ZeRa LeVaTaLa Pgam Habrit (Wasting Seed) THE TRUE STORY you never Heard

0:00Now, I want to finish off with something that I've been meaning to do for a long time, and we really have to do it today. So, if you stick with me here, this is something that we have to do because, unfortunately, I've looked it up, and unless it's in Hebrew, it's almost impossible to find this topic. And I've been meaning to do it for months; I just never get to it. Yeah, if you want, I'll order you one, and you give me the money. It's not a big deal. Yes, I was going to... Yeah. It's good to do. I want to read the English, so that way I understand what I'm reading. So, now that we know what Hashem means by korbanot, what are the korbanot? In our generation, it's our prayers. What gets our prayers answered? We know they need to be genuine. Mm-hmm. What gets our teshuva to be taken seriously when we're serious? Now we need to know what gets us away from Hashem. What gets Hashem to say, this guy's lost. This guy's ruining himself. This guy's committing suicide every day. Now we've already talked about Chilul Hashem in the past. We've talked about Shabbat. We've touched a little bit about wasting seed.

1:30but not enough. And unfortunately, on the internet, in English, there's not enough of it. So whether it's for you guys that are sitting in front of me, married or single, or it's for anyone that's watching it, there's a really big need for someone to go over some of the things about wasting seed because there are only two types of people. There's this guy that reached out to me the other day, And misken, he's in a big problem right now. He's been married for 13 years, but he just realized that he's not allowed to marry a non-Jew. Hashem is real, and the Torah is real. And he started doing teshuva, but he's still stuck in this situation. So he's married to a non-Jew, and he has a couple of kids with her, but he wants to do teshuva. And the Reform conversion that his wife did means absolutely zero. And she confirmed it with him. When she told him, "Listen, I'm never going to keep any of the mitzvot that you're doing right now. I'm not interested at all." Why is she not interested in it? Because the Judaism that she saw was a joke. She saw Reform. She saw people giving bar mitzvahs to dogs and putting tefillin on them. Why would she take that seriously? Even Christianity is better than that. At least they don't mock Hashem. It's idol worship, but they don't know it's idol worship.

2:54They don't intentionally do it because it's idol worship, but the reality of it is that it is. But church is actually still better than Reform and Conservative, because at least they don't mock the Torah. They go against it, but they don't mock it. So this woman, this poor woman, came from a different religion. She saw Reform. She thinks that's Judaism. She sees them giving bar mitzvahs to dogs. Of course, she doesn't want to do it. Okay. She sees the spiritual leader as a group of immodest women wearing mini skirts and short t-shirts or homosexuals. Who wants to be part of this? But that's what she thinks Judaism is, miskena. That's what she thinks Judaism is. So I don't blame her. So now we have to rework the whole thing. A situation like that has several problems. The obvious problem is that we're not allowed to intermarry. We're not allowed to be with non-Jews. This is an obvious problem we've talked about in the past. Someone who wants to guarantee themselves to pretty much destroy their connection with Hashem is going to intermarry. Someone who wants a connection with Hashem is going to fix that problem. But that's not what we're going to talk about. We're going to talk about the bigger problem. The problem that affects many, many more people. The problem that affects everyone. Everyone here.

4:21and everyone in the world, including the goyim. And that's wasting seed. Now, of course, the Jews are obligated with the mitzvah of protecting the brit, much more than the goyim. But the goyim still are not allowed to waste seed. I haven't found one source that says that they are allowed to waste seed. How do I know? How do I know that wasting seed is not only one of the foundations of this world, but everyone's obligated. Two sources. From the Torah, from Hashem's mouth Himself. In Parashat Noach, there was no Judaism yet. That's why all the goyim are considered, if they're righteous goyim, they're considered Bnei Noach, the sons of Noach, Noahides. Hashem gave Noach seven mitzvot, seven laws that the entire world has to comply with. When we got the Torah, we had more; we added many more to them. But the seven Noahide laws are really seven that Hashem specifically told us, and all of the mitzvot out of the 613 that are common sense.

5:47Like, for example, respecting your parents. That's not part of the seven laws of Noach. But of course, whether you're Jewish or not Jewish, you have to respect your parents. It's common sense. So anything that's common sense, both Jews and non-Jews have to keep. Jews actually have a mitzvah. It's part of the Ten Commandments and part of the 613 mitzvot. But the non-Jews have to know that this is part of the Torah. They have to do it. So before we had Judaism, before we had the Torah that we have today, Hashem saw an evil, wicked generation. They stole, they raped, they committed bestiality, being with animals— all types of disaster. But Chazal (our Sages) say in the Zohar, and also in the Gemara, that the thing that took it over the edge, that made Hashem decide to destroy them,

6:47The wasting seed. How do we know this in verses? After Hashem destroyed the world, destroyed everything, only Noach's family was left, and Og Melech HaBashan, Og the giant. That's it, no one else was left. Nothing. Or any animals, obviously, that were in the ark. Then Hashem gives Noach the laws. And here He says this. In chapter 9, Parashat Noach, verse 6, it says, whoever sheds the blood of a man within a man.

7:49His blood will be spilled. Because in the image of God, He made man. So, spills blood, we immediately know that's murder. But it's not just blood, it's the blood of a man. Okay, so we know it's his blood. But then it says, within a man. Shofekh dam ha'adam ba'adam. The blood of a man within a man. It's wasting seed, my friends. The blood within a man. The blood of a man within a man. It's your seed. Sperm. His blood. Damo yishafech. Wasting seed was not acceptable even in the days of Noah. That's why Shem destroyed the world. That's why everyone is obligated, both goyim and Jews. Another source is that Yehudah was one of the 12 tribes, one of the most important men that ever lived. We were called Yehudim after his name, Yehudah, because he admitted his mistake with Tamar. But this was before Tamar came in and became his wife.

9:11She married two of her sons, Er and Onan. Again, this is before we received the Torah. Before we received the Torah. We didn't receive the Torah for hundreds of years later. So there were not to be two... No, no. She first married Er, and then Onan. Er died, and then she married Onan, and then Onan died. Why did Hashem kill both of them? It specifically says it here. Because they wasted seed. They didn't want to get her pregnant, so they would waste the seed. They would have the semen go outside of the body. They wanted to have fun, like they say in this generation, this wicked generation that we live in. They wanted to have fun, so they wanted to keep her pretty. They didn't want to ruin her body. They wanted to have a shifcha, you know, somebody on the side that brings kids, is the baby oven. And they wanted her. She was so beautiful, they wanted to keep her beautiful.

10:12So they married her. The first guy married her and wasted seed. Hashem killed him instantly. No second thought, no second chance. These are the two sons of Yehudah. And again, this is before Judaism, before the Torah. Er wasted seed, and Hashem killed him. It says specifically. It says it in the verse. Onan did the same thing. He married her. Judah didn't know that the first son died because he was wicked. He thought he was righteous. He just thought, okay, he died. There was a mitzvah in those days that if a brother died without bringing children to his wife, then it was a mitzvah to marry his wife and have the children pretty much be counted as if they were his brother's children. So, he married her. He did the mitzvah. But he also wasn't interested in doing what Hashem wants. What does Hashem want? The first mitzvah we get in the Torah is to bring children into the world. First mitzvah. He wasn't interested in it. without bringing children to his wife. Then it was a mitzvah to marry his wife and have the children pretty much be counted as if they are his brother's children. So, he married her. He did the mitzvah. But he also wasn't interested in doing what Hashem wants. What does Hashem want? The first mitzvah we get in the Torah is to bring children to the world. First mitzvah. He wasn't interested in it.

11:40He wasn't interested. He was interested in having fun. So what did Hashem do? Hashem killed them also. Before Judaism, before we got the entire Torah, we already know that Hashem... means business when it comes down to wasting seed. This is what the Torah says about it in the Gemara and the Zohar. There are over 40 different sources. I'll try to name them when I can. But we need to know this, and whoever is watching this needs to know all of this. So hold on to your chairs, as some of this stuff is pretty rough. First of all, if we notice in the world today, unfortunately, in all Torah times, There are a lot of different types of idol worship, Avodah Zarah. It says in the days of idol worship, people would consciously channel energy and forces of evil. They would use Avodah Zarah to create evil. And usually, to do these things, there's some type of fluid that is necessary. And that's when you see people that worship idols or people that worship the Satan, you know, satanic people. It's either blood

13:02or its semen, is what they use to this day. So this is part of the reason why it's a problem in regards to idol worship. Also, it says that anyone that wastes seed should know part of the seed — you could find this out scientifically — part of the seed, part of the sperm comes from your brain. which is sent down the spine. So when a person spills his seed, he's actually wasting part of his brain, which lowers his overall function and his brain functionality and hurts his memory. Next, a person's emotions are thrown totally out of balance. This is why people that are pogem brit, people that waste seed, Usually have a hard time controlling their temper. They usually get mad or depressed very quickly. They get sad very quickly. They go into depression. And they don't have much self-confidence usually. It also causes premature baldness. I'm just giving you the basics. This is not even the hard stuff yet. It causes baldness or strange hair growth.

14:27hair growing in weird places. Someone who wastes seed loses his ability to receive and perceive Kedusha. He has a very difficult time learning Torah and doing Mitzvot. It's very hard for him to understand these things. Every time he wastes seed, those seeds are Neshamot. He's creating souls. And each one of those neshamot is considered his child. But since they realized that they came to this world without a body, they get very, very angry. And they take revenge against him throughout his life, and especially after this life. So after the person's life in this world is over, first there's the cemetery. When they go to bury him, there are halachot in Yerushalayim, in Israel, that they... A man's children are not allowed to go to his funeral. Why? Because in case he wasted seed in his life, there's a fear that those demons he created will kill his kids. And the amount of torture they put him through after he leaves this world is never-ending. Those souls take revenge against their father, causing him many problems. They also put crazy thoughts in his mind.

15:59So for example, when you're thinking in the middle, you're serious about praying, and all of a sudden you have a, all of a sudden you remember this girl you met 30 years ago. That's coming from that. It's not a coincidence. It's very easy to become an idol worshiper or deny God altogether. Again, it's coming from the same source, which is from those bad souls. In Midrash HaGadol, Parashat Vayeshev, Rabbi Yochanan says, "All those who waste seed are punishable by death." Rav Ami said, "It's as if he sheds blood." Rav Ashi says, "It's as if he worships strange gods, strange deities." Zohar, Parashat Bereishit,

17:14Talks about the evil of the generation of Noah. It says there were many evil men in those days, but their fate was not sealed until they started wasting seed. It also says this in Masechet Shabbat, page 41. The Zohar in Parashat Vayeshev states that spilling seed is more severe than all the sins. Since he defiles his soul in this world and the world to come, he cannot see the glory of the Shechinah. Rav Acha bar Yashar says in Midrash HaGadol, "Yes, you do have to get married soon, my friend. You need to get married fast." Rav Acha says... He does not receive life in the future world, so this person stands to die and does not live in the future world—no Olam Haba. More sources: Shulchan Aruch and the Rambam both say it. Shulchan Aruch, Siman 240. The Rambam also says it. Old age jumps on him; they age much faster, become weaker, strength leaves him, and his vision goes weak.

18:38And also, something very interesting that you'll notice from people is that a lot of people have bad breath and also they smell quickly. That's where it's from. Bad breath is not just from not brushing your teeth. Bad breath and bad smell, bad odor. When you have bad odor coming out of your armpits, it's from wasting seed. Because I can tell you that you know, again, I'm not, if my sins are for the toilet, I'm not saying Lashon Hara about myself, but I can tell you before I did Teshuvah, and after I did Teshuvah, before I did Teshuvah, my sweat was disgusting, now I don't even, I barely sweat, and whenever I sweat, it doesn't really smell at all. So, I know from experience, This is legit. I need to get married. B'ezrat Hashem, we're going to work on a shidduch for you, my friend. Can I sit next to you? B'ezrat Hashem, B'ezrat Hashem. Also, Shulchan Aruch 151, and Kitzur Shulchan Aruch 151 say, Heaven forbid their children can die because of their sin. Or instead of dying, they'll end up becoming evil people. They'll grow up to be evil people.

19:59Now, if people don't care about their life and they don't care about their health, there's only one other thing they care about, which is money. It says it's the foundation of poverty. It causes poverty. The richest man in the world will go broke because of wasting seed. Is this something else? Is there more? There's a lot more. There are 80 pages of this, but I'm only going to read you a few. I'm only going to read you a few, another few more minutes. Hold tight. Did you mention my name to the... A person under the age of mitzvot, a person under the age of mitzvot is not held accountable for his sins. Somebody that's under the age of 13 years old is not held accountable if he makes a sin, if he violates Shabbat. if he eats treif, under 13, before bar mitzvah, except for one sin. There's only one sin that he does have to pay for: wasting seed. This means even children, children, in the shulach, 100, his prayers are not accepted.

21:25He can pray as much as he wants. Not accepted. Oh no, there's more. We need to go over a lot of it. There's an amazing book called Taharat HaKodesh by Rav Aharon Ratta. You listening? Taharat HaKodesh by Rav Aharon Ratta. He brought sources from hundreds of places about the brit, about the gam brit, about wasting seed. He says, just like someone that protects their brit gets 80 different types of rewards from Hashem. 80 different types of rewards from Hashem for protecting your brit. But just like that, the one who doesn't gets 80 different types of punishments.

22:26Midah k'neged midah. The Zohar says, zerah l'vatalah, wasting seed, gorem brit. A person that wastes seed deserves a strange death, an unusual death. You know, people get their heads cut off—all types of strange deaths. They deserve a strange death. Just... putting themselves in a situation where they're allowing themselves to have an erection. Wow. So they're saying there's a connection between wasting seed and the mazal of the veladat. It is his mazal. We're going to get there. We're going to get there. Someone who actually allowed himself to be in a situation where he got an erection without obviously being with his wife, his prayer is not answered for 40 days according to the Zohar.

23:42Zera Levatala, listen to this, Zera Levatala brings disaster to the entire world and causes countries to conquer Israel. One guy, a little 18-year-old, wastes seed and causes Israel to be conquered. The entire nation is one. The entire nation is one. A person that wastes seed does not leave Gehinnom. We talked about that before, but it's good to embellish it again. The source is Zohar. A person that wastes seed intentionally is not considered Jewish. And his shape in heaven, you know, the shape of your neshama, looks like your body. But a person that wastes seed and does not do teshuva before he dies... His shape, when he goes to Shamayim, turns into an animal, either a dog or a pig. It causes sickness and depression. Zera Levatala causes poverty. Poverty chases him, meaning even if he's making money.

25:09Eventually, poverty is going to chase him. Something is going to happen, and he's going to lose everything. It doesn't matter if he has a million dollars, five thousand dollars, or a billion dollars; it doesn't matter. Waste seed like that? Poverty is going to chase him. At any given moment, he can lose everything. I just lost a lot of money in taxes. I don't know what I'm talking about. Waste seed. You're already doing Teshuvah. It's being in the shiur. Now let me, this is the next part. We'll finish off with this. This part shows you the confusion in this world. It shows you the confusion in this world because I know that nobody here, and I bet you most people who are watching this show, have ever heard this. Everyone knows, even the goyim know who Rabbi Nachman from Breslov is. Right? But when you think about Rabbi Nachman of Breslov, what do you think about? The funny-looking hats, dancing in the van, the guitar, the Breslov movement, yeah, the little players. All of that is not Rabbi Nachman. Rabbi Nachman was a tzaddik. Rabbi Nachman wrote a lot about P'gam HaBrit, wasting seed.

26:33I'm going to give you only a small taste, maybe 2% of a couple of things that we wrote. Not even 2% of what he wrote. Someone who fixed, fixed his Pgam HaBrit. He was wasting seed, but did teshuva. It is impossible for him to fall into the desire of money. Meaning, the desire for money is the biggest, other than wasting seed. Wasting seed is the most difficult thing to overcome without being married. So, other than that, it's money. People are constantly chasing money. Someone who overcomes and does teshuva for wasting seed will never fall for money. Money is not going to be his test; he's not going to be tested by money. Why? If you already passed this test, money is not an issue. When someone does teshuva for wasting seed, it's almost impossible. When someone does teshuva in general, it's almost impossible for a person.

27:59to fix all of their sins. There are many he's going to miss. There are different details. However, when someone does teshuva for the brit, he automatically repairs the damage from all of his sins. Obviously, he has to do his best with everything else, but the point is that even the ones he missed are going to be fixed. This is Likutey. 1. Torah 29: Someone wants protection. When traveling, it can only happen if he has Shemirat HaBrit, keeps his Brit. Someone that violates this Brit, it is very difficult for them to pray with concentration. Likutei Moharan 1:50.

29:05Some waste seeds should be very careful around dogs and also around weapons. You should never go shooting guns for fun. Why? Because he's supposed to get the death penalty for what he's doing, so when he puts himself in a situation of danger, that's usually when they make a claim. Those demons will go to the people that are the spirits of that have a case against him, will go to Shamayim and say, look, he's a sinner, he's a sinner, he's a sinner, and he's putting himself in danger. Now, when the Yetzer Hara, the Satan, has a wife, and Chazal say she's worse than him, So bad that you're not even allowed to say her name. And every time you waste seed, it goes to her, and she gives birth to those demons. Every time you waste seed, scientifically they've estimated that it's about 300 million seeds that come out of your body with every ejaculation. So there's a lot of...

30:31demons that you're creating, and she's in control of them. She will only use them against you, not for you. This is if she... She? No, no, no. She's waiting for you... She's wasting... No, this is... Okay, you're thinking I'm talking about a regular woman. No, no, no. This is the Yetzer Hara's wife. I got you. So every time you waste seed, she's the one that gets pregnant, and she creates these demons. Gotcha, gotcha. So much so that she'll even disturb you in your sleep, either by sending demons to mess with you, giving you nightmares, giving you sexual dreams—all types of things. She'll torture you during your sleep. That's why people who waste seed tend to have wet dreams, where they experience it even when they don't want to waste seed; it still happens. Mm-hmm.

31:39This is so bad that every single person, Hashem decided after creating the world. Chazal says that what does Hashem do since He created the world? He brings couples together. Each person has a woman for him. Someone that wastes seed can lose his destined wife. Lose his destined wife. His perfect zivug can lose her because he's wasting zera. But, by fixing this in, a person will find not only can he lose his wife because he wasted zera, but if he fixes it, he will find his destined wife and she will not be rebellious against him. Meaning she will love him. But someone that's married and wastes zera, will find that he has a very difficult time with his wife. She's always going against him, even when she agrees with him. Our neshama knows that he's evil. She may not know he's wasting seed; he's in the bathroom alone or with his friends at some disastrous strip club. She doesn't know he's wasting seed, but our neshama knows. And because our neshama knows, naturally, she's going to go against him. I'm going to go to the store. "No, why are you going to the store? Why are you going to the store? What are you doing at the store? Why are you going to the store?"

33:01I just want to go to groceries. No, no. Why? Why now? No, go tomorrow. It makes no sense, this argument. She's going to argue with him about everything. Everything. Why? Because her neshama knows she can't trust him. He's evil. He's wicked. Likutei Moharan, Torah 87. Getting drunk causes a person to waste seed. Sefer HaMiddot, Shichrut. There's a lot more. I can't read all of it. I'm not going to do all of it now. I read all of it and I highlighted some of the things I wanted to tell you guys. There's a lot more. What I'm telling you is not even 1% of what's here.

34:14When someone wastes seed, they're wasting their parnasah. Money runs away with it. So what's the tikkun? How do you fix it? Okay. Let's explain how bad the sin is. We realize how bad the sin is. When there's a sin that the Gehenom doesn't stop, Just stopping by itself, it's not so fast. There's more to it. It's to give us an understanding of what real teshuva is about. We need to know this. The Ari HaKadosh, the Ari HaKadosh gave us a lot of the secret parts of the Torah. Also, a lot of the secret parts of how to do teshuva. It says someone that wasted seed one time.

35:14has to fast 84 times. 84? One time. What did they used to do? Hold on a second, I'll give you guys an answer to it. Hold on. What's the shortcut to these fasts that they used to do? If you fast two days in a row, which is 48 hours straight, with no food or drink, it counts as 27 fasts. But if you fast three days in a row, 72 hours straight, hold on, I'll give you guys—this is going to get to a point. I know no one here is fasting two days in a row. If you fast three days in a row, 72 hours straight, it counts as 40 fasts. and a person is not allowed to break up those fasts, meaning that if a person only needs 10 fasts, he must do the two days in a row. He can't use, no, since he got 27 fasts, he can't use the 17 for something else. He fasted two days, that's it. But the reality of it is, in our generation, we're too weak to barely fast on Yom Kippur. You tell people that they have fasts before Purim.

36:34There's a fast before Purim. Two days before Purim, there's a fast. He tells people, oh, come on, it's not mandatory, right? It's not mandatory. It's not like Yom Kippur or Tisha B'Av, right? So, the Arizal, in his generation, people would fast. These were serious people. We don't have that strength. So there's a different way. A zeira kabbalah from sunrise until sundown, Ta'anit Esther. Yes, but people still don't do it. People still don't do it, the easy fast. Yes, they still don't do it. So, what do we do when we wasted seed? I said, if you don't even know how many times you wasted seed, then you have to, instead of 84 fasts, each one of the fasts, You should give tzedakah equivalent to one meal. To one meal. And if you don't know how many times you've done it in your life, you should do it once a year. Eighty-four fasts times one meal. So let's say, for example, one meal is, I don't know, $10, $15, $20. How much does one meal cost? $10. Okay, $10. For $10, you could buy a meal? A sandwich. Okay, you could buy a nice sandwich for $10? Yeah. So 10 times 84, that's $840 tzedakah.

37:58For the year, we'll fix that wasting seed. But you have to do it every year. And in reality, if you did it a lot, you should do it more than once a year. But, again, this should be possible for somebody to do at least once a year. Once a year, you give the $840; that is one of the ways of rectifying wasting seed. However, if you give $840 a year, that's only for one time. No, no, if you don't, you're only doing it for that one year. Yes? I'm saying it's one year, one time. Technically, yes. 84 is for one time. Yes, yes. But they even said if somebody doesn't even know how to do it, how many times they've done it, the maximum they'll have to do these 84 fasts is three times. So if you did it three years, you're clean. Right. So $840, but this does not count as part of your ma'aser. This is not part of your other tzedakah. This is separate. This is purely teshuva. Another thing is that tefillah, when you're doing, not only the tefillah when you're doing an Amidah, and when you're doing vidui, to think about the times you wasted seed, not only that, but it's something called an Amidah. Okay.

39:20Think about it. There are certain parts of prayer that talk about sins. So you have to really think about it and tell Hashem you're sorry. When you're doing viduy, when you're doing tachanun, think about that. Think about the ways you've sinned. Do it slowly. Think about it. Say you're sorry. But also, there's something called hitbodedut. Hitbodedut is praying, but not praying with pre-written words—it's talking to Hashem in your own words. which you should be doing anyway, once a day for two minutes, for five minutes, for an hour, whatever time you have. During that time, think about the sin and be sorry for it. There are different parts of Tehillim to read, called Tikkun HaKlali. That's also good for it. And going to the mikveh. Go to the mikveh as often as you can. At least once a week. If you've wasted a lot of seed, you should definitely go once a week, if not more. But the biggest, biggest thing is, as part of the teshuva, is to stop it. Now, how do you stop it?

40:44Yeah, but you constantly have, it's like saying to a crackhead, stop taking drugs. He's not going to stop. How? Right, so what do you do? Okay, first and foremost, you have to clean your house of all the garbage that you have. All the magazines, all the movies, your television in general. Of course, internet. Television in general. If you have a hard time on the internet, there's an application that's free I can tell you about. I forgot what it's called, but I posted it on Facebook. There's an application for free to help you not go to terrible sites on the internet. Get rid of the magazines. Get rid of the movies. Even movies that don't have nudity, but they have attractive people. All movies. You shouldn't be watching that stuff. Newspapers, magazines, all that garbage that's going to constantly remind you of that world, you have to get rid of it. You have to watch your eyes. You can't look at every woman that moves. You want to have a successful marriage? You want to have Kedushah? You have to be holy because Hashem is holy. That's what He told us in the Torah. You have to be holy because I am holy. That's what He says. Am Yisrael, you're holy. You have to be holy. You can't look at every woman that moves.

42:04You have to look at the floor, look at the sky, look at something else. Stop looking at women. Guard your eyes. You know, you can't look at it on TV, and you definitely can't look at it on the street. If you don't guard your eyes, what's going to happen? Okay, you don't have the magazines, you don't have all this other stuff, but you're constantly looking at people at work. So what happens? You go home, you have one of these dreams, or you’re bored, which is the next thing. Make sure you're never in a situation where you're bored because Chazal say that boredom leads to sin. You sit there, you're bored, you have nothing to do, and that's what's going to happen. That's what's going to happen. That's what happens. That's real life. Chazal knew real life. Just because they were tzaddikim doesn't mean they just knew Torah. They knew everything. They knew the entire world. Boredom leads to sin. So, make sure that you have your schedule.

43:04Packed with stuff to do. You finish work, you have a shiur to go to. You have a book you're going to read. You have a shiur you're going to watch. You have stuff to do. Don't hang out in the bathroom a lot. Don't stay in the bathroom for a long time, because, again, you are there. You're there for a while. You're naked. It leads you to thoughts. Also, one thing, by the way, that Chazal said is that you're not even allowed to touch that part of your body. You're not even allowed to touch that part of your body. So what do you do if you want to go to the bathroom? You can use your sleeve or you can use a napkin. I'm serious. I know it's hard. I know it sounds crazy. I know it sounds ridiculous. But if someone has a problem... Oh, if you have a problem. If someone has a problem... They have to do whatever they can. And generally, you're not allowed to touch it anyway. That's not, that's not, it's an actual, you're not allowed to touch it. Yeah, you're not allowed to touch it. Unless you're obviously with your wife or something. But the point is that it's in general. Why? Because you're going to put, again, like I told you, put a fence around the fence. And make sure.

44:27Regardless of whether you're married, single, have a problem, don't have a problem, never, ever, ever, under any condition, waste seed. And do everything you can not to even look at it. There's really never a reason for you to look at your part. And for whatever reason or another, when you do, that's what happens. Don't look at it. It says here. Don't look at it. So when you're married... If you're intimate with your wife, it's different. If you're married or not married, you're still not allowed to use it. But you can't waste it outside of her. It always has to be inside of her. So if she's not ready for kids, the only thing you're allowed to use is birth control. Or these... What are they called? It's like a type of candle that she uses internally, which essentially kills the sperm. But there's also an oral pill, and there's something she uses in that part of the body. There are two methods that are allowed. However, I want to emphasize that it's not automatically allowed. You are obligated – the first mitzvah in the Torah is pru u'rvu. You are obligated to bring children into the world. Just because you don't feel like having children does not mean she's allowed to use birth control.

45:52There's only specific situations where a rabbi would tell you and the Torah would tell you that you're allowed not to have kids. If you don't have a boy and a girl, you have to continue having kids unless there's some type of major health problem, where a rabbi can say, okay, that's allowed not to have kids. But in general, if you don't have a boy and a girl, you have to continue having kids. Even if you have 15 girls, you still have to continue. And even if you have a boy and a girl, it still doesn't mean you can stop. You have to have permission to stop having kids. It's a very, very important mitzvah. Just because you don't feel like having more than two kids and a dog does not mean that the Torah allows you to not have more kids. So, again, the whole aspect of limiting birth is not as easy as it sounds, where one might say, "Oh no, she takes birth control and it's fine." No, there are only certain conditions under which a wife is allowed to limit birth and the husband is allowed to limit birth. And by the way, the Gemara actually says that even though it sounds to us, and even pretty much most people, that only men should be careful of wasting seed, the Gemara actually says women have to be careful of it too, because it's possible for them to even take seed out of their body, which means that even if the guy tried not wasting seed, she could waste his seed, and she's sinning. And even if she knows that he's actually going to sin, she shouldn't allow him to do it.

47:20She's part of the sin. So wasting seed, as you've heard for the last half hour or so, is a very, very serious sin. And what I told you is not even 1% of it. So Rabbi Nachman of Breslov, part of the information I got from him, part of it is from the Gemara, Zohar, and several other places. It's not all fun and games and walking, you know, and driving around in vans and dancing. The real Chassidus, the real Torah, the real, you know, Kedushah that he had, that's what he wrote about. He didn't write about, you know, going around in vans. That's actually, you know, desecrating his name, miskayen. People think it's just partying games. No, the Tzaddikim were real Tzaddikim for a reason. If you listen to the shiurim by Rabbi Arush... or Eliezer Berland, the leaders of the Breslov movement right now, you see that they talk serious business. They talk about serious Torah. They don't talk about dancing on tabletops. Serious tzaddikim, yes, you're supposed to be happy and so on, but what they wrote about, what they write about, this is what they write about.

48:43Why? Because this is the most important stuff in life. This brings, if we don't follow the Torah, it brings disaster to the world. When we follow the Torah, we have all the blessings in the world. Unfortunately, with the exception of two rabbis that I know of, Rabbi Mizrachi and Rabbi Alon Anava, no one in English that I know of, maybe somebody did, that I know of, no one in English has spoken about wasting seed. As they put it on YouTube. Maybe they spoke about it privately. Maybe they put it on YouTube, but I just never saw it. But I've looked. I've looked really, really hard. Nobody speaks about wasting seed, the significance of it, how bad it is, and so on. So in Hebrew, there's a few. But in English, it's very, very rare. And unfortunately, this is a sign of how weak our generation is. I don't even necessarily fault the rabbis. It's really because the crowd is so weak. The people of this generation are so weak that most people, by the time they hear the first five minutes of the wasting sefer, will probably shut off the lecture. If they survive this far, then they're serious. You guys survive this far, it means you're serious about Teshuvah. This is not easy stuff to hear. Same thing when we talk about Shabbat. But again, just like there are 80 blessings, there are 80 curses. We need to know both of them. We all do Teshuvah.

50:07Both the Jews and the non-Jews, the entire world, get closer to Hashem, bringing the Mashiach soon, and we are ready for Him. And, be'ezrat Hashem, I am seriously getting married. Does anybody have any questions? Baruch Adonai le'olam. Amen.