Listening is Much More Important Than Speaking

1:11Why? Why don't you interrupt them? Today, that's how you win a debate. You interrupt everyone. They highlight people on TV who know how to win a debate by interrupting everyone. You see the two potential presidents, the two elites of the world, they don't let the other guy finish at all. Not even one sentence. They have to yell at them. Like two little kids. No, let her finish. No, let him finish. No, let her finish. What? What, you guys don't know anything? Read the Mishnah, not to interrupt people. But that's how I went into the debate: if I interrupt him, if I let her talk, people are going to believe her. Ah, so that means you're full of it too, then. Why are you so concerned about her finishing? Because maybe what she's saying is true. Why are you so concerned about him finishing? Oh, because maybe what he says is true, and if he finishes it, they're going to believe him because it's true. Oh, so what you're saying is not true, then? אורי אורי אורי אורי אורי אורי

2:35You may not even realize that you're doing this, but when you're interrupting the other person, part of the reason is because you're trying to confuse their thoughts. Why? Because now they're talking, they're talking, they're talking, and you just jumped in the middle of the sentence. Of course, they're going to lose track of thought where they are because you're talking now. Now they're not only focusing on talking, they're focusing on listening. Even if they don't want to listen to you, they have to listen to you. Why? Because you're talking. So it becomes very difficult. Torah says derech chacham, never does such a thing. A learned person never does such a thing. To whom? First and foremost, if it's someone that is very upset. You have to listen and have the patience to allow them to express their feelings.

3:37So a guy said, I want to talk to you. So I answered the question. Then he said, I want to talk more. And he sent me a Megillat Esther. So, after that, I stopped answering. I don't have time to read Megillat Esther every day. But I let him vent a little bit. Why? A learned person, that's the job. The job is when you know the person is really talking to you, not because he has real information or truth, or he's even searching for the truth. Part of the reason why I saw vocal, I say this simply once the vent. I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I. Let them talk, let them vent their feelings, and don't talk back after it finishes. After it finishes, because sometimes I start typing people, I learn I start typing people.

5:02But it's a mitzvah to listen to them. Why? No one else is going to do it. They have built-up frustration. No one is listening to them for five years. No one wants to talk to them. No one wants to do anything. You want to do chesed? They want to tell you something? Listen to what they say. Not because it makes sense. Not because you're going to learn anything. Just be the ear. You don't have to agree or disagree. Nothing. Just listen to what they say. Just be there. Mi tzava, ela mi tzava, ela mi tzava, ela mi tzava, ela mi tzava, ela mi tzava, ela mi tzava, ela mi tzava. ar ar ar ar ar ar ar ar ar ar ar ar ar ar ar ar ar ar ar ar ar

6:29eleim eleim eleim eleim eleim eleim eleim eleim eleim eleim eleim eleim eleim eleim eleim eleim eleim eleim eleim eleim If one person interrupts the other, what are they showing, really? First of all, it's unfair. Second of all, it's arrogant to interrupt the other person and not let them finish. Why? First and foremost, you're already assuming that everything that's going to come out of their mouth is wrong. How do you know? You haven't heard everything. Yeah, but I knew where he was going. Were you a prophet? No, I used my common sense. But how do you know? You don't know for sure, you're guessing. Maybe. Maybe yes, maybe no. Maybe the way he thinks is different from the way you think. And in the end, he was going to get to the right answer. So interrupting him because you think you're right already shows that you have a lot of arrogance.

7:53ועוד ועוד, זה לא נכון. אולי הוא צריך לקבל את החidushim שלו. ועוד כמה פעמים, אני חושב שאני קיבל את החidushim שלו בקוראים. עוד כמה פעמים, אני קיבל את החidushim בקוראים לך. אני קיבל את החidushim בקוראים, אבל בקוראים אני קיבל את החidushim. א חידוש א חידוש א חידוש א חידוש א חידוש א חידוש א חידוש העובדה לדעת היא שזה מעורר שאתה צריך להיזהר מדבר כפול.

9:23Avur ze, im gidalnu et haMishnah kan, ulai lo gidalnu et haMishnah b'tziv'a o b'tziv'a; im gidalnu et haMishnah kan, b'tziv'a, v'af echad lo gidal et ma amarti kan, mi gam, gidalnu et haMishnah. Why? There will never be shalom bayit problems. There will never be any problems at all. Why? Everyone will just listen to each other. Once you start listening to each other, all of a sudden the world starts to make sense. All of a sudden, there are less arguments. All of a sudden, you like each other more. All of a sudden, you're noticing that they respect you more. You respect them more. All of a sudden, the world around you changes. Why? Oh, that’s what he said. huu menaseh lada'at od 20 shanah. Hu lo yada shema yada.

10:34אין אין אין אין אין אין אין אין אין אין אין אין ונגשם איזה די ספסייל פי יו, ביקאז אפטר יו איזה א שטאפ, אי נאמען טארט יו ביפור, אי נאו או או אי או אי או אי איי איי איי איי איי איי איי איי איי איי איי איי איי איי איי איי איי איי איי איי איי איי איי איי איי איי איי איי איי איי איי איי איי איי איי. אבי די עס עס עס עס עס עס עס עס עס עס עס עס עס עס עס עס עס עס עס

11:583 minutes, all the words in Yiddish, and swallow it. If, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if, if. after 30 days, he comes with his wife, both hand in hand, yishtabach shimkha le'Elah, like they just got married. Oh kfah aleikh, kfah aleikh, you're the best, you're the wow, little love birds, little doves. Kavod HaRav, I don't know where you got this water, my husband is the best husband in the world, and I want to say it from the deepest heart. I'm telling you, Kavod HaRav, you are a Kabbalist. Yes, mekubal (accepted) kavod haRav, we have to make lectures all over the world with your name, and you have to sell this water to people. People pay millions for this water, kavod haRav. I'm telling you, my husband's a new man. The husband says, he says, you know, kavod haRav, I never agreed with her for 20 years, and now I agree with her. I'm a new man. 28, best wife in the world, I never understood, wow, she's amazing.

13:13Here's the correction for the text: "Face, k'vod haRav, let's start a business, v'chein millions of dollars. Top economy, Bitcoins up, Bitcoins down, why do they fluctuate? The Rav says, yes, oh, it's kabbalah. What kabbalah? Kabbalah is, yes, talk quietly, my suggestion. What suggestion? I give you a bottle of water that I filled from the faucet. Woah, what do I mean? I filled up the bottle from the faucet, reg..." So how did it work? He goes, no, no, nothing worked. All I knew is that you need to be quiet for three minutes. All einu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu eizehu.

14:16Shalom bye. Shalom bye rabotei, smart rabbi. Da'at chacham. Da'at chacham. So, here we see if people simply allowed each other to speak, life would change. Life would simply change. Avotai Rebbe Natan, Avraham Avinu, Avraham, Avraham, Avraham Avram, Avram, Avram, Avram, Avram, Avram, Avram, Avram, Avram, Avram, Avram, Avram, Avram, Avram, Avram, Avram, Avram, Avram, Avram, Avram, Avram, Avram, Av...

15:35But Hashem, let Avraham talk. Hashem, Hashem, Hashem. It doesn't get better than that. Hashem, Hashem, let Avraham talk. Why? I have to say something. If Hashem let Avraham talk, how come we don't let our rabbis talk? How come we don't let our parents talk? How come we don't let our wives or our husbands talk? Hashem, let Avraham talk. וקי ווקי ווקי ווקי ווקי ווקי ווקי ווקי ווקי