What Is HaShem Willing To Do For Shlom Bayit? (6 Minutes)
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1:02But any real Rabbi will tell you it's not. Why? Because if your wife is unhappy, then you're committing a huge sin. And we learn here in this week's parashah, when in chapter 18, verse 12, After the angels come to Avraham and tell him, "This time next year you will have a son." It says, "And Sarah laughed at herself, saying, 'After I have withered, shall I again have a delicate skin and my husband is old?'" Sarah is questioning, "How am I going to have a son? I'm old now. And my husband is old." So Hashem said to Avraham, "Why did Sarah laugh, saying, 'Shall I in truth bear a child, now that I have aged?' Is anything beyond Hashem?" And Sarah laughed to herself, saying, after I have withered, shall I again have delicate skin, and my husband is old? Sarah is pondering how she can possibly have a son, given her advanced age and the fact that her husband is also old. So Hashem said to Avraham, why did Sarah laugh, saying, shall I truly bear a child, though I am aged? Is anything beyond Hashem?
2:18So here you see, Hashem actually adjusted the message. Hashem changed what Sarah said. Sarah didn't say, "I'm old." Sarah said, "My husband's old." So what happened? Did Hashem forget? What happened? Hashem is telling Avraham... Avraham, your wife says that she's old. Why? Because Hashem, as the Creator, knows His creation, and He understands that if He tells the husband, if He tells Avraham, "Listen, by the way, your wife said that you're old," Avraham's going to take it to heart. He's not going to like it. "Well, my wife thinks I'm old. Maybe she doesn't like me anymore. Maybe she's going to look for somebody else." A man is always going to be jealous. He'll be 150 years old and still going to be jealous. Anyone who loves his wife has to be jealous. Obviously, if you're righteous, you contain this jealousy. But that's also the reason why a righteous husband will never let his wife walk around like a prostitute—half-naked and all that stuff. Never. Why do you want to share your diamond with the rest of the world? For what? What benefit do you get out of it? That everybody has, in their mind, pictures of your wife naked? Is this what you want in your life?
3:39Forget the parnassah. People thinking about your wife naked—there's something wrong with you if you actually like that. Forget the parnassah. Forget all the segulot. Forget all that stuff. There's another guy in the world that thinks of your wife. There's something wrong with you if you're okay with that. There's something wrong with you. So Avraham here... Getting news from Hashem that his wife thinks that she's old, but she didn't say that. She said he's old, but Hashem is telling him that He changed the truth. In essence, we're only allowed to say because that's what happened. It's all written in the Torah. Hashem altered the truth for the purpose of Shalom Bayit (peace in the home). Because if He would have told... Avraham, when his wife thought he was old, could have been upset at her, and this could have led to Shalom Bayit issues. That's how essential Shalom Bayit is. Hashem Himself altered the truth in the Torah to preserve peace. It's not a theory or some commentary. This is written clearly in the Torah, Chapter 18, verses 12 and 13. It's literal Torah. You don't need Rashi, me, or any commentary. You can read it yourself. This is what it says.
5:02So if Hashem decided that Shalom Bayit is so important that He is okay with signing off His name with something different from the truth, you think that it's okay for anybody to go to some grave or anywhere and put his Shalom Bayit on the line even for a second? Even for half a second? You think this tzaddik in Uman, where his body is buried, wants you to put your Shalom Bayit on the line? You think the Rebbe from Lubavitch wants you to put your Olam Haba on the line by calling him Mashiach, by calling him God, by calling him whatever he's not? It's complete nonsense. People have to start learning Torah from the sages. where his body is buried, you think he wants you to put your shalom bayit on the line? You think the Rebbe from Lubavitch wants you to put your Olam Haba on the line by calling him Mashiach, by calling him God, by calling him whatever he's not? It's complete nonsense. People have to start learning Torah from the sages, from the authentic sources. Hashem Yitbarach, and stop making up this craziness that they're making up, because it's mamash, not doing anybody any good. So, with that being said, we see that this week's parsha already teaches us a very, very important life lesson. Number one, if you want to have the blessing of Hashem in your life,
6:19You must have shalom bayis because Hashem Himself obviously put His name on the line for it. And also, as we talked about last week, in the act of Sotah, Hashem allowed us to erase His name for the sake of shalom bayis.
