What is The Magnitude of Our Sins?

0:39But the owner is like a nach nach. Nach nach is like a wimp, like a nothing. He's like a misken, like nobody pays attention to him. And the guy comes to the store, he's got muscles in his neck, not just the arms. The neck also has muscles. So he's a big guy. And the owner, he's a little wimpy guy. The big guy is a bully. He takes one of these chocolate bars and doesn't feel like paying. Now we all know you don't need to be a big tzadik to know that's stealing. So now the guy goes up to Shamayim and says, "Oh, you stole a Twix bar for $2." He says, "Okay, let me pay you $2." "No, no, no, no, sir. I'm sorry, sir. The payment is much bigger." "What payment?" They show him the movie. They show in the movie what happened with the Twix bar for $2. When I was a kid, it was 50 cents. Now it's $2. Inflation. Shalom Aleichem. It shows you how old I am. So now, 50 cents then is $2 now. They show what happened with the $2. He took only $2, he thinks. But he doesn't realize what happened—that the guy's wife, the little guy, the little wimpy guy, his wife saw it.

1:49And she's had it with him. Oh, everybody takes advantage of you. They step all over you. You can't defend yourself. You can't defend the family. You're a loser. You're this. You're that. What is he going to say? He can't defend himself against the bully. He can't defend himself against the wife. And now his kid sees it. Oh. My Abba's a loser. My Abba's a wimp. My Abba's this. So, he started, even a little kid, six, seven, eight, nine, ten years old, loses respect for Abba now. Abba says, "Go to your room." He says, "You go to your room." Abba says, "No, come help me." You say, "You come help me." Abba says, "Be quiet." He says, "You be quiet." Why? If everyone walked all over him, and Ima walked all over him, and she confirmed it by saying he's a loser, the little kid says, "Oh, I agree with all of them." So now, all of a sudden, the guy gets depressed. He starts drinking. Why? What else does he have to live for? His wife berates him. His customers mistreat him. And even his 10-year-old son is disrespectful to him. He is thin-skinned. He starts drinking. He starts taking a couple of pills. All of a sudden, he doesn't want to go to work. All of a sudden, the store fails.

2:54And now the wife says, "I've had it with you. I'm divorcing you." She throws him out of the house. So now the kid regrets what he did. The little 10-year-old, now 11, regrets what he did. Now it's a broken home. Wow, he can't make it up. So now he's really bitter. Now he hates everything. Now he's really upset that his parents got divorced. Now, he hates everything. What do we see? He hates the thief, he hates this one, he hates his mom, he hates his dad, he hates everybody, and he starts failing in yeshiva. Why? Because of the teachers, too. "Why don't they teach people not to say my father's a loser? Why don't they teach me not to say how my father's a loser? Why didn't you teach me mussar? Why did you teach me that he's honest?" Why did he start failing in school? He doesn't want to go to school anymore because, why? Because nobody teaches anything in here anyway. So he decides to fail in school. He decides to become a loser himself. So now, the husband is continuing to deteriorate. The son continues to deteriorate. The wife says, okay, they can deteriorate, they can do whatever they want, I've got to move on with my life. I've got to get married again. She finds a new husband. The new husband is not exactly a metzia. He's not exactly such a great find. He doesn't like her ex-husband, and he doesn't like the son either. He wants to get rid of both of them.

4:06He makes sure that each one of them knows how he feels. So now the ex-husband gets depressed and kills himself. Why? He still loves his ex-wife, even though she yelled at him and screamed at him and everything. He loved her. For 20 or 30 years, he was with her. He loved her. Now she has married someone else. He can't take it, so he kills himself. Do you know how many people kill themselves every year? Do you know how many people die every year? Millions of people die every year, and a significant number of them from suicide. Now, the kid lost his father, lost this, lost that, and now the only thing that his father had that he can remember his father by is what? The store. Ah, I'm going to run the store. But the new father, the new husband, doesn't like the father, doesn't like the memory of the father. So what does he do? The first thing he does after he finds out the guy committed suicide is decide to put the store up for sale. We need some money. We're going to do this. We're going to do that. So the only thing that connects the little kid to the father, he sells it to some Mexicans. So they can put a laundromat there instead. Put a laundromat there now. So now the kid is scared; he hates everything. And as you can see, this story can go on forever. This story continues forever, getting worse and worse and worse.

5:23And that's why, Rabotai, a person gets judged multiple times. There's Rosh Hashanah, there's the day of death, and there's also the time of Mashiach, the resurrection of the dead after that. Why? Not only is a person judged on Rosh Hashanah when he is alive, and after he dies, but there is a further judgment during the time of Mashiach. Yirmiyahu says, why? Because there are going to be fruits from the trees he grows. These fruits can determine a person's fate in Gan Eden. A person could be in Gan Eden for 10 or 20 years and suddenly be taken out. Why? Look at the fruits you left. You stole a $2 KitKat bar, and now look what happened. Now look what happened to the KitKat bar. The wife left, the husband this, the husband all of that stuff. Hashem, the guy goes up to Shamayim. Yeah, it's only two dollars. I'll give him a hundred. I'll pay interest. I'll pay interest. I don't know how to pay interest to a Jew. But for this, I'll pay, no problem. There's no money in Shamayim. There are only mitzvot and aveirot.

6:29A person comes to a shalom bayis (peaceful home) counselor thinking he's over his anger because of two dollars. He doesn't realize how many people were hurt because of his sin, and he doesn't realize the extent of what he did in his life. Why does he think it's only two dollars? Because he only sees a little scar. He only sees a little scar, so a type of person like that has to take himself seriously and start realizing that everything's a big deal. If your teacher, wherever he is, wherever she is, makes everything a little deal, change teachers. Why? Because, according to our Torah, everything is a big deal.