What Guarantee Does A Cheap Husband Have? (4 minutes)
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1:08Any man that is cheap with his wife is guaranteed to have a miserable life, guaranteed. He is guaranteed to pay for it in Shamayim. He's going to receive a big punishment for torturing her his whole life. You are not allowed to be cheap with your wife, the one who brings all the kedushah to your house. You're being cheap with her? No, but she's a big spender. What big spender? She bought a $20 dress. What big spender? Yeah, but she already has so many! So what? You have so many! Hashem gave you money. What do you think it's for? For your 401k? We think it's for a retirement account only; it's also to give tzedakah on the side. So, you owe it to Bob. You're not allowed to be cheap on your wife unless she has some kind of sickness and you have to be careful. If the sickness is she's a spendaholic and just buys things for no reason, that's a different story. But some of these stories I hear from wives: "My husband doesn't want to give me a hundred dollars a week." Give you a hundred dollars a week. What's the hundred dollars a week for? Is it just for me to survive? A hundred dollars a week for survival? Wow, amazing, you could survive on a hundred dollars a week. Baruch Hashem, you should be praying to Hashem to thank Him that you could survive on a hundred dollars a week. Nobody wants to give me that. So what does he give you? Oh, he gives me $50. $50? Even the paperboy gets $50. You know, the 15-year-old paperboy gets $50. Why are you being cheap on your wife?
2:35Why are you cheap with your wife? Because you don't come to shiur Mussar. You don't come to shiur Torah and get smacked in the face a few times by God. Hashem is telling you what it says, and I obviously repeat what He says. I'm just a vessel. You're not getting smacked in the face. What are you watching? You're watching emunah shiurim. You're watching shiurim that have nice stories and make you feel good inside. good intentions alone will not suffice if the core is flawed. Mussar is the only path to truly refine oneself. All of these individuals experiencing shalom bayit (peace in the home) issues, all of these women facing challenges, it's because they are not engaging in a shiur Torah that is genuinely igniting a passion within them. If you leave a shiur Torah without feeling that fire, you've missed the opportunity for growth and
