Real Life Stories Of Helping People Overcome Pgam HaBrit (Wasting Seed)

0:16Is it that when a person learns about this, even if they don't touch women or if she doesn't touch men, they realize there's still a criminal aspect in this offense. Why? Because they do it alone, by themselves, and that's actually more common than promiscuity with the opposite sex. It's more common for men to be caught up by themselves in wasting seed than for them to find a new wife every week. Unfortunately, some guys are so addicted to it.

1:33Night terrors and numerous other consequences often arise. Nine out of ten times, when people are experiencing bad things in their life, such as losing money, having shalom bayit problems, or facing physical issues, it is due to this specific sin. The reason is that the Zohar HaKadosh says this is the one sin that will be the tikkun of the generation. Meaning, this is the one challenge that the generation must overcome before Mashiach comes. If Mashiach came right now, we'd be worse off than we were in Mitzrayim. Because even the religious among us who keep Shabbat, observe Taharat Mishpacha, keep kosher, pray, and even learn Torah every day, unfortunately, many are still victims of this issue. Many didn't even know it was a sin until now. They may know it's bad, but they didn't fully grasp how severe it is. People know that murder is bad, but they didn't necessarily know that it carries a death penalty.

2:33So, when you learn about this specific sin, you'll understand why the Shulchan Aruch, the main body of laws for the Torah, states that wasting seed is the number one sin in the Torah. It's the worst sin in the Torah, the worst possible thing, because of all the consequences that it has, not just punishment, but also what it impacts in this world. If a person does teshuvah for wasting seed, they can reach a very high level of kedushah and potentially become a serious talmid chacham. They can solve a lot of issues that they have in life and potentially even achieve a major, major salvation. I can tell you a few things. I know a few people who listened to me on this issue. One guy was looking for a shidduch for years. Looking for a shidduch for years. I think it was maybe eight years, nine years. Good-looking, handsome guy. Couldn't find. Every girl, something happened. They like him, they don't like him. They like him, they don't like him. The wedding's on, the wedding's off. Hashem yirachem. Eight years he's been going, trying. One day, it happens to be that he comes to my shiur, and we find out, da-da-da. I talk about wasting seed, and he's like, "Are you talking about me?" I said, "I know what's happening in your house. How do I know? I'm going to tell you what the Sattar says." He replies, "No, no, I'm saying, you're talking about me. I'm the guy. I do it." I said, "Okay, stop." He said, "Yeah, but it's hard, da-da-da. I know it's hard. The Rambam says it's the hardest thing to overcome."

3:58It's the most difficult thing in the entire Torah to overcome if you have an addiction to it. But it's possible. And if you overcome it, the reward is endless. Baruch Hashem, he listened. He stopped. Within four months, he got married. Four months later, he got married. Another guy couldn't have a kid. Married guys are also addicted to this stuff. Don't think just because you're married you're okay. I have guys who are married that are addicted to it also. One guy was married. Couldn't have a kid. Couldn't have a kid. After a few years, they started spending a lot of money on doctors, all types of pills, and all types of hormones. Then, Hashem guided me, and I identified their issue. I told the husband, "This is the issue. Don't tell your wife, but you have a very serious problem." So on and so forth. Within a year, they had a child. The point being, rabotai, is that it's not a joke. I'm not a prophet, I'm not the son of a prophet, but I know what the Torah says here. In this specific issue, if you overcome it, the reward you're going to get is something so out of the ordinary, so extraordinary, that the only regret you're going to have is that you didn't do it sooner.

5:08It takes time, it takes a lot of effort, and it takes a lifetime commitment. Don't ever think, "Okay, I'm not gonna do it every day like I used to, but I'll do it a couple of times a month, yeah, come on, relieve the stress once a month, Hashem's okay. I used to do it every day, once a month's okay." No, my friend, there's no such thing as once a month. Shlomo HaMelech says, if you found honey, don't eat too much or else you'll end up throwing up. The Chachamim say, do we need diet lessons from Shlomo HaMelech? He says, no, no, Shlomo HaMelech is teaching us about the issues of Kedusha. He says, even if you found a beautiful wife, don't be with her too often. There's a certain time of the month to be together, and even then... You have to make sure that there's a time and place for everything. Don't be like the animals that do things in the streets, showing everybody their business. There's a time and a place for everything, even if she's your wife. Why? If you don't watch even something that's allowed, eventually it will become disgusting to you. Even that beautiful wife of yours will become disgusting to you. And that's what Rabbi Yochanan says in the Gemara. He says that a small member in a person's body is part of a person's body.

6:28that if you feed it, it'll never be satiated. It'll always be hungry. If you don't feed it, if you starve it, it'll always be full. So Hachamim say, what are they talking about? They're talking about the male member. They're talking about promiscuity. They're talking about wasting seed. If a person wastes seed, even if it's once a month, it's only a matter of time before it's twice. It's only a matter of time before it's five times. It's only a matter of time before it's every day. But if he starves it, And it's zero? Guess what? After a while, he has zero desire to do it unless it's allowed, meaning he's with his wife. With his wife, he's still normal, he's still excited, everything is good. But if he does it every day, he has a very serious problem. Because there will never be enough. Corrected text: Thank you.

8:00Thank you.