Is Wasting Seed Causing The Shidduch Crisis?

0:10For all you single guys looking for a zivug. Sometimes because of the sin of p'gam ha'brit, a person can actually lose his destined wife, his zivug. When he was brought to this world, right before his neshama went into the little baby, Hashem already decided who his zivug is going to be. You waste enough seed, you lower yourself, you lower your spiritual standings enough, Your zivug is going to go to an appropriate person, which is not you. Teshuvah is always open, Baruch Hashem. You bring yourself back up. That's the point of doing this shiur. Hashem knows. Don't worry. He created the heavens and the earth. He'll take care of that too. By fixing this sin, a person will find his destined wife. And on top of that, she will not be rebellious against him. Likutei Torah 87. Why is he mentioning she will not be rebellious against him? Because, like I told you, sometimes a person wakes up and his wife is mad at him, and he hasn't done anything yet. He just woke up. Why is she mad at him?

1:33Because our neshama knows that he wasted seed. She can't see, but our neshama knows. Oh. It says, wasting seed causes havoc in the spiritual worlds. What does that mean? Imagine a person is hired, not exactly a genius, to work at a nuclear plant. They don't need a genius; they just need somebody with a gun to make sure no one presses the red button. That's it. He doesn't know what the red button does. Tell him each shift is six months. You can't leave this building for six months. Fine. He gets the job. He sits there with his gun, talking to himself all day. Eventually, he sees the cleaning guy. "Hey, how you doing? How you doing?" They grab a drink.

2:45Tell him each shift is six months. You can't leave this building for six months. Fine. He gets the job. He sits there with his gun, talking to himself all day. Eventually, he sees the cleaning guy. Hey, how you doing? How you doing? They grab a drink. Which, by the way, Chazal says one of the major reasons why you're not allowed to drink on a regular basis or get drunk is because it leads to wasting seed. This is Sefer Hamidot 2, Shichrut. They hang out, have a few drinks; one day, The cleaning guy is like, so what do you do? Just look at this button all day. What's the button do? He said, I don't know. They just say it's a big deal. You want to press it? He says, yeah, why not? Let's see, I think they're lying to me. I think they just want to waste my time and torture me in this cell for six months. He's like, yeah, let's press it. So he starts pressing it. Good moron. Starts pressing it. He doesn't realize that each time he presses it, he launches a missile. A few hours later, a bunch of army men come inside with guns. Who's pressing the button? Who's destroying the world? Both of these drunk guys are on the floor laughing. And now they get the shock of their life. They're like, what? What are you talking about destroying the world? We were just pressing the button. They're like, yes. You fool. Each time you launched a missile and killed 150 million people.

4:05A bunch of army men come inside with guns. Who's pressing the button? Who's destroying the world? Both of these drunk guys are on the floor laughing. And now they get the shock of their life. They're like, what? What are you talking about destroying the world? We were just pressing the button. They're like, yes, you fool. Each time you launched a missile and killed 150 million people, That's wasting seed. That's Chilul Shabbat. You don't see the damage here right away. But in a spiritual world, you're destroying civilizations. When you arrive without teshuva, you'll see. And a person that did it without doing teshuva would know that the place he arrived to is the Gehenom that he created for himself. It's no surprise.

5:39Rabbi Yochanan spoke up and said, all those who waste seed are punishable by death. It's karet. Rav Ami said, it is as if he sheds blood, it's murder. Rav Ashi says, it's as if he worships strange deities. Midrash HaGadol Vayeshev. Rav Acha bar Ya'akov said, Says, whoever wastes seed equates himself to an animal. Just like an animal does not care what it does, so too this person randomly commits the sin. Just like an animal is set aside to be slaughtered and does not receive life in the future world, so too this person stands to die and does not live in the future world. Midrash HaGadol Vayeshev Masechet Shabbat, page 41. The major flaw of the generation of the flood, as we said, was that they wasted seed. Rambam was a doctor, aside from being a major sage, a major chacham, from whom we have all of our halachot. He knew what he was doing.

7:09One that weighs seed, his old age jumps on them, meaning that they age much faster. At 18 years old, we look the same. At 25, he looks like he's 35. At 30, he looks like he's 49. At 40, he looks like he's 60. If he survives to 60, it would be a miracle. His strength leaves him, and his eyes go weak. You start losing your vision at a very young age. Bad breath pours out of his mouth regardless of how many times he brushes his teeth; he always has bad breath. This is very common in today's world. His hair and eyebrows fall out, and hair on his legs and armpits become thick. and his eyes go weak. You start losing your vision at a very young age. Bad breath pours out of his mouth regardless of how many times he brushes his teeth. He always has bad breath. This is very common in today's world. His hair and eyebrows fall out, and the hair on his legs and armpits becomes thick. and his teeth fall out or become weak. A lot of cavities. All of a sudden, when you were 18, you were a bull. By the time you were 25, you have worse teeth than your grandfather. What happened? You just took a shower, went outside for half an hour because of a little sweat. You sweat like, you know, you smell like you've worked a full day in a toxic plant.

8:41Many additional health problems occur. Shulchan Aruch 240, Rambam De'ot. I mentioned the sources so you guys don't think I made this up just for the fun of scaring you. This will be a good one for the mothers to know. One who wastes seed, heaven forbid, his children will die young or end up as evil people. It also causes poverty. Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 151. If a wife hears this and finds out that her husband wasted seed for a second, she'd probably torture him to death. Touch a mother's children, you're playing with fire. That's why Rabbi Yochanan, when his students came to him on his deathbed, he said, "Rabbi, give us something, give us some insight that we could take with us forever." He said, "May you be scared of man, may you be scared of Hashem as much as you're scared of man." What? No, it's supposed to be the opposite, no? Unfortunately, most of us don't really have Yirat Shamayim. We're scared of men, scared of the cops at 3 o'clock in the morning that are pulling us over. He said, "Rabbi, give us something, give us some insight that we could take with us forever." He said, "May you be scared of man, may you be scared of Hashem as much as you're scared of man." What? No, it's supposed to be the opposite, no? Unfortunately, most of us don't really have Yirat Shamayim. We're scared of men, scared of the cops at 3 o'clock in the morning that are pulling us over.

10:05more than we're scared of Hashem, who's watching every single thing that we do. That's what Rabbi Yochanan was teaching us. As we all know, someone reaches adulthood to a certain extent; for a girl, it's 12, and for a boy, it's 13 — Bar Mitzvah. Until that time, any sin they make is on their parents. which is the reason why one of the brachot the father says at the boy's bar mitzvah is that he gets rid, you know, that I get rid of myself of this responsibility. Meaning that if the eight-year-old played with a video game on Shabbat, the sin goes to the father. If the 11-year-old girl ate chametz on Pesach, it goes to the parents. There's only one sin.

11:07goes to their account, to the child's account, to the boy's account under the age, at any age, whether he's two years old, if it's possible, or he's 11, or he's 12, or he's nine. Wasting seed stays on his account; it doesn't go to his parents. A person under the age of mitzvot is not held accountable for his sins except this one. For Er and Onan were under the age and got punished. You remember the punishment they received a moment ago that I read. As we know, each of the limbs, each of the mitzvot, we have 613 mitzvot, corresponding to each one of our body parts. Wasting seed defiles all of them. Each sin affects one body part, which is the reason why certain people who know Kabbalah, if you tell them someone has a medical problem, and you tell them what hurts, they’ll tell you exactly what sin you need to rectify, what sin you need to do teshuvah for, in order for it to stop. They know the body, they know the sins, they understand things that are not known in the medical world. But we’re wasting seed, someone wastes seed,

12:30It's all of them. All 613 mitzvot. All 613 parts. If someone is praying a lot, he wants yeshuah from Hashem, he wants salvation. HaKadosh Baruch Hu, I need a job. HaKadosh Baruch Hu, I need parnassah. HaKadosh Baruch Hu, I need a wife. I need something. I need to stay alive. His prayers are not accepted. Waste seed. Prayer has gone to deaf ears. You can pray from here to tomorrow. It won't make a difference. So is there a point to pray? Of course, there's a point to pray. You can't make it worse. You can't make it better. No. It's just that your prayer is not answered. Meaning, you can pray; you're doing the mitzvah of praying. But as far as getting what you want, why are you going to get what you want if every day you're killing 300 million of His children? So the prayers are not answered.