RAMBAN Insights About Anger (5 Minutes)
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Transcript
0:02Anger is one of the things that hurts someone's teshuvah. The Ramban, in his commentary on Exodus 13:16, says the following: Everything that happens to a man is part of a divine plan. There's no such thing as coincidence or accident. Even when a man is harmed by his fellow... Someone died. Hashem is talking to you. Everything and anything that happened in this world, or will happen, or has happened, or is happening—Hashem is talking to you. It's just that you're not Moshe, so He's not talking to you in simple language. He's talking to you through actions. When one becomes angry with another person or takes revenge on them for a perceived wrong, it is as though they are neglecting to see Hashem's hand in the matter.
1:26Someone cut him off, someone hurt him, someone stole his money, whatever happened. And you want to take revenge. This person is assuming that his fellow had an independent ability to harm him in the first place and does not take God's will into account, meaning by somebody just doing something to you, and you're getting angry at them. In essence, you're saying that he did it himself. It's not God. He did it. He stole my money. He cheated me. He did. He did. She did. No, no, no, my friend. God did it. He just used him as a tool. You have a problem? Talk to Him, not him. On the train, they got embarrassed. They said, look, we're coming on time at least. The Indian is probably, it's coming, it's coming. Watch the horse. So the Rambam continues. Otherwise, he would look to Hashem as the source of his trouble and would have no reason to be angry with the person who hurt him.
2:54Such anger is a form of idolatry because it assigns independent power to another human being when there is really no such thing. Therefore, we're taught not to become angry easily. It is a form of denial of the source of all events in the world. There's no such thing as someone breaking your heart. There's no such thing as someone cheating you. There's no such thing as anything happening without Hashem putting His signature on it, including your DNA. No such thing. This changes... if you really take this into serious perspective and start thinking deeply about this thought that the Ramban just gave us, there's really no reason to ever be angry. If you keep this here, over here, or in your pocket, or if it's in the books on the shelf, of course you're going to get angry every day. But if you constantly keep it here, on top of your mind, understanding that everything is from Hashem and all for the best, it transforms your approach to life.
4:06Say, everything is from Hashem. Just like Rabbi Akiva said at the end of Masechet Berachot, everything that the Merciful One does, He does for the best. Meaning there's no such thing as Hashem doing something purely to hurt us. Everything that He does is the best possible choice, including... Death, murder, disease, holocaust, pogroms, the worst things on earth. This of course does not mean that we cheer on when it happens. We're definitely not at that level. Rabbi Akiva, on the other hand, saw the Beit HaMikdash being destroyed, and he laughed. Why? Because he said just like the prophecy. That Hashem promised us that if we don't go His way, He's going to destroy the Beit HaMikdash. That means that the other prophecy of Him bringing the Mashiach is also going to come true. So he laughed while it was happening because he was at that level. We're not even close, not even a shadow. But nonetheless, if we can get ourselves to understand that everything that Hashem does is for the good, at the very least, we can start controlling our anger to a point.
5:18of not getting angry easily.
