The Eyes That Decided Gan Eden or Gehinom (9 Minutes)

0:10The secret of Hashem is for those who fear Him. Again, the same Yir'ah. Each one of these sentences has the same root. Why? The beginning of wisdom is a fear of Hashem. But also, Fear of Hashem, that's His treasure. You want to have wisdom? You want to have the treasure? They both are the same thing. What? Have fear of Hashem. Have fear of Hashem. That's where it all starts. That's where it all starts. And the fear continues. It's not just fear of Gehinom. It's fear of the majesty, and eventually, it will get you to love Hashem, eventually to get to such a passionate state of mind that you're all serving Him. Even Gehinom is not scary for the reason that other people are scared of it. It's scary for you because it means your service is not complete yet. He gave you so much, and you didn't give Him. It's not a fair deal. You disrespected the majesty.

1:20You don't feel like it's a fair trade. Why? Because He gave you so much, and you didn't give Him back. That's not love. Imagine your wife cooks, cleans, and brings you children, everything else. What do you give her? A slap in the face? What kind of husband are you? A dog is better than you. Or, like some of these guys, they call themselves a poor excuse for a husband. They look at other women other than their wives. And... Imagine a guy is married to a woman. She cooks. She cleans. She takes care of the kids. She's with him intimately. She does everything for him. What does he do? He looks at other girls. A dog is better than a guy like that. A dog is better than him. Why? Because the dog acts on instinct and he barely looks at other females and... A guy that looks at a woman other than his wife is worse than a dog. A dove is better than him. Why? Because a dove is known. A dove is only with one mate for its whole life. A penguin is better than him. A penguin only has one mate. Meaning if a husband looks at another woman who is not his wife, he's worse than an animal. But that's the thing about time. When we're only thinking about ourselves, we don't have time to think about anybody else.

2:32we have time to think about the person that's right next to us. And if we don't have time to think about the person that's right next to us, our wife, how are we going to think about Hashem? How are we going to think about Hashem? You don't have time to think about the person that's right next to you. You can see, you can touch. You're holding her. Hey, hey, hey. How could you hold her hand and look at another woman? How? How do you do it? It has nothing to do with being religious. It has nothing to do with being religious. You're being a human being. How do you look at another woman? Your wife is right there. Understand it's instinct. You look; the person runs around naked. You're gonna look. Fine, it's instinct. I understand it's instinct. But how many times is it instinct? What, every woman is instinct? Every woman is an instinct? The fat one, the skinny one, the black one, the yellow one, the green one, everyone's an instinct? Everything that moves is instinct? On the computer, it's instinct too? On a TV, it's instinct too? Everyone's an instinct?

3:33And that's why, rabotai, a person who doesn't know how to watch his eyes, the shiur ended in the first two minutes. Why? There's no yirat shamayim. There's no yirat shamayim. There's no interest in yirat shamayim. It's all just rationalization. He's trying to rationalize. No, no, I can get to Gan Eden by rationalizing my way in there. I don't need to do all these mitzvot, this yirat shamayim stuff. That's just to scare people. I'm too smart to be scared. You understand? Men, you must watch your eyes. Why? This is the window to Gan Eden or Gehenom. You watch your eyes, you have a chance of going to Gan Eden. You don't? Definitely going to Gehenom and not for three days. Not for three days. Why? You're an ungrateful person, and if you're ungrateful to your wife, how are you going to be grateful to Him? How? The same goes for wives. Don't start complaining to your husband that he's not watching his eyes when you keep asking him to go to the mall. You keep asking him to go to the park. What do you think? Everybody's wearing jackets in the park in the hot sun!

4:51All of a sudden they're all wearing jackets now because your husband came. Oh, yeah. No, Mr. Rosenberg is coming, women. No, please. Come on. Come on, women. Let's go one time in a row. Let's all wear long jackets. What do you think? People go to the park with jackets? Why are you asking people? Why are you asking your husband to go to the park? Why are you asking your husband to go to the mall? What's he gonna do in the mall, not look at girls? Food, eat at home. Oh, I want to go to a restaurant. You want a husband or you want the restaurant? What do you want? What's more important to you? You want special food? You can order. You don't have to go anywhere. Why? Because the reality is, Rabbotai, people walking around naked everywhere. So why put yourself in that place where it's very hard for the guy to watch his eyes? He's already half an animal. Now you're just helping him. You can't blame the guy. It's not just his fault. You keep asking him to go three times a week to the park, once a week to the mall, four times a week to the movies. And on top of it, you have a TV in the house. You want to watch a movie with him. Movie night. Let's watch all of the most beautiful people in the world naked.

6:13Vigdor Miller, a"h, said, "I don't understand people that have a TV. You don't want to invite the goyim into your house, but you have one in your house, chapping all day, 'ba ba ba ba ba ba,' all day on the TV. Chapter that all day. You don't want to invite them into your house, but they're on your TV all day. How do you justify this stuff? That's because we're not thinking." because we're not thinking. If you're using a big screen that used to be a TV to go learn short thoughts, it's a different story. It's not TV; we're talking about TV watching, cable, watching movies, that type of stuff. If you're going to a playground where you know there's a certain section where there's nobody there, and you're going with the kids, it's fine. Just watch yourself and once in a while. But again, if you know this is a very popular area and people like to run and bicycle and all that type of stuff, pretty much like they just came out of Gan Eden with Adam and Chava before the sin, what do you expect? So, that's the thing. Men, you have to watch your eyes. Women, you have to stop putting the guys in certain tests that they can't handle. They're not Moshe Rabbeinu. They're not Moshe Rabbeinu.

7:32That's what a person is. This is part of avodat Hashem. This is part of serving Hashem. This is part of it if you want to be part of the neighborhood and you want to have a lot of friends and... You want to have barbecue parties at the park and at the beach and all this Yom Ha'atzmaut Independence Day and the parades and go to a new parade every week for the gays and the lesbians and the kofrim and the Zionists and all these people that are enemies of Hashem—fine, just know that the shiur, it's not three days. It's not three days gay and home. This is a different shiur. But if a person wants to serve Hashem... There are certain sacrifices, if you will, that they need to make. Their eyes belong in two places, or three: the wife, the kids, and the Sefer Torah. The wife, the kids, and the Sefer Torah. That's where the husbands are. Of course, there are certain times you need for business, you have a customer, but anyone that's working on themselves is going to constantly minimize every interaction possible. You minimize.

8:43you don't stare. You work on yourself because you know how valuable it is. You learn so much Torah, and then you look at a woman, and you see, you forget everything all of a sudden. If you don't understand what I said, that means you either never learned or you haven't watched your eyes. But the point is about time. You need to understand these are the keys to success. There's no easy way. There's no shortcut. This is the way. You want to live in this world; you want to enjoy this world, and you're going to have a lot of problems. You're not going to have happiness. But once you actually work on these few things, you do these things, it's hard work, but you'll actually have a sense of pleasure in this life.