Ways We Can Prevent Ourselves From Wasting Seed

0:06So, some of the suggestions I can give people, specifically those I have mentioned privately but not in the shiurim, are ways to overcome personal challenges. If a person, especially men, has a desire to engage in inappropriate thoughts or actions, the Gemara advises to start by saying "Shema Yisrael." If that doesn't work, open a sefer and start learning Torah. If that still doesn't help, contemplate this shiur or a shiur about Gehenom that discusses what could happen to you after you pass away. Sometimes even these three steps are not enough, so there are additional strategies that I will now mention.

1:18Overcoming this is not achieved by buying yourself a new car every day, but rather by writing a journal. Every day that you overcome it, one day passes. The next morning, when you wake up after you do your prayers and everything else, think about how good you feel that you overcame another day. Write down that good feeling in a journal—whether it's one sentence or five sentences, whatever you need to describe to yourself and describe that feeling. Why do you do this? Because you're going to need this book. When? The next time the Yetzer Hara comes back, and you're already going for 60 days, for 90 days, for six months, for a year and a half. The Yetzer Hara is not on vacation just because you're on vacation. He's going to wait for you, sometimes 20 years. But if you're writing this journal for a long time, he's going to come back and say, wait, hold on a second. You know what? You make a lot of sense, Yetzer Hara, but let me see. Hold on a second. Hold on. I like what you're saying. Hold on a second. It sounds good. One second. Wait, but this makes more sense. You make sense, Yetzer Hara, but your cents are really pennies. This is dollars. This is millions. Why? I remember how I felt on day number 18, day number 19, day number 61, day number 187. Look, I wrote it. I wrote about how I feel after all these times. I want that feeling because I know how I feel after I listen to you. Hashem, all of this is the opposite. It's not worth it. It's simply not worth it.

2:44So, you write yourself a little journal. That's another way that you can overcome this. Remind yourself constantly of everything we learned in these shiurim. I have a whole playlist on our YouTube channel and on the website. There's actually a tab that Sinyat Tzaddik made for us called Wasting Seed. Why? All of the shiurim about wasting seed are over there. You should be watching those shiurim on a monthly basis. Men, women, children, adults, rabbis, talmidim—everybody should be watching these shiurim. It has nothing to do with me. ...to watch shiurim from the shul that can provide you with one hundred fifty to three hundred sources. It's easier to do this than to look up each individual source by yourself and search for that one line that will impact you. Watching these shiurim regularly is crucial to your learning, as some of them are long and some are short. However, the consistent engagement with the material is what's most important. constantly you remind yourself. It's not worth it. It's not enough to do it one time or two times or five times. It's not enough you did it while you were single and then you stop when you were married. By the way, everybody thinks that this sin goes away once you get married is wrong. In fact, I have more people that are addicted to it that I'm trying to help that are married than the ones that are single and

4:02Marriage doesn't solve this problem like some people think. Oh, no, no, just get married as soon as possible to solve the problem. It's not true. It doesn't solve the problem. Number one, you still have to deal with the fact that she's a niddah for half the month. What are you going to do? I have many guys, grown men, tell me, "I listen, I do everything good, but when she's a niddah, I can't take it." I mean, that's the test, you moron. What do you mean you do everything good? It's like saying, "I eat kosher as long as I'm in the house, but as soon as I go outside, I don't eat kosher." What do you mean? But that's the test. That's the test when you're out there, when it's tough. That's the test. So you have to have your mind; you have to be scared to death. You have to remind yourself of this stuff. Marriage is not going to fix that problem. What's going to fix that problem is being afraid to lose everything. Your relationship with Hashem, your marriage, your kids. Your kids are going to be ashamed of what's going to happen to them, what they're going to be. Why? Because this is what you're doing to yourself. You can't blame God for this. You have a kid that's coming out with a ba'al mum, is missing something. It's not Hashem's fault. It's not Hashem's fault.

5:11You have to understand that these things, which are hard to hear, are the only things that will protect us. It's the only thing. If you're not scared of your bris, you're not going to treat it with respect. You're going to look at it whenever you want, which brings me to the next point that has actually helped many, many people far beyond what you would think, and... As I advised you to do what Rabbi Yehuda HaNasi said and what he did in his life. Rebbi, known as Rabbenu HaKadosh, was called HaKadosh because he never looked at his own brit. Not only did he refrain from touching it, he never looked at it. Why not look at it? If you look at it, you become comfortable with it. So what do you do as far as to clean yourself? You don't need to touch yourself to clean yourself. First and foremost, use a sponge. That's not exactly an expensive endeavor. You go to the dollar store and get one for a dollar. If you need, we'll start a fundraiser for you to get the dollar. Okay, get a sponge. That's number one. Number two, you don't need to actually touch the corona when you clean yourself. The reality is most people say, no, it's for hygienic reasons, you know. Yeah, okay, buddy. I'm a guy also. You don't need to. It's not a problem. The same thing applies to women. Don't get comfortable with yourself.

6:30Don't get comfortable with yourself. There's no reason to get comfortable. You have to do your business, clean, whatever you need to clean. Of course, their body is completely the opposite of ours, but don't get comfortable with yourself. Also, make sure your kids are not comfortable with themselves. I have little kids, little kids that don't realize it's bad. Their parents let them do whatever they want, and they have an addiction already before they're 12. And then people ask, why is there so much tragedy in the world? There's so much tragedy because we're killing already without knowing. You want to be holy, you have to do things like this that are difficult, and no one is ever going to give you credit for it except Hashem. Why? Because no one knows you're doing it. If you're looking for mitzvot that everyone sees, that's not going to make you a tzaddik. That's not going to make you righteous. In fact, it may be the opposite sometimes. To be a real tzaddik, to be kadosh, to be a holy person, requires you to do things that you're not going to get any credit for from anyone except Hashem. The things that you do in closed rooms, the things you do in the bathroom. This, rabotai, is extremely important for Am Yisrael to know. Unfortunately, we're left with only me to tell you.

7:46But listen, if there were a thousand people saying the same thing as me, you wouldn't need to hear this shiur. And I'll give you a shiur that scares you in a different way. But if that's what we have in this generation, that's what we have. Baruch Hashem, we have the merit to do something. But the reality is there should be a thousand rabbis screaming and crying their hearts out, telling Am Yisrael to stop destroying themselves. These divorces, all of the heresy, all of the atheism, all of the conversions to different religions, all of this Zionist, communist mentality—all of it starts with this. We destroy our own blet—we're destroying our own nation. That's exactly what we thought we left behind in Egypt in last week's parasha. We thought we left Egypt. Because Egypt was symbolic of wasting seed and all of the related sexual transgressions, the reality is that we're just as bad today as we were back then. However, today we have access to information and solutions. You simply have to watch yourself. There are different websites and apps that can assist in doing so.

8:57They're going to help guys watch their eyes. If you know yourself, that as soon as you look at something, as soon as you look at somebody, you're going to have all types of thoughts, they're going to even lead you to a dream or something like that. Go on to websites like GuardYourEyes and some other similar websites. We're going to get a list of them. They're going to publish soon. One of the tzaddikim from Canada is putting a list together for us to publicize for people. So you have different resources for how to watch your eyes. The reality is, some of these tools are useful for some people and not useful for others because you can't have this software on some computers if you need it for work or otherwise. The reality is that you have to do everything you can to protect yourself. But at the end of it all, if you're not afraid to death, nothing will help you. I have one guy, Baruch Hashem, whom we helped. Both Hashem and now, I think he's going maybe two years already with it, but he used to tell me, "Listen, I went to yeshiva. I went to kollel. I learned all day. I learned this, I did everything possible. I didn't even have a phone." He said, "The phone that I had is a phone from the years of Antiochus."

10:11So, what happened? He says, "Once a month, I would go to my mom's house or some relative's house to visit, and they had a computer there or a phone there or something, and I couldn't wait to go visit this relative that I couldn't stand, just to go use their computer, like Hashem, to do what I wanted." Meaning that all of these tools, the software and the phone, all that stuff, it's all good. But if you don't have Yirat Shamayim, if you're not scared to death to destroy your relationship with Hashem, to destroy your olam hazeh, to destroy your olam haba, at some point you're going to fail. You have to have Yirat Shemayim (fear of Heaven). How? By going over this information over and over again and realizing that Hashem gave you the ability to enjoy life physically, emotionally, spiritually, and so on. But there are permissible ways and forbidden ways. Once you understand the consequences of every action, you start realizing it’s simply not worth it.

11:23So this, B'ezrat Hashem, hopefully will give you some more ideas of what to do when the Yetzer Hara arrives. There are many other ideas that I remember having, B'ezrat Hashem, on this. So anyone that needs even more ideas of how to stop it or what to do, B'ezrat Hashem, I'm more than happy to help if you're a very serious person. But again, remember, the key is Yirat Shamayim. If you don't have Yirat Shamayim, nothing can help you. Nothing can help you. Even Hashem Himself is limited and He can't help you. Why? If you're not yarei Shamayim (God-fearing), He can't help you.