is for us to be able to use our seed for Pru U'revu. For us to be able to bring children into the world. Otherwise, there's no purpose for our body. Otherwise, we just remain souls. Which, in essence, the foundational reason of why we exist as human beings with a body is for the seed, is to use the seed. But not to use the seed and waste it, but to use it to bring children into the world. How do we know

53:37When a woman gets pregnant, she has a child, like this cute one in the back. And after she gives birth, many women choose to breastfeed. Maybe men don't know this, at least not the single ones, but during the time that a woman breastfeeds, the woman usually does not have, most of the time, a period. If she breastfeeds for a year or two years, she doesn't have a period for a year or two years. This is in the vast majority of cases. Why? Because the milk is actually blood. It used to be blood. Everything you eat, whether it's an orange or a steak or a candy, some part of it turns into blood. The other part of it that doesn't turn into blood goes out of your body.

54:38This very same blood is what you use to live for a woman. It's what turns into milk for breastfeeding. Now, why is it that if you take a liter of breast milk out of a woman, in many cases she actually feels better, not worse? She feels better, it's a relief. But chas v'shalom, you take a liter of blood out of her body, she may not survive. If the two things are the same, how could this be? Because the breast milk also has a few other things that were added to the body, added to the blood, to make breast milk. But the Rambam says, and actually in Rav Stern says, the seed of a male is even superior to blood. Just like blood is the basic syrup for the milk—you can't have the milk without the blood—you can't have the body without the seed from a male. The seed of a male is superior to his blood.

56:09It's the foundation of his entire body, which means that when he wastes it, he's slowly killing himself. This is why the rest of his book is dedicated to subjects, one after another—real-life subjects—not only from him, but from many, many doctors that show exactly what happens to anyone, from teenagers at the age of 15. One teenager who was 15 years old wasted seed for eight years and slowly but surely killed himself. But he didn't just kill himself one day; he didn't just appear and die. He didn't get a heart attack. His body slowly deteriorated, becoming much, much weaker, all the way to the point of starting to bleed in strange places. His hand turned into rubber and... very rubbery, very weak. His bones started disintegrating. There was a strange, awful-smelling liquid coming out of his spine, which is another part of where the seed travels through. Until he died. This is just the first subject. The best-case scenario. The other ones got much worse. One of the other patients...

57:40As we said, the seed comes from the brain. Slowly but surely, it's destroying the brain. One of the other subjects, you can noticeably see that the veins on his brain are becoming... coming out of his head. And you can see this today in some people. One day they look healthy, you don't see them for five, six years, and all of a sudden... Guy looks a little weird. A little bit like a mutant. So much so, the Chazal says, I'm sorry, not Chazal, the best doctors in the world at that time said that of a thousand people that die, one dies from natural causes and the other 999 die from overusing their seed. That's how much. Guy looks a little weird. A little bit like a mutant. So much so, the Chazal say—I'm sorry, not Chazal—the best doctors in the world at that time said that of a thousand people that die, one dies from natural causes and the other 999 die from overusing their seed. That's how much.

58:43Where do we have proof of this in the Torah? Does anybody know who the smartest man of all time was? It's a recent smart guy. He's a Jew too. Shlomo HaMelech gave us an insight. Shlomo HaMelech was gifted wisdom beyond any man that ever lived before or after. So he knew what he was doing. He was also very rich. He was also married to a thousand women, and he gave us a little bit of insight in Proverbs 31:3. It says, "Give not your strength to women." very rich. He was also married to a thousand women, and he gave us a little bit of insight in Proverbs 31:3. It says, "Give not your strength to women."

1:00:10Let your conduct not destroy the protocol of kings. Here, Chazal explained to us, he says, do not give your strength to women. What's your strength? What's your koach? Your koach is your seed. The entire strength of a man is from his zera. Zera. This is why also the athletes like to inject testosterone into their body, so they can become stronger. Or when you have an ill patient suffering from some serious disease, sometimes they'll put steroids in them. But Shlomo HaMelech is telling you that if you give all of your strength to this ta'avah, to this desire for women, to this desire of wasting your seed, you're going to destroy yourself. But if you need a little bit more detail, he said it in another place also. And also Mishlei 25:16.

1:01:35Translation: When you find honey, eat what is sufficient for you, lest you be satiated and vomit it up. Chazal (our Sages) say that dvash (honey) is really referring to women, isha. Why isha? It has the same numerical value. Isha has a numerical value, the Gematria of 306, and so does Dvash. So, when you find a woman, be a normal person. If you spend all of your seed every other day with a new woman or perhaps do it even without a woman, He's telling you something here. He's not telling you about dvash. He's not telling you. You don't need Shlomo HaMelech to tell you don't eat too much honey because eventually you're going to throw up. That's not exactly the wisdom of the smartest man of all time. He's telling you something here. If you find honey, if you find a woman, take it easy. Don't have, just have just enough. Why? Because if you have too much, you're eventually going to vomit. What does it mean you're eventually going to vomit? Vomit.

1:02:56going to eventually not be able to handle it. It's going to destroy your life to such an extent that even after you marry someone and become a normal person, you don't have a new girl every other day. You're going to suffer in your marriage. Your wife is a normal person; she's not like you and like what you used to be. You have to be able to control yourself. But not only that, sometimes you see that there are shalom bayit issues. Sometimes it's a religious couple, sometimes it's a non-religious couple. You see, you know, they both seem normal, they both seem rational, but the wife is always angry at the husband. Later on, many times you find out that the husband wastes seed on his own.

1:03:57Not with another woman, but on his own. Why is the wife angry? Because even though she herself doesn't know, her neshama does know. Her neshama does know that he's giving his seed to another woman, specifically to Satan's wife. The neshama is not very happy with you. It's a problem. In the Gemara Massechet Sukkah, page 52b, Rabbi Yochanan says, "A man has a small organ. The one that starves it is satiated, meaning he's full."

1:05:05and the one that feeds it stays hungry. It's supposed to be the opposite. If you feed it, it's supposed to be satiated, full. If you starve it, it's supposed to be hungry. Chazal say, no. Someone says, no, listen, I'm not going to be like I used to be when I was a teenager, doing it three times a day, five times a day. No, no, no, just once in a while. I'll do it once a week. Chazal say it's impossible. A man has a small organ. If he feeds it, meaning he wastes seed, it'll never be full. If he starves it, it'll be full. Meaning, you won't need to. You won't feel the desire anymore, eventually. Eventually, when he stops, after the Yetzer Hara gets weaker and weaker, you won't have the desire anymore. Obviously, with his wife, but as far as wasting it and making the toilet another wife, it's not going to happen anymore.

1:06:09This is what Chazal tells you. So much so that they had to repeat it again. In Masechet Sanhedrin. He said the same thing again. A man has a small organ. The one that starves it. Satiated, the ones that feed it are hungry forever. Why would they repeat it? Do they have nothing else to do with their lives? No, in Masechet Sanhedrin, page 104a, Chazal says it's halacha, meaning it cannot change. Ever. Halacha is eternal and can't change. Anything that's added today is building on existing halachot. You can never change a halacha because halacha comes from Moshe from Har Sinai. This is a law of nature. There's no such thing as doing it once in a while. You feed the organ, and it'll never stop. And slowly but surely, a man is wasting his power and killing himself.

1:07:38Now, what else do Chazal say about this? The Gemara also says that each time a man performs a mitzvah, this is actually also in the Mishnah, each time a man performs a mitzvah, he acquires for himself a defending attorney. creates for himself an angel that's going to help him in this world and the next. That's why mitzvah goreret mitzvah. One mitzvah leads to another. You have one mitzvah, and all of a sudden you have a little bit more power and you feel like doing another mitzvah. A person makes an aveirah, makes a sin, creates a demon. His own personal demon. The demon gives more power to the world of Tumah. What does the world of Tumah do? It influences the person to commit more sins. That's why it says, "One sin leads to another." This is why sometimes you see somebody who was frum a month ago, made one small sin, went with some girl, and he's not married. He violated Shabbat. He smoked a cigarette on Shabbat. He didn't drive; he smoked a cigarette.

1:08:58A month later, the guy is eating bacon on Yom Kippur. Why? One sin influences another sin. Another sin, another sin, another sin. Next thing you know, he's a complete idol worshiper. But it's due to his own actions. It's not due to anybody else. Each time a person... creates this sin, he creates also a klipah. He creates a shell around him, which makes it very, very difficult for him to listen to Torah. It makes it very, very difficult for him to read Torah. Why? Because Torah is pure. It's the purpose of this world. Without Torah, there's no purpose to this world. Gemara Masechet Avodah Zarah says the angels were very, very scared at Mount Sinai before Am Yisrael showed up. Why? Why would they be scared? It's the ultimate day of the world. The Gemara says it's because all of the other nations rejected the Torah. And they knew that if Am Yisrael rejected the Torah, Hashem would bring the world back to Tohu VaVohu. Bring the world back to nothing—the same state it was in before He created it.

1:10:28So now, each time someone wants to learn this holy Torah and bring purity into his life, he has a shell surrounding him. The shell is blocking it, which is the reason, for example, when I first started doing teshuva, I went to a shiur Torah of a very famous Rav, a very big Chacham. I would wait for this shiur the whole week. Usually, I don't really sleep much at night. So being awake was never really a problem for me. I go to the shiur after work, all alert, excited, pumped up to hear something new, work my brain muscles, use the Hebrew language for the first time in 15 or 20 years. Five minutes into it, snoring, out. Can't survive five minutes.

1:11:29Okay, I said, okay, this happened once. Next week I'll do better. Maybe I really was tired and I didn't know. A week later, five minutes, three seconds. Nothing changed. This is getting upsetting. I wait the whole week. I want this shiur. Next week, got to six minutes. Next week, ten minutes. Still never stayed for an hour, hour and a half shiur. Can't survive. Sometimes somebody can't survive; they fall asleep. Sometimes they can't sit. They have to go somewhere. They have to smoke a cigarette. They have to go call their friends. They have to do something. They can't listen to Torah. Why? Because the shell, the klipah, is so thick that when the purity is trying to go through, you're spending all of the energy you have left just to get it in. By the time it finally gets in a little bit, you're completely tired, and you fall asleep.

1:12:30But with enough training, with enough effort, you start peeling off the klipah. You start peeling off the shell. Eventually, it becomes 15 minutes, half an hour, an hour. Eventually, b'ezrat Hashem, one day you could speak for five hours about it. It takes time. It takes effort. You can't give up. This is one of the main things that people need to understand is that there's always teshuva. As long as you're alive, there's teshuva. As long as the light still works, there's teshuva. Even in the Mishnah, Avot, that says that the one who causes other people to sin has a much bigger difficulty doing teshuva, even his gate, even his ability to do teshuva is still possible. He just doesn't have as much siyata dishmaya, doesn't have as much help from shamayim.

1:13:30Normal person, does teshuva in his 20s, could have 90% help from Hashem, 90% siyata dishmaya. Someone that's in the same age, but has a whole website against rabbis, he wants to do teshuva, he may have 10%. Same age, same situation, same school, same look, same everything else, went against rabbis, went against the Torah, was a heretic publicly, machti harabim, could have less siyata dishmaya. But he could still do teshuva. You have a question? You can always do teshuva as long as you're alive, and the source is Menashe. Menashe was a rasha merusha that even killed his own grandfather, Yeshayahu, the prophet. He cut him into pieces, chopped them up. chopped up his own grandfather, the prophet. Kadosh. Not only that, it wasn't enough. He erased the name of Hashem everywhere he could find. Anywhere he saw Hashem's name, he erased it. It wasn't enough. He put idol worship everywhere. Not enough. He raped his own sister. Incest. Zera levatala.

1:14:56When he was ready to do teshuva, Hashem accepted him. This we find out from Masechet Sanhedrin 107b. So now you know that teshuva is available. But as we started this shiur, although some of the things you may have heard were scary, it's not scary enough. When Hashem created man, we started sinning pretty quickly. Eventually, you fast forward to the generation of Noach, and the average person was a Rasha Merusha. Chazal say that the major sin, even though the last straw was stealing,

1:16:20the major sin of the generation was wasting seed. This is the reason that after the Mabul, after the flood, Hashem gave Noach seven laws. The first six He gave to Adam HaRishon, and He added one to Noach. This is why it's called Sheva Mitzvot Bnei Noach, because he was the last one to receive it, so it's named after him. One of these laws is "do not spill blood." Most of us understand it as "do not murder." That's the pshat. Wasting seed is also murder. According to scientists, each and every single seed, each one, has all of the things you need to make a human being, obviously when they connect with an egg. The woman's egg. Not an egg and chicken egg. I have to make you laugh a little bit to get you out. Don't want you to get too depressed. I hear this stuff, I almost want to cry because I know so many people are in this zevel, in this garbage. They have no idea that they're in garbage. You know, a rat doesn't know that he's eating garbage. He thinks it's Gan Eden. He thinks it's a hotel, a five-star hotel. Why? Because he's part of the garbage. When you're part of the garbage, you don't know that it's garbage.

1:17:52Only when you leave the garbage for a little while, you're like, what's going on? I didn't know it was garbage. So many people are in this garbage. I was too. It wasn't different. Now, most of us understand "do not spill blood" as "do not murder." But scientists are telling us that each and every seed is technically... has all the things that we need to make a human being. Each and every single one of them is a potential soul that is supposed to come into the world. If this seed has a problem with it, it may either not become a soul, or it can become a problematic person, someone that’s born with diseases, chas v'shalom. There are more than enough diseases in the world. That we know that disease exists. The word machalah, which means disease, has the numerical value of 83. That's in the Gemara, Bava Metzia, I think. What's the significance of 83? Hashem says there are 83 different types of diseases that He brought on Mitzrayim.

1:19:18But Chazal is also telling us something else. Not only is each seed a potential soul, but eventually you're going to learn just how much of a murder it really is to waste one seed. You fast forward to recent generations and scientists say that each time seed comes out of the human body, it's approximately 300 million seeds. Which means that each time you waste seed, you're murdering approximately 300 million people. You're murdering America each time. You're destroying a country each time. Murdering one person, it's no big deal. It's just one guy. Still, 299,999,999. It's not a big deal. you murdered the whole 300 million, it starts becoming a big deal. You do it three times a day, you murdered India. You do it five, you got to China. By the end of the week, you murdered an entire world. Show up to HaShem like that. Show up to the Beit Din of Shamayim. Each week I murdered the world. Good luck. Oh, by Kiddush Shabbat!

1:20:47Good for you. We'll turn off the fire in Gehinnom on Shabbat for you. That's what happens. Shomer Shabbat, good for you. We'll turn off the fire on Shabbat. Or HaChaim HaKadosh heard one time that there's a gezeirah, there's a decree from Shamayim that... decree from Shamayim on Am Yisrael, so he went into the Galut, he went into exile to a place where, even though he was Gadol HaDor, no one knew him. He arrives at this place where the Rav over there is a holy Rav, a holy Rabbi, who gets secrets from Shamayim every so often. So now everyone sees... Chaim Ben Atar, or Chaim. Regular guy. Maybe even less. They don't know he's Gadol HaDor. Thursday night, the Rav says in the drasha, I had a dream. In my dream, they told me on this Parashat Bechukotai, the first verse, Im Bechukotai Telechu,

1:22:17I got 14 translations of the first verse that were translated by Chaim Ben Atar, HaKadosh, HaTzadik, HaGadol, HaYafeh, all these different types of embellishments and compliments that he's giving, Oh, the Ohr HaChaim. Everyone's excited, yeah, Oh, Chaim, yeah, Chaim Ben Atar, wow. You know, back then they respected rabbis. Baruch Hashem. See? The Satan already started. I hope this thing wasn't off for that long. You see it live. You see it live. The Satan hates my lectures, so he kills the batteries very quickly. It's supposed to last two hours; sometimes it lasts five minutes. It's good. It's good news. If the Satan is spending his time on us, that means we're learning something useful. So now, everyone is excited about, oh, a Chaim. And then this old man says, no, he's not a tzaddik, he's not a kadosh, what do you mean, I know him, it's not really a big deal. Oh, how dare you go against the Rav, he's Gadol HaDor.

1:23:45The rabbi of the kehillah quiets everyone down. He says, "Okay, okay, okay, let me give you the perushim. Ignore this guy." Friday night comes after tefillah. The rabbi says, "I had another dream. They gave me 14 more translations of the same verse, and now we have 28. The same verse of this parashah, parashat Bechukotai." that Orach Chaim, Chaim ben Atar, HaKadosh, HaTzadik, HaGadol, HaMalach, and all these compliments that he's giving them. Everybody's excited. Yeah, no more perushim. Wow. This was 300 years ago, so they were excited about chiddushim. And then this guy in the back again, he goes, ah, stop it with the Tzadik and the Kadosh. He's just Chaim, Chaimke, Chaimke. He's just a Chaim. Everybody gets angry at him. They want to beat him up. "Hey, you're going against the Rabbanim. You're embarrassing the Rabbanim. Get out of here already." The Rav of the Kehillah says, "Calm down, calm down. Let me give you the chiddushim." Shabbat afternoon, after tefillah, the Rav says, "I have a chiddush I got in Shamayim again—14 more translations of this pasuk in Parashat Bechukotai."

1:25:11were given to me from Shamayim that were translated by all Chachamim and all these compliments, and everyone's excited again and again. This guy says, "Stop it with this! How many times do I have to tell you? He's not a kadosh; he's barely even a talmid." This time, even the Rav couldn't take it. He said, "Throw him in the cell. You know, in those days, they had a cell, a jail cell, right at the entrance of the Beit Knesset. Anyone who went against the rabbis would be put into this cell right next to the entrance so everyone could spit on them on the way in and on the way out for going against the Rav. It's not like today, when it's popular to go against the Rav. Back then, they respected the rabbis. Rabbis were holy. Someone goes against the rabbi, shem u'l'acham." Not if it's a Rasha, a real rabbi. Baruch Hashem, we have many in today's world. A few wear costumes that are not, but the point is there are many good ones. Back then, they got the respect they deserved. Today, not so much. Today, there are fist fights with rabbis sometimes. So anyway, they throw him into the cell. Chaim ben Atar, Gadol HaDor, is in a cell all of Shabbat.

1:26:33Right before Havdalah comes up, they want to do Havdalah, all of a sudden the whole world starts shaking. There's thunder, there's lightning. Chazal say that the only reason why Hashem created thunder is to scare us. Only reason. There's no other purpose for it. To scare us. Why? Because when you're scared of thunder, you're like, well, if that's just one of Your small things... You have to have a little bit of yirat Shamayim. It wakes us up. The whole world starts shaking. The ground starts shaking. The lights go in and out. Scary stuff. All of a sudden, there's a knock on the door. Everyone's very scared. They have no idea what's happening here. The Rav says, "Okay, I'll go open the door." He opens the door and sees a giant demon, a black angel. full of fire and all the scary things you can imagine times a thousand. The Rav says, "What are you doing here?" He says, "You should be ashamed of yourself. You know who I am? No? I'm the angel that's in charge of turning back the fire on at Gehenom after Shabbat. Because Hashem turns it off."

1:28:01Shabbat and Gehenom for anyone that kept Shabbat. Anyone who didn't keep Shabbat, it doesn't go off. So the part that goes off, I'm the one that turns it back on after Shabbat. Okay, so what do you want from us? So they told me in Shamayim that I'm not allowed to turn it on until Orah Haim Ben Atar does Havdalah, and you have him in jail. You should be ashamed of yourself. The Rav immediately collapses, runs to Or HaChayim, and begs him for forgiveness, crying hysterically. "I didn't know," he says. "I know, I know you didn't know. That was the point. He didn't know that Hashem is going to send an angel. But that's Or HaChayim. You should listen to him. He didn't send angels for me."

1:29:03So, Or HaChayim says, in regards to Exodus, chapter 3, verse 8, Or HaChayim Shemot perek gimel pasuk chet. Summarize this whole thing. He says that at the end of times, We're going to be different than the generation of Mitzrayim. In Mitzrayim, we know that the best of us, the best of us, the small amount of us that actually survived Mitzrayim, because as we know, at least 80% of Am Yisrael were killed in Mitzrayim in the Makat HaChoshech, the plague of darkness. Why? They didn't want to do teshuvah. They didn't want the Torah. They wanted to stay in Mitzrayim. Hashem killed them. There's a Midrash in Me'am Lo'ez that says it was much higher than 80%. Instead of 1 out of 5, it was really 1 out of 500,000 that survived. I go into that a little bit more in a different shiur, but to save time, the Ohr HaChaim says that the ones that actually survived were in the 49th level of Tumah. The 49th level of impurity.

1:30:23If they would have reached level 50, Hashem would have destroyed the world. One more sin, that's it. But the Ohr HaChaim says, the generation before the Mashiach will reach level 50. And the only way that could save them is Avinu Shebashamayim. So I was thinking to myself, how much worse can we be from idol worshippers? I mean, that's what they did. They were idol worshippers. That's why when they got to Yam Suf, Hashem didn't want to split the ocean. The malach of Mitzrayim, whose name is Mitzrayim, came to Hashem and said, "Why are you going to split the ocean for these Israelites and kill my nation, the Mitzrayim, the Egyptians? I know the Egyptians. My nation is worshipping idols of avodah zarah." They idol worship and they idol worship. So why would You kill one over the other? So I'm thinking to myself, why would Hashem save us even if we get to level 50 is one question, but I guess that's His promise to Avraham, Yitzchak, and Yaakov, so that's good. It's good news.

1:31:50But the bigger question is, how can we get worse than idol worship? Most Jews, Baruch Hashem, don't idol worship. Maybe money, but it's a form of idol worship, but it's not like a... I don't know, maybe. But there's one reason. Baruch Hashem, I had this chidush when I was in Yerushalayim about a month ago. Torah in Yerushalayim is a different Torah. Those three things that Am Yisrael kept. They kept their language. They kept their names. And they kept their clothing. They looked like Israelites. They still spoke Lashon HaKodesh. They still kept their names of Yaakov and Avraham and Yitzchak and Moshe. You still knew it's an Israelite and not an Egyptian. And they looked like Jews; they looked like Israelites. They had certain clothing that was different from the Egyptians. So you could notice, this is an Israelite, this is an Egyptian. Idol worshippers, yes, but they kept three things. According to Chazal, that's one of the main reasons why Hashem saved them. So how are we worse? Think about it. Yaakov, it's not Yaakov anymore most of the time.

1:33:17It's usually Jackie, or Steve, or Matthew—all types of American, goyish names. It's a reality. We live in America, and we all have different names. Before, going back to my original name, Yaron, in the business world for 16 years, I was known as Ron. I took the first two letters out. Why? Because Americans don't know how to say Yaron. They'd make up every other name in the world. At one point, they even said Aaron. Yeah, this is the bizayon I had to go through in high school. What can you do? But most Jews don't have Jewish names, especially if they're not religious. So, our generation now is not really keeping the name. Okay, fine, we don't keep the name. the fact that I'm giving you a lecture for the last however long it's been in English already answers that most Jews in the world do not speak Hebrew. It's just a reality, especially the holy language. The one they speak in Israel between one another is not exactly the holiest language. They created new words; some words they actually created are the opposite of the holy language.

1:34:40That's how much the Zionists like religion. But what about clothing? I know they didn’t have black and white back then. You're not obligated to wear black and white. You could just look like a normal human being. It's fine. What we're not allowed to do is look like goyim. Meaning, there's a certain type of clothing that we're expected to wear. That's just not allowed for Jews, both for men and for women. One of the main reasons why Hashem saved us is not because of the men. We were terrible. It's the women. The women were tzadkaniyot. They kept their modesty. They kept their modesty. So now, when you see, unfortunately, most women, Jews and non-Jews, walking around half-naked in the world, they think that the fewer clothes they have, the more attractive it is. Hashem, this has already been a problem for a while. It just got much worse. If you just look one generation back, we didn't have as much of a problem. Two generations ago, the problem didn't exist. I went to a government building to get my daughter a passport a few months ago in Florida.

1:36:01And they had old pictures of Florida, maybe from the 1930s. People on the beach. Goyim, not Jews. I don't think anyone was Jewish. A bunch of pictures. Regular people. Hair covered. Skirts. The neckline goes up to here. Covered up to here. They were more modest than the biggest Rabbanit in the world, I think. This was average for Goyim, not just Jews. Today, women, it's too hot. It's too hot. That's the answer. So what, they survived it 5,700 years, and now it just became too hot? It wasn't hot in Mitzrayim? It wasn't hot in Egypt? In the desert? So, women, we already know we have a problem. Where's the problem with men? This is one of the things that I actually had a chiddush also in Israel. I personally have always hated skinny pants on guys. I think it's an awful look. It's not modest. Which, by the way, a man is always obligated to be modest himself. But that was as much as I had. I mentioned it here and there.

1:37:27Especially when you see old Israeli guys that are in their 40s and 50s who are fat and, you know, wearing skinny pants. It just drives me crazy how anyone rationalizes this. Most men in general in today's age are overweight. We're not exactly all Brad Pitt. I mean, we're all people overweight. I'm not skinny. Far from it. It would be kind of odd if you listened to my lecture if I was wearing skinny pants. I think you'd focus more on the skinny pants than on me. But that was as much as I had. But then in Israel, a young guy was bothering me for a few days because I started seeing yeshiva kids wearing it. Okay, the chiloni, the ones that are secular, not keeping anything, wearing skinny pants. What does he know? We're lucky he even has clothes on.

1:38:28This girl covered her finger. So, Baruch Hashem, skinny pants is already a chumra. But the religious guy wearing skinny pants is a problem. It bothered me, bothered me. And then one day I see this young kid, probably no older than 20 years old, running in front of me, you know, passes me. And he has tzitziot swinging. And he's got skinny pants on. Sweatpants, skinny pants, I think. And then I got it. And I made a picture. You can pass it around, whoever wants to pick it up. But someone else wore skinny pants before. And it wasn't our friends. Nazi Germany. That's who wore skinny pants. Exactly skinny pants. White on top.

1:39:30very fitted and skinny and gross on the bottom. So I had a shiur, a lecture in Netanya. The last one I did, and that's when I had this chiddush that day, and it was actually, you know, the day of independence. Oh no, Yom HaShoah. To mourn the six million of us that they killed, the resha'im and resha'im that they were, the Nazis. Nazis. Killed six million of our brothers and sisters. And everyone says, "Oh, I feel bad. They killed my great-grandfather, my grandfather, my sister, my brother." And I look at the current generation, I say, "You feel bad? Yeah, of course we feel bad. I know this one whose father died and whose grandfather died. Yeah, yeah. So how come you look just like them? Why do you look just like them?" Don't tell me you feel bad and you look just like them. So that's when officially skinny pants, in my mind, and I think it already well before it was in my mind, and any person that knows an ounce of Torah, is officially livush goyim. It's officially not allowed. Not because I did a halacha, but just because if you ask any rabbi with a spine, they'll tell you it's not allowed, livush goyim. So it's not only not modest,

1:40:56Our enemy of just the previous generation wore it. You want to keep wearing it? Be my guest. It's your life. I just think it's wrong, in many ways. Not every guy that wears skinny pants is gay. Although it does hurt your private area, and it makes it very difficult for men to actually have children later on. It also creates problems for kids. I actually heard Rabbi Wallerstein say this, that it creates problems for children in middle school because their parents, their genius parents, are giving seven- or eight-year-old kids skinny pants because they want them to look hip. And the kid ends up peeing in his pants every day. So the teacher asks him, "You should raise your hand well before you have to go to the bathroom." He says, no, no, I go well before I need to go. He goes, okay, so what's the problem? Why do you keep having accidents every day? He says, no, I can't get the pants off. It's not the kid's fault. It's the moron that he has as parents. They want him to look hip, destroying the kid from inside his house. Because we want to look like goyim. But that was the third part.

1:42:24That completed the puzzle. How do we get to Sha'ar HaChamishim? How do we get to the third gate? We don't keep our language. We don't keep our names. And now we're not keeping our clothing. Because when our yeshiva boys want to look like goyim, we have a problem. Mashiach is around the corner, b'ezrat Hashem. So now you have many people complaining about their life. But if they just look at Parashat Noach, they'll understand a few things. When Hashem says you're not allowed to spill blood, He wasn't just referring to murder. After the flood and how Hashem destroyed the world, Hashem gave the mitzvot to Noach. In chapter 9, verse 6, it says, שופך דם האדם באדם דמו ישפך כי בצלם אלוהים עשה את האדם Translation: Whoever sheds the blood of a man within a man, his blood will be spilled, because in the image of God He made man.

1:43:50So, blood of a man, we understand it's blood. But what's the blood of a man within the man? If it was just blood of a man, he would just say blood of a man. Blood of a man within the man, we know it's the tamsit. It's the syrup. Seed. When he spills blood, his blood will be spilled. This goes all the way back to Noach. Proof. Fast forward. Bereishit. Parashat Vayeshev. Chapter 38. The story was the first story I heard about Torah when I started doing teshuvah from Rav Ephraim. The story of Yehuda and Tamar. One of the areas that we learn about Mashiach, by the way.

1:44:53But originally, Judah and Tamar were not together. Originally, Tamar was married to one of Judah's sons. Er was his firstborn. Vayehi Er, bechor Yehuda, ra be'enei Hashem, vayemitehu Hashem. But Er, Judah's first son, was evil in the eyes of Hashem, and Hashem caused him to die. Next verse. Vayomer Yehuda l'Onan, bo el eshet achicha, v'yabem otah v'hakem zera l'achicha, v'yada Onan ki lo lo yiyeh hazera. Then Judah said to Onan, consort with your brother's wife. You know, Onan was his second son. Marry your brother's wife because there were no kids. It's actually a mitzvah.

1:46:20enter into a levirate marriage with her and establish offspring for your brother. But Onan knew that the seed would not be his, meaning that the son would not be considered his; he considered his brother's. So, whenever he would consort with his brother's wife, he would let it go to waste on the ground. a.k.a. bathroom, so as not to provide offspring for his brother. What he did was evil in the eyes of Hashem, and He caused him to die also. Chazal say that Er appreciated the beauty of Tamar so much that he didn't want to ruin her beauty by having her get pregnant.

1:47:21No, so for you, I'm just going to keep you pretty, but I'm just going to be with you. So he wasted seed outside of her body. I don't want to have kids, like today's generation. No, no, I already have one kid. It's enough. We can't afford a second kid. Hashem ran out of money. No, we have two kids and we got a dog. We can't. Maybe we're going to think, we're considering a cat also. Kid, no, we can't afford a kid with the yeshiva prices today. Huh? So Er wasted seed. As Hashem told Noach, it is not allowed to waste seed. In that generation, it wasn't too difficult to know that Hashem existed. Hashem killed him. Onan didn't want to have kids with Tamar because it wouldn't be considered his kid. He said, "What do I do it for? I want to keep her pretty also. She's a very beautiful woman. I don't want to ruin her body. I want it to look like she's 20 forever." Okay, enjoy. Hashem killed him also.

1:48:43This is also a source of why Goyim are also not allowed to waste seed. Because at this point, we don't have Judaism. Noach, the 12 tribes, they're not considered Jewish. They're Bnei Noach. Judaism was born at Mount Sinai. So here we have some Torah sources explaining why wasting seed is a problem. What else does Chazal say? As we mentioned before, each time someone commits a sin, they create a demon. Chazal say that human fluids, especially semen, provide substance for demonic forces. It is for this reason that many satanic rituals require semen or blood. Most people who are crazy enough to worship Satan usually have to spill blood or semen for it. Why? Because those things, the spilling of seed, create them.

1:49:56Now, you also tend to see that people who waste seed have a tough time learning. Here's a source. Part of the seminal fluid comes from the brain. This is sent down the spine. When a person spills seed, he is wasting away part of his brain. This lowers the function of the brain, especially memory. You can learn the Gemara 8,000 times; you're still not going to remember it. Just like Rav Avraham Steren said, the more seed you use, the softer your body becomes. And some of his patients, the zuhamah (the disgusting nature that they got to), after wasting seed, in some cases for only six months, doing it four or five times a day for six months, literally made them, yeah, I know, it's crazy, but to a teenager, it doesn't seem like a crazy thing. doing it a few times a day for six months doesn't seem like a long time. The person completely became crippled, eventually being found on the floor with blood coming out of every hole of his body. In another case, a person that was wasting seed for about two years, only about twice a day, only twice a day, for about two years, according to a different doctor, this is not even Dr. Steren, it's just in that book, Dr. Zimmerman,

1:51:24said that he came to him completely in pain, suffering from unknown pain. The doctor understood that this was from wasting seed. He forced him to stop and he watched him, he oversaw him. He healed after several months and got strong again. This young 18-year-old boy went back to it. Six months later, he was dead. His brain dried up. The cases get worse and worse. In many cases, the people are mamash crippled and have different types of disgusting fluids coming out of their bodies. In some cases, they even lose control of their own seed. Or even if they wanted to stop, they couldn't. It just comes out. This is scientific, not religious yet. A person's emotions are thrown totally out of balance. People who are pogem habrit often have a hard time controlling their temper.

1:52:26They're also subject to sadness and depression and lose their self-confidence. Anyone that wasted seed, this is like looking in the mirror. People who are pogem habrit are also always tired and need more sleep. More often than not, they have bad body odor and breath. They also, according to the Rambam, bald prematurely. hair growth starts in strange places and their body becomes very weak. When you were 18 years old and strong, you're supposed to be able to lift a building; now, the guy can barely make it to the store. A person loses almost all of his ability to perceive kedusha. One also loses his desire to study Torah and do mitzvot. If you still have a desire to do mitzvot, it means it's Baruch Hashem. Hashem has a lot of mercy on you, but you have to stop immediately. The souls brought down through the person's sins are also considered his kids. After a person dies, these souls come to take revenge against their father, causing him many problems. In addition,

1:53:54They also come after his physical children to try to harm them. This is the reason why when someone dies, the children are not allowed in Jerusalem; they are not allowed to go to the funeral. Because if he ever wasted seed, those demons that he created could actually kill his children on the spot. There's actually a halacha against it. In Likkutei Torah, Likkutei Torah 23, one who has rectified his brit, it is impossible for him to fall into the desire of money. If you do teshuva for a pagam habrit, you have a promise from Shamayim that you won't fall for money. Meaning that you'll be able, even if you have a lot of money, you'll be able to control yourself. It's a very big upside. Because money, and I can tell you from my own personal story, is a very big test. It's a very, very big test. Likkutei Torah 29, Likkutei Torah 29.

1:55:12It is almost impossible for a person to rectify his sins and all their aspects, for there are many. For there are many details and various aspects for every sin. However, when one rectifies his brit, one does teshuva and becomes a brit, which is the combining element of all channels, he automatically repairs the damage from all of his sins. Another big upside for doing teshuva. Having protection, Likutei Moharan 1, Torah 31, having protection during travel depends on Shemirat HaBrit. Someone wants to be okay during a long trip, short trip, driving from New York to Florida, driving from New York to New Jersey. All depends on the Brit. Someone who is pogem brit cannot pray with full concentration. It's impossible for them. Why? Because all the things that lead them to lose, to waste seed, are things they think about. When does the Satan come to you in your mind? When's the perfect time? Two places. Two times. Exactly when you are in kedusha, which is prayer or studying,

1:56:40Once the second time, the wives are going to love this one. When he's supposed to be intimate with his wife. When he's intimate with his wife, that's when the Satan comes into your mind and reminds you of what you saw today. So in essence, instead of being with your wife, you're thinking you're with someone else. If your wife actually knew, she'd probably divorce you on the spot. And there's actually Chazal that says there's even a safek on the child that comes from that. If it's a mamzer. Someone who's pogea brit should be very careful to protect themselves from dogs and anything dangerous, from weapons. Because he already has a category. He created himself so many demons that are going upstairs to Hashem, telling Him, look at this sinner, this rasha merusha, that's killing Your nation every day. He's killing 300 million of them every day.

1:57:40When someone puts themselves in danger, that's usually when they go to Hashem, and Hashem is with them. That's why on Shabbat, in the Kabbalat Shabbat prayer, it says there are three reasons why a woman dies during her pregnancy. Three things. Why pregnancy? Why not just a regular day or Tuesday? Pregnancy is a dangerous time. When you put yourself in a dangerous situation, that's when the neshamah is going upstairs. You want to protect your wife? Protect your neshamah. When a person, heaven forbid, experiences a miscarriage, meaning the neshamah went out, ...without necessarily him doing it. It stems from Klipah of Lilith. Her name should be erased. I told you who that is already. Each one of these is about 30 of them. I'm just giving you the top picks. There are 80 pages.

1:59:09We'll keep this one for later. Nightmares. Anyone ever have nightmares? Now you know the source. Nightmares are usually controlled by demons. Demons are created by that, by Pgam HaBrit. Many of them, many, many of them. Likutei Moharan 2, Torah 5. For all you single guys looking for a zivug. Sometimes, because of the sin of Pgam HaBrit, a person can actually lose his destined wife, his zivug. When he was brought to this world, right before his neshamah went into the little baby, Hashem already decided who his zivug is going to be. You waste enough seed, you lower yourself, you lower your spiritual standing enough,

2:00:11Your zivug is going to go to an appropriate person, which is not you. Teshuvah is always open, Baruch Hashem. You bring yourself back up. That's the point of doing this shiur. Hashem knows. Don't worry. He created the heavens and the earth. He'll take care of that too. By fixing this sin, a person will find his destined wife. And on top of that, she will not be rebellious against him. Likutei Torah 87. Why is he mentioning she will not be rebellious against him? Because, like I told you, sometimes a person wakes up and his wife is mad at him, and he hasn't done anything yet. He just woke up. Why is she mad at him? Because our neshama knows that he wasted seed. She can't see, but our neshama knows. Oh.

2:01:47It says wasting seed causes havoc in the spiritual worlds. What does that mean? Imagine a person is hired, not exactly a genius, to work at a nuclear plant. They don't need a genius; they just need somebody with a gun to make sure no one presses the red button. That's it. He doesn't know what the red button does. Tell him each shift is six months. You can't leave this building for six months. Fine. He gets the job. He sits there with his gun, talking to himself all day. Eventually, he sees the cleaning guy. "Hey, how you doing? How you doing?" They grab a drink. Which, by the way, Chazal say one of the major reasons why you're not allowed to drink on a regular basis, get drunk, is because it leads to wasting seed. This is Sefer Hamidot 2, Shichrut. They hang out, have a few drinks, one day,

2:03:07The cleaning guy is like, so what do you do? Just look at this button all day. What's the button do? He said, I don't know. They just say it's a big deal. You want to press it? Yeah, why not? Let's see, I think they're lying to me. I think they just want to waste my time and torture me in this cell for six months. So go, let's press it. So he starts pressing it. The moron starts pressing it. He doesn't realize that each time he presses it, he launches a missile. A few hours later... A bunch of army men come inside with guns. "Who's pressing the button? Who's destroying the world?" Both of these drunk guys are on the floor laughing. And now they get the shock of their life. They're like, "What? What are you talking about destroying the world? We were just pressing the button." They're like, "Yes, you fool. Each time you launched a missile and killed 150 million people."

2:04:08That's wasting seed. That's Chilul Shabbat. You don't see the damage here, right away. But in the spiritual world, you're destroying civilizations. When you arrive, without teshuva, you'll see. And a person that did it without doing teshuva would know that the place he arrived to is the Gehenom that he created for himself. It's no surprise.

2:05:11Rabbi Yochanan spoke up and said, all those who waste seed are punishable by death. It's karet. Rav Ami said, it is as if he sheds blood; it's murder. Rav Ashi says, it's as if he worships strange deities. Midrash HaGadol Vayeshev. Rav Acha bar Yashaya says whoever wastes seed equates himself to an animal. Just like an animal does not care what it does, so too this person randomly commits the sin. Just like an animal is set aside to be slaughtered and does not receive life in the future world, so too this person stands to die and does not live in the future world. Midrash HaGadol Vayeshev Masechet Shabbat, page 41. The major flaw of the generation of the flood, as we said, was that they wasted seed. Rambam was a doctor, aside from being a major sage, a major chacham, from whom we have all of our halachot. He knew what he was doing.

2:06:41One that wastes seed, his old age jumps on them, meaning that they age much faster. At 18 years old, we look the same. At 25, he looks like he's 35. At 30, he looks like he's 49. At 40, he looks like he's 60. If he survives to 60, it would be a miracle. His strength leaves him. and his eyes go weak. You start losing your vision at a very young age. Bad breath pours out of his mouth regardless of how many times he brushes his teeth; he always has bad breath. This is very common in today's world. His hair and eyebrows fall out, and the hair of his legs and armpits becomes thick. and his teeth fall out or become weak. A lot of cavities. All of a sudden, when you were 18, you were a bull. By the time you were 25, you have worse teeth than your grandfather. What happened? You just took a shower, went outside for a half hour, and because of a little sweat, you smell like you've worked a full day in a toxic plant.

2:08:13Many additional health problems occur. Shulchan Aruch 240, Rambam De'ot. I mentioned the sources so you guys don't think I made this up just for the fun of scaring you. This will be a good one for the mothers to know. One that wastes seed, heaven forbid, his children will die young or end up as evil people. It also causes poverty. Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 151. If a wife hears this and finds out that her husband wasted seed for a second, she'd probably torture him to death. Touch a mother's children, you're playing with fire. That's why Rabbi Yochanan, when his students came to him on his deathbed, He said, "Rabbi, give us something, give us some insight that we could take with us forever." He said, "May you be scared of man, may you be scared of Hashem as much as you're scared of man." What? No, it's supposed to be the opposite, no? Unfortunately, most of us don't really have Yirat Shamayim. We're scared of men, scared of the cops at 3 o'clock in the morning that are pulling us over.

2:09:37more than we're scared of Hashem, who's watching every single thing that we do. That's what Rabbi Yochanan was teaching us. As we all know, someone reaches adulthood to a certain extent; for a girl, it's 12, and for a boy, it's 13, Bar Mitzvah. Until that time, any sin they commit is on their parents. Which is the reason why one of the brachot the father says at the boy's bar mitzvah is that he gets rid, you know, that I get rid of myself of this responsibility. Meaning that if the eight-year-old played with a video game on Shabbat, the sin goes to the father. If the 11-year-old girl ate chametz on Pesach, it goes to the parents. There's only one sin.

2:10:39goes to their account, to the child's account, to the boy's account under the age, at any age whether he's two years old, if it's possible, or he's 11, or he's 12, or he's nine. Wasting seed stays on his account; it doesn't go to his parents. A person under the age of mitzvot is not held accountable for his sins except for this one. For Er and Onan were under the age and got punished. You remember the punishment they got a moment ago that I read. As we know, each of the limbs, each of the mitzvot, we have 613 mitzvot, is for each one of our body parts. Wasting seed defiles all of them. Each sin affects one body part, which is the reason why certain people who know Kabbalah, if you tell them someone has a medical problem, you tell them what hurts, they'll tell you exactly what sin you need to rectify, what sin you need to do teshuva for, in order for it to stop. They know the body, they know the sins, they understand things that are not known in the medical world. But with wasting seed, if someone wastes seed,

2:12:03It's all of them. All 613 mitzvot. All 613 parts. If someone is praying a lot, he wants yeshuah from Hashem, he wants salvation. HaKadosh Baruch Hu, I need a job. HaKadosh Baruch Hu, I need parnassah. HaKadosh Baruch Hu, I need a wife. I need something. I need to stay alive. His prayers are not accepted. Waste seed. Prayer has gone to deaf ears. You can pray from here to tomorrow. It won't make a difference. So is there a point to pray? Of course, there's a point to pray. You can't make it worse. You can't make it better. No. It's just that your prayer is not answered. Meaning you can pray. You're doing the mitzvah of praying. But as far as getting what you want, why are you going to get what you want if every day you're killing 300 million of His children? So the prayers are not answered.

2:13:40Each time a person does this sin, he causes the creation of a numberless amount of klipot to take the image of pigs and dogs. So the demons the person creates apparently look like pigs and dogs. Someone who dies without doing teshuva for Gemar Brit, just so they know, They get to the Gehinnom that's a waste, a boiling waste. We'll leave the Gehinnom part to that. I think you're scared enough, hopefully.

2:14:46They get to the Gehinnom that's a waste, a boiling waste. We'll leave the Gehinnom part to that. I think you're scared enough, hopefully. Each time someone has something bad happen to him, they always blame God. David HaMelech wanted to remind us of that each day. In our tefillah, Each time someone has something bad happen to him, they always blame God. David HaMelech wanted to remind us of that each day. In our tefillah,

2:16:06We read Tehillim, Tehillim 25. After Amidah. At one point it says, David HaMelech is crying to Hashem. See my affliction and how much I struggle. For what sins? What sins did I make? Look at my enemies and how great they've become and how much violent hatred they have against me. This is the same thing as us.

2:17:08We lose a little bit of money. Girlfriend leaves us. Job's not good. This is not good. Complain to Hashem. What's the difference? David HaMelech actually didn't make a sin, so he's actually asking Hashem, What did I do? Did I have these enemies? If you're crying to Hashem about all the things that are happening, you better be ready. You better have a really good reason. Because all you're doing when somebody is making the sin like this, making a worse sin, such as this, And in telling Hashem, "What sin did I make that You're punishing me like this?" you get even more punishment for the chutzpah. "Why am I punishing you? You just killed 300 of My boys this morning, another 300 million of them this afternoon, and you're planning to kill another 300 million later tonight? And you're asking Me why you don't have any money?"

2:18:30Money's coming out of you every day. As we all know, parnassah comes from the children. People that are worried about having enough money to have kids, it's the biggest thing that people have no idea. Each child comes with a parnassah. So that means that if someone has four kids, And I say, listen, I don't know if we could afford a fifth kid. Maybe we should go to the rabbi. Maybe he could give us permission not to have any more kids, even though it's all four boys and it's supposed to be at least one boy and one girl. But maybe we can get a discount or something from the rabbi. He could just say four boys is like one boy and one girl. You know, make a new halacha for us, special. We don't have money. We don't have money. Little do they know that the fifth kid that's waiting, that the neshamah that's waiting in the chamber upstairs, comes with a million and a half dollars. They don't know. Why? Because they think everything is in their hands. The parnassah is in their hands. Every time someone wastes seed,

2:19:51They're also wasting that million and a half dollars. They're also wasting the billion dollars. They're also wasting this world. Not just talking about the next world. Next world, Hashem Yerachem. They're literally creating for themselves the worst type of Gehenom there is. One of these types of Gehenoms that doesn't end. Ever. People don't believe in eternal punishment. They think, Nah, Kvod HaRav. You're a machmir. Too much. What does it say in the Torah? It's eternal punishment. Where does it say it? As we all know, we have Torah Shebichtav and Torah Shebe'al Peh. Oral Torah and Written Torah. I couldn't bring all of my books, so I have to put some on my phone. You go to Gemara, Masechet Rosh Hashanah, page 17a.

2:20:52Wrongdoers of Israel who sin with their body. Sounds familiar, right? And wrongdoers of the gentiles who sin with their body. Also sounds familiar. Go down to Gehenom and are punished there for 12 months. This is, if someone, the reason why I even read this Gemara initially, Because someone told me, "No, look, see, the first verse over here means that they just get punished for 12 months." If you would have read the rest of the Gemara, you would have a different understanding. This first 12 months is the trial. After 12 months... Their body is consumed and their soul is burned, and the wind scatters them under the soles of the feet of the righteous. As it says, "And you shall tread down the wicked, and they shall be as ashes under the soles of your feet." But as for the minim, minim are like idol worshippers. And for the informers,

2:22:14and for the scoffers who rejected the Torah and denied the resurrection of the dead, and those who abandoned the ways of the community, and those who spread their terror in the land of the living and who sinned and made the masses sin like Yerovam ben Nevat and his fellows These will go down to Gehinnom and be punished there for all generations. As it says, and they shall go forth and look upon the carcasses of the men that have rebelled against Me. Meaning, Gehinnom will be consumed, but they will not be consumed. Meaning, Gehinnom eventually will end when the Mashiach comes; eventually, there's no more Gehinnom, except their part of the Gehinnom. That continues forever. Why all this? Why such a severe punishment? Because they laid their hands on the Temple. As it says, "I have surely built You a house of habitation."

2:23:39As you can see, wasting seed fits several of the descriptions. So it's not just a peshat, like some people think. Almost done. In Gemara Masechet Niddah, page 13b, they talk about this issue and whether a man is allowed to even touch that area of his body. They say, no, not allowed. Rabbi Yehuda HaNasi was also known as Rabbeinu HaKadosh. Chazal asks, why is he called Rabbeinu HaKadosh? Why doesn't everybody else know he's a Kadosh? Because he never even looked at that area of his body. Even with his eyes, he didn't look. Of course, he didn't touch. So Chazal says, yeah, but what if, how's a person gonna go to the bathroom? You have to wear special pants, okay?

2:25:07What about if you have a spike? A spike hurts and gets stuck in that area of the body. Painful. The Gemara in Masechet Niddah, page 13b, says it's better that his stomach will blow up and he die rather than him remove the spike from that area that's hurting him. That's how careful they were to even touch the area. In the same Gemara, Masechet Niddah, page 13a, Rabbi Eliezer says it's better that one would tell everyone that all of his kids are mamzerim and get a lifetime's worth of shame than touch his private part and waste seed.

2:26:14It's better that he gets shamed. Everyone calls him, "Hey, look, your wife was with another guy. Look, all your kids are mamzerim." And he can prove, "No, they're not mamzerim, they're not mamzerim." So it's better that he gets that shame his whole life than waste seed one time. Shame is a big deal in Judaism. Someone who shames his friends in public has no share in Olam HaBa. someone who makes fun of somebody in public has no share in Olam HaBa. We learn this from David HaMelech. So to accept upon yourself the worst possible shame that all your kids are from another guy, that your wife is a harlot. So accept it. Just don't waste seed. Why was Yosef HaTzadik called Yosef HaTzadik and no one else of the 12 tribes? We learn this from Gemara Sotah. He's called Tzadik because he didn't waste seed. It's so much so that when Potiphar's wife, the Gemara says, Potiphar's wife came on to him and Yosef almost sinned. He almost sinned.

2:27:44But then he saw the image of his father, reminding him that if he commits this sin, one day when they have the choshen for the Kohen Gadol, they will have to engrave the names of the 12 tribes. Your name will not be engraved. This reminded Yosef HaTzadik and gave him some Yirat Shamayim, reminding him of what the sin entails. The Gemara says he took his hands... And he buried him into the ground, forcefully breaking his hands all the way to the point that, miraculously, the seed that was supposed to come out of that organ came out of his fingernails. He didn't waste seed. He's called a tzaddik because he did not waste seed. He protected his brit. The other 11 tribes did not protect the brit apparently.

2:28:44a tzaddik, we learn from Sefer Yirmiyahu. I think it's chapter 19. Yirmiyahu chapter 15, verse 19. This is a verse I mentioned last night about Kiruv, which we'll embellish on a little bit later. But from here it says, if you bring forth an honorable person from a glutton. So we learn that an honorable person is a tzaddik, someone who did teshuva. Someone who did teshuva is considered yakar, honorable, precious. The opposite of yakar is something that is obviously cheap. But here we're not talking about price. The opposite of a tzaddik is someone that's a rasha. So if you take the word yakar, which is yud, kuf, resh, and you change the order of the letters, you spell the word keri.

2:30:12which is what we talked about, which is wasting seed. The yakar, the numerical value of yakar, is 310. What's 310? It's the amount of worlds that a tzaddik gets in Olam Haba. Gets 310 worlds. That's what a yakar gets. You can figure out what the keri gets. Sefer Kabbalah wants to scare us a little bit more. It says that each time a drop of seed is wasted, there's a bad angel that takes the one drop—not the whole thing, just one of the drops—and uses it as a hostage to give the Tumah more power against you.

2:32:03So, looking bad, smelling bad, aging fast, growing hair in strange places, losing years out of your life, losing Olam HaBa, eternal punishment, demons, nightmare, in so many words. Time to stop. How do we stop? Why stop, aside from being scared to death? How do you do teshuva for something like this? There are a few things. First and foremost, teshuva is you have to stop immediately. You cannot continue the sin one more time. Someone starts, they don’t do it for a week, two weeks, three weeks, four weeks, they fail.

2:33:07You have to protect your eyes because if you don't protect your eyes, if you keep watching movies, keep looking at these magazines, keep watching inappropriate videos on the internet, you do all of that stuff, you're bringing Gehinnom into your life. There's no way to avoid it. There's no way to avoid it. You watch... You know how the Israelis call it? You wash your eyes with looking at other women, you're bringing Gehinnom into your life. Even if you want to stop doing it yourself, it's going to happen to you at night. What you have to do is you have to start looking at the floor. You can't walk around looking at everyone, like one of these puppets that shakes their head that you buy at the baseball games. You have to start watching your eyes. Yeah, I died again. It's okay. The phone's recording. Let's see how long that lasts. Satan doesn't want to see you online. Doing teshuva for something like this, this is something that could save a lot of people. Doing teshuva, you have to first start with watching your eyes. Second of all, you have to start practicing not touching at all. Limit it as much as you can.

2:34:32I know, normally, it's tough for a guy and so on. You have to do whatever you can, whatever you can, especially if you're single. If you're married, Baruch Hashem, you have your wife. If you're single, if there was a way to not go to the bathroom, I tell you, don't go to the bathroom. Because when you're single, it's almost impossible. The third thing is, if you're single, you have to find yourself a wife. Stop being one of these losers that's 40 years old still looking for the perfect woman. Find a wife. Be a normal person. Don't worry about it. You'll develop love over time. I'm serious. There's a bunch of guys that I went to yeshiva with. They're in their 40s and 45s. They're still looking for the perfect one. What are they looking for in clubs? No, I couldn't find the perfect one. I thought I had it. When? 20 years ago. Okay, what about now? You're 45 years old. What are you waiting for? Find a woman. Settle down. Get a wife. That's it. She doesn't have to be the number one person on earth. Just find somebody. Settle down. You'll develop love over time. If you guys have something in common...

2:35:44could tolerate each other if you could have a connection, if you have chemistry. That's it. It doesn't have to be a Marilyn Monroe and, you know, one of these other—I don't know—Brad Pitt or something. Normal people build a family, build a future. Just have something in common. That's it. It doesn't require this crisis that we have today. It's all because we can't watch our eyes. The man can't stop looking at not a modest woman, so they think that the tzaddeiket that just came from Beit Yaakov is supposed to look like the prostitute he saw in the mall. And the woman, unfortunately, some women are very materialistic. Why? Because they watch TV, they look at these magazines, they see that all these celebrities have this and that, so the guy's chasing money so he can keep up with the girl's expectations, and they both drive each other crazy. There shouldn't be a shidduch crisis. There's plenty of men, there's plenty of women. I have every single day someone asking me if I have a shidduch for them. How could it be? There are guys that want shidduchim, there are girls that want shidduchim. What, you can't meet each other?

2:36:57What's the problem? Find yourself a wife. If it's not because of anything else, it's to stop this sin. Stop this sin. I'm telling you, it's such a horrendous sin. I have a lot of health problems. Anyone that wants to know my personal story, you can watch last night's shiur. It's online. B'ezrat Hashem, it will be online tonight. I know suffering. One thing I understand is suffering. I had many, many years of suffering. Pain and screaming and surgeries and pills. All types of wonderful suffering. Baruch Hashem. I know what suffering is. I'm an expert in suffering. You want to know again? It looks like I could tell you. In this world, not the other one. I know what it looks like. I know what suffering is. You don't want it. You don't want suffering. It's a nightmare. You got to get yourself a wife. It's number two. If you don't have a wife, get yourself a wife. Work on it. Work on it. It has to become, aside from learning Torah, it has to become number one. Number three, just as the Rambam says, the only type of people that waste seed, spend their time on this stuff, are people that are empty-minded. They have no chochmah. They have nothing in their head. So they're bored to death. And boredom leads to sin, like Shlomo HaMelech told us.

2:38:19Can't be bored. Can't find yourself bored. What do you got to do? You got to go learn Torah. Stop being a batlan, doing nothing with your life. Watching sports is boredom. Watching television is boredom. You can watch TV for nine hours and not even realize nine hours passed because your neshama went to sleep. Your body is just dead. Nothing happens. Whether the guy died or he lived, whether the team won or not, it doesn't affect your life. You're just wasting your life. You have to spend time developing your neshama, developing your brain. Arizal here says, you want to rectify all the seed that you wasted? You have to sweat for mitzvot. Because each drop of sweat that comes out of your body due to a mitzvah is fixing one drop of seed that came out of your body. So in Simchat Torah, You should be the guy that runs around and sweats his eyes out with the Torah, celebrating for the mitzvah. You're supposed to be happy. Run around, have a good time. If it's hard in the kollel, you should study even extra. Hard in yeshiva? Study extra. Sweat doing a mitzvah. Literally sweat. Because each one of them is mamash helping you out.

2:39:46Most important thing is you have to learn difficult Torah. Learning nice sipurim tzaddikim, listening to a nice story, yeah, it's fine, it's good, it's not bad. But for this sin, you have to choose your suffering. There's two types of suffering as far as this teshuva. It's either suffering by your choice, or suffering that's not your choice. So it's either you force yourself to learn difficult Gemara and pretty much to the point of ripping your hair out of your head, and struggling at 1:30 in the morning, instead of going and getting 8 hours of sleep, you only got 5 because you struggled to learn some Torah, or Hashem is going to give you different suffering. You don't want that suffering. You have to struggle. That's what Amal BaTorah is. Or HaChaim, one of his 42 pirushim, says it means Amal BaTorah. means difficult Torah, learning Torah. It's difficult, it's not easy. The Midrashim, it's nice. Sipurei Tzaddikim is nice. Little tape here, little CD there, it's all nice. But if it's easy for you, it's not going to fix the sin. It's good for Torah, but not enough if you have the sin like pretty much every single person that's alive today.

2:41:28Few things and I'll finish. This is really more for the women than anything else. Every time the men look at women, they're not really doing her any favors. A woman walks around like a prostitute and doesn't want to wear any clothes, or the clothes she does wear are like becoming a second skin. It's so tight that you can pretty much tell exactly what she looks like. She has to understand that each time she walks around like this, the demons are following her. Why? Because she falls into this description. Mishnah, Pirkei Avot 5:21, says, כל המזכה את הרבים אין חטא בא על ידו, וכל המחטיא את הרבים אין מספיקין בידו לעשות תשובה. Whoever influences the masses to become meritorious, meaning to do teshuva, shall not be the cause of sin. Someone who is doing zikkuy ha-rabim, organizing lectures, giving lectures, distributing CDs, publicizing Torah, and trying to get people to do teshuva, Hashem is going to give them special protection. Hashem is going to help them in a big way, as long as they are not committing this major sin. Committing this major sin cuts your connection with Hashem.

2:42:57But one who influences the public, influences the masses to sin, will not be given the means to repent. A woman who walks around, a modest woman who walks around, doesn’t realize that every single time she walks around, it’s not really the problem that she walks around that way. God doesn’t actually care whether you wear a tank top or you wear a tube top or you wear nothing. or you wear modest clothes. God knows exactly what you look like. He created you. It's that every single step that you take has another guy looking at you, and every single second that he looks at you is a sin. Every time he sins, you and he create a demon. And neither one of them ever leaves. So, a woman that goes from Avenue 15 to Avenue 20

2:43:57thinks, "Oh, she looks cute with her new mini skirt." Doesn't realize, just from Avenue 15 to Avenue 20, a thousand men looked at her. She just created a few thousand demons for herself and for them. Who wants that problem? We all have enough problems in our life. What do we need this for? She becomes a machti ha’rabim. She becomes one that makes the public, the masses, sin. People don't understand. It's not about Hashem caring what your clothing style is or not. He cares about His children. He cares about what His children look like and how they behave. This is why even goyim must be modest. Because if a goya walks around immodestly and she makes a Jew sin, it's a major problem. She has a major, major problem with Hashem. Exactly. But it's even bigger when she's making one of His sons sin. So, for example, in the Torah, it mentions that anyone that commits a sin with an animal, which is bestiality, which in Hashem's eyes, by the way, is the same exact thing as homosexuality. That's why they're always together. They're always next to each other in the Torah. Homosexuality and bestiality, even though in this generation it seems like it's

2:45:26almost both of them are normal, but at least being a homosexual is accepted. They even have parades for them. But in reality, in Hashem's eyes, it's not accepted. And He sees it as the same thing as a man being with an animal or a woman being with an animal. And He says if a man commits a sin with an animal, or a woman commits a sin with an animal, you kill both of them. Now, okay, fine. You killed the guy. I understand. He's crazy. He doesn't deserve to live. What are you killing the animal for? What, the cow winked at him? Why are you killing the animal for? What did she do? Chazal says, because Hashem doesn't want to look at her and be reminded that for her, He had to kill one of His sons. Understand? Understand? So Hashem and the woman that walks around immodestly. And Hashem knows that because of her, He has to send a bunch of His sons to concentration camps. So people don't understand how modesty is so important. We have made a lot of sins throughout our generations. Hashem has had mercy on us in every single generation. He has had mercy on us. He almost destroyed us several times, but He had mercy on us. He loves us.

2:46:51We sinned with the Golden Calf. He had mercy on us. He gave us a warning. We sinned with the manna. He gave us a warning. We complained. He gave us a warning. Idol worship—He gave us a warning. Before the Beit HaMikdash was destroyed, we got countless warnings. The second Beit HaMikdash, we got countless warnings. Before He punished us, we got countless warnings. Except once. Only one time in the entire Torah, Only one time in the entire history did we not get warnings. Parashat Balak. When Balak and Bilaam tried to curse Am Yisrael, Bilaam's curse did not work and turned into a blessing. So he told Balak, listen, I can't curse them because their God protects them. But if you want to beat them, send all your women there. Send all your immodest women over there. No kisui rosh, mini skirt, tight jeans. Send all of them over there. Why? Their God hates zima. What's zima? Zima is immodesty, prostitution. As soon as the women arrived, Am Yisrael sinned. Send all your women there. Send all your immodest women over there. No kisui rosh, mini skirts, tight jeans. Send all of them over there. Why? Their God hates zimah. What's zimah? Zimah is immodesty, prostitution. As soon as the women arrived, Am Yisrael sinned.

2:48:19And within a matter of minutes, Hashem started a plague without a warning. You're going to learn about it in a few weeks, in the Parashat Shavua. In a matter of minutes, Hashem killed 24,000 of Am Yisrael. And it only stopped because Pinchas, the grandson of Aharon HaKohen, took a spear and put it inside the two leaders, Zimri and And with the leader of the women also. So here we see this punishment, which is different. Even though idol worship seems really bad — it is. Chilul Shabbat, really bad. Complaining to Hashem, bad. Everything is bad. When we do anything that's against Hashem, it's bad. But in modesty, Hashem says, you're killing my children. This is why you see today, so many women getting so many different diseases. Where are they getting these diseases? In the reproductive organs. Where is the number one cancer for both males and females today?

2:49:50those exact areas, right? The areas for women, the areas for men, private areas — that is where the disease is. Hashem is telling us, it's like, well, Hashem is telling us, "You have to act like Jews, not like the people of Sodom, not like the people of Noah." And that's why women have to work on their modesty, and they also have to work on their husbands. You have to make sure you do not allow your husband for one second to look at other women. It's never okay. Ever. Because you're protecting him. If he starts doing it, children are going to do it. And that's the thing. It's just once a kid starts with it, Chazal says there's almost no way to do teshuva for wasting seed. Why? Because it's the biggest addiction there is. It's more addictive than crack. So much so that this Rav that wrote this medical book 190 years ago, Rav Avraham Stern, said that even when he told the guy, "Listen, I cured you, now you made yourself worse."

2:51:08If you continue wasting seed, you're 100% going to die. One after another, after another, guy continued and continued until he killed himself. That's how addictive it is. So you have to overcome it. It's a big deal. It's a big deal in Hashem's eyes. It's also a big deal in Hashem's eyes that you don't get men to do that. If a woman is responsible for a guy using that as an excuse for wasting seed, she's a partner in the crime. And that's the big thing that people need to understand. This is going to be a wake-up call for whoever can hear this shiur at full length and actually get some yirat shamayim. Because the biggest compliment that Hashem gave to Avraham Avinu after the Akedah is, now I know that you fear me. After he passed ten tests. Ten tests. He was just about to kill his own son.

2:52:11for Hashem. Hashem stops him and says, "No, no. Don't put your hand on him. Because now I know that you fear Me." So fear, unlike what this generation thinks, is not only a good thing. It's a compliment. After Avraham Avinu died, He called Avraham "my lover, my lover." But during his life, he called him and said the highest level of compliment. He told him, "Now I know you fear Me." Fearing Hashem is the foundation. It's the beginning. If you have no fear of Hashem, the shiur is not even relevant to you. Nothing is going to help you. You have to develop fear of Hashem. Pay attention to Him. Notice Him. You believe in Him and you follow what He says. Any questions? You have questions. I know it's soon. The camera's off, so you guys have to have questions. Usually, when the camera's on, no one asks any questions. Camera's off. It's 500 questions. Yesterday, I think I said questions. Nobody asked any questions. I shut off the camera. We stayed there until 2 o'clock in the morning. There are even more sources, but I think you guys get the point. On the girls' side...

2:53:35You have to make sure that your husband knows this information so he doesn't ever think it's okay. You have to make sure that you're not the reason why anyone else is ever going to be a sinner. Not just your husband, but anyone else. For men, it all starts with keeping your eyes clean. And you start working on Yirat Shamayim. To get Yirat Shamayim, you have to learn stuff like this. You have to learn Gemara, you have to learn Mussar. Regularly, every day. Not once a week; it's not enough. Even if you learn for 24 hours a day, one day a week, somehow, and the other six days you're not learning, it's not enough. It's better that you learn two hours a day than everything in one day. Every day, because your Neshama needs food every day. Not just once a week. You know, it's like if I told you, listen, Don't eat every day. Just eat once a week, but eat the whole day. Steaks. One steak after another. You won't survive. You need to eat every day. Yeah, there's a few Tehillim. There's a few Tehillim that you can say. It's not necessarily a bracha. There's a few Tehillim that I'll, if you want, text me and I'll send them to you that you can say to help you as far as protect your eyes.

2:54:57But the biggest thing, the biggest thing that you can do to help yourself with guarding the Brit is when you learn Torah, especially difficult Torah, your brain starts working differently. And just like the Rambam says in Hilchot Issurei Bi'ah, Perek 22, Halacha 21. one the same place that he said that only an empty brain makes this type of sin, in essence, he's also telling us that if you fill your brain with Torah, you're never going to be bored If you're learning Torah every day, even if it's only an hour or two hours a day, your brain is always going to be functioning. Oh, you know what, yesterday Rashi said this. Your brain is always going to be working on that. If your brain is only working on business, on the material world, it's very easy to sin. But if your brain has some Torah in it, on a regular basis, it's going to function differently, and you're not going to think about that stuff.

2:56:06But obviously, it requires some work. You have to do it every day. So Torah, especially difficult Torah, and obviously difficult, not just that it's difficult and you never understand it, but difficult until you understand it, is the type of stuff that's going to fix your brain and neshamah and get you away from seeing all of this stuff, thinking about it in all ways. Second thing is, obviously, have a good relationship with your wife. If you're mean to your wife, then you can't blame her for not wanting to look at you. Some guys think that the wife is like a slave or something. I don't know what happened to this world, but people treat their wife like they think it's a plant. They can move it wherever they want. You have to treat your wife like a human being. You have to... Take care of yourself. You can't expect her to be excited to be with you when you don't take a shower more than once a week. You know, you have to take care of yourself. Same thing with women. I'm telling you guys, this is the type of stuff I hear. No, I don't want to be with him. Why? He smells. Okay, well, take a shower. Why can't you tell him? No, I feel bad telling him. Who's going to tell him then? Who's going to tell him?

2:57:23Who's going to tell him? Tell him, "Listen, I refuse to be with you because you smell." Okay, so the guy's going to start taking showers ten times a day. He wants to be with his wife. If he's not going to be with his wife, he's going to sin. So the wife, thinking she's being nice to him by not hurting his feelings, being politically correct by not hurting his feelings, is leading him to sin. Enough with the political correctness. Tell people the truth. You can say it in a nice way. You can even say it in a funny way and joke around privately. But say the truth. Just say what it is. Enough with this garbage in the world with all this political correctness. "No, I don't want to hurt the feelings." Why hurt the feelings? You're telling the guy something that's going to help him. Okay, so the surgery is going to hurt. I understand. But if we don't do the surgery, the guy is going to die. What are you going to do? I know it's going to hurt. The recovery is going to hurt. The surgery is going to hurt. Everything is going to hurt. But eventually, he's going to live. It's better that I hurt now and be better later than no later. So tell people the truth. The biggest thing that you can do for an overall connection to Hashem is to take care of His children. In a woman's case, two major things. One, modesty. You have to be modest. There is no other option. You have to be modest. If a woman is married, she has to cover her hair. Not with a wig that reaches the floor. Kisui Rosh. Appropriate. Look modest. Don't drag it, you know, grab the attention of the public. The only one that should see your beauty is your husband. The wigs of today are not kosher. Even the rabbis that say that wigs are kosher or used to say that wigs are kosher would never say that the wigs of today are kosher. Because the wigs of today look better than natural hair. I can never understand that.

2:58:49If you're married, you have to cover your hair. Not with a wig that reaches the floor. Kisui Rosh. Appropriate. Look modest. Don't drag it, you know, grab the attention of the public. The only one that should see your beauty is your husband. The wigs of today are not kosher. Even the rabbis that say that wigs are kosher, or used to say that wigs are kosher, would never say that the wigs of today are kosher. Because the wigs of today look better than natural hair. I can never understand that. So it's nonsense. No one, no big rabbi in the world today, agrees with today's wigs. No one. Even if you tell me, "No, but his own wife wears it." Okay, he has his own problem. It doesn't mean anything. Someone came to Rabbi Ovadia and said, "Rabbi Ovadia spoke against wigs all the time. There's no place in the Torah that says you're allowed to wear wigs. Whoever said it is making a mistake. You're not allowed to wear wigs." He said, "Yes, but Kvod HaRav, your own granddaughter is wearing a wig." He said, "Yes, there's a place for her in Gehinom also." It's all a problem. The human hair part is because it comes from, most of the time, different traditions in Tibet, in India, and different places in Asia where it's part of idol worship to take off their hair.

3:00:03idol worshippers. It's actually idol worshippers, outright idol worshippers. It's part of the tradition to cut off hair as part of idol worship. So women that wear wigs, in many cases, are using idol worship. You're not allowed to benefit from idol worship in any way. Even if it's a gold statue, you're not allowed to benefit from it. Not allowed to use it, not allowed to sell it, not allowed to look at it, nothing. So, of course, you're not allowed to wear it on your head. But aside from that, it's not modest. It doesn't meet the basic requirement. It's not modest. So women need to understand, yes, I know this is a big tikkun in this generation. No one wants to cover their hair. Everyone wants to look pretty for Steve and Mikey at ShopRite. I understand. But your husband is more important, and Hashem is more important. Steve and Mike are going to look at some other girl. They don't have to look at you. Your husband should look at you. That's it. Cover your hair. Cover your body. Your skirt needs to cover your knees after you sit down, not before you sit down. If as soon as you sit down, it goes up and becomes a mini skirt, that's not modesty. The skirt, ideally, should cover your ankles even when you're sitting down. But even if it can't, the point is that it needs to cover your knees at the very minimum when you sit down. It's not about adjusting it every three seconds.

3:01:30I know there are a lot of women who go to a wedding, and every two seconds they're all, you know, adjusting their skirts while sitting down. That's not modesty. The skirt needs to cover normally and also it's not supposed to be that tight. Why? Because if it's tight, then anyone with eyes can see exactly what your body looks like. It has to be loose. That's what modesty is. That's what Hashem said. It's not me. If it were up to me, I'm a guy... What do you think a guy would want? It's not. Before we did teshuva, I would tell my wife, don't wear any clothes. I had no concept. I was an animal. I'm telling you, this is what Hashem wants. Shirts have to cover the elbows at all times. The neckline needs to be covered. Obviously, you have to act like a human being. You can't talk like a truck driver. Speak like a lady. And guys, for heaven's sake, if you're wearing skinny jeans, stop it already. It's mamash, like, enough. And aside from that, whoever you know who wears them, tell them something.

3:02:53It's just not appropriate. It doesn't look nice. I don't know who thinks it looks nice, but whatever. I guess it's a taste situation. You gotta stop it. I don't know. It's just one of those things which, by the way, whoever doesn't know who actually made this style popular, it's not exactly Mr. Righteous who made this style popular. It's a guy named Lil Wayne. He's not the ideal Jew or anything. He's not Yosef HaTzadik. He's the one Actually made it really, really hip, and then obviously other superstars followed, and I think he eventually graduated to just wearing women's pants because the men's pants weren't tight enough. I'm serious. So, if you're a nice Jewish boy that fears Hashem and wants to fulfill your purpose in the world, why are you using this guy as an example? Who wants to look like him? We're Jews. We're not goyim. We have to stop acting like them. I

3:03:54they're not even supposed to act like that. But nonetheless, we have a higher responsibility. We're supposed to be a light to the nations. This is why Hashem uses anti-Semitism. Because with the anti-Semitism that there is in the world, we still have a huge, huge amount of assimilation. A huge amount of intermarriage. A huge amount of Jews not keeping anything because they feel like Tommy and Joey are the same as them. A huge amount of people with no interest whatsoever in God. Huge. And it's funny because The Jews are supposed to be the most religious people. We find ourselves as the least religious people. So you have to tell each other something. You have to tell each other the truth. You have to do teshuva. And you build on top of it. There's always teshuva. It's always available. It's always available. But you have to be serious. You have to be genuine. And with something like this, for guys, gemara, learning tough stuff, that's the secret to stopping it obviously. And if you're single, get yourself together, find yourself a wife, and there's not the same all of you do very soon.

3:05:02learning tough stuff—that's the secret to stopping it, obviously. And if you're single, get yourself together, find yourself a wife, and it's not the same. All of you should do this very soon.